Crazy.S Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I never thought this would happen to me. Well my gf of 4 years broke up with me in Feb. Yeah I know that was a while ago. But we really didn't really stop seeing each other till May. Ever since the breakup I've been removing things that reminded me of her. I threw it all into a box. All her cards saying "i love you forever" and the other lies she wrote, went into the box. I practiced NC but that didn't go too well. Longest was probably was 1.5 week. Either she contacted me or I contacted her. Well last night she told me she's been dating this guy. I wasn't really surprised since she was always hanging out with him. I went on another rampage finding things to rid any memory of her. Man I really love her, but I told her I don't think I can be her friend right now. So this Box of Lies I have, what should I do with it? Do you guys have one too? Do you have another name for it?
Luz Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Yes , one of the 1st things I did once we were on the verge of breaking up was to put away all our pictures . Slowly I removed everything that would remind me of him , re-read all his love letters , cards , cherrished the memories an d them away . Try not to go through these letters and cards again because they will make you feel sad and angry . Remember , they were written and send to us at the times when the feelings were real . Things change and people change everyday . It's very sad when relationships don't work out as we had hoped , look at the reasons why we are not together anymore . You need to be stronger and distant yourself for a period of time to deal with an end , your strong emotions . Try to keep yourself busy with activities, working out , going to a movie , hanging out with friends , whatever it takes to keep your mind off her . Someday and hopefully soon , you suddenly realize that it's not that important anymore in the bigger picture of life .
kizik Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I put my own Box of Lies (though they were truths at the time) in my mom's basement over at her house. Maybe in 5 or 10 years I'll wanna look at it again.
bayouboi Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I did the same as kizik. Pics, letters, anything that reminded me of her I threw in some boxes and gave them to my mother to put away in her house for me. The thing I ask myself, however, is if all of these things meant nothing to her, why should/would they mean anything to me? But for some reason I can't bring myself to throw them away or destroy them.
kizik Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 They mean something to her, bayou. Besides, you're different from her, and you don't have to compete with her in every action. It's tempting to compare ourselves and our decisions and thoughts to our exes - or what we assume they must be thinking. There's never any way of knowing, though, so you just do what's best for you and what makes sense.
LikeCharlotte Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 So this Box of Lies I have, what should I do with it? Do you guys have one too? Do you have another name for it?Yeah, garbage. I threw it all away. I've never felt that way before so I'm not sure if its good or bad. I called that "box of lies" garbage. I didn't burn it or get crazy and pine before I threw it all away. I simply opened the garbage and dumped. I also removed him from social network sites, deleted his screen names, phone number (and I needed it once) and anything else I had. I have one single solitary thing; a sticker. I'll probably forget why I have it in a year and toss that too.
Peter_pan Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 yep its all in a suitcase in my garage, i was close to burning it all, recording the burning and sending her the video.... me and my GF did the whole FWB for 2 months, but then she had moved on to this new guy. going out to all night parties etc. wouldnt see her untill 3 4 pm the next day. then she would go off to work, where of course he was.
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