Got revenge on my cheating BF and now I feel terrible! What to do?

July 30, 2003

I found out that my BF was cheating on me. Needless to say, I broke up with him immediately. I was so furious. I kept thinking about all the lies and betrayal and the more I thought about it, the more I just really wanted to get revenge.

I still had a key to his house that I just forgot to give him back. So one night when I knew he was going to be at work, I snuck into his house and did several henious things:

- I emptied all his toothpaste and replaced the tube with hemmorhoid cream.

- I rubbed his toothbrush around his toilet bowl (which he only cleans like once a year)

- I poured out half of his shampoo and replaced it with peroxide.

- I replaced his cologne with vinegar (and it was very expensive cologne)

- I broke a pen in half and let the black ink seep onto his very expensive leather shoes.

- I put vaseline on all his door handles.

- I unplugged his refridgerator.

- I turned on every electrical thing in the house, and every light and turned the air conditioner down to 50.

- I emptied his box of cereal (his favorite breakfast food) and replaced it with his cat's used litter (turds and all)

I think that's all I did. I was just so incredibly furious that I just kept thinking up devilish ideas to make his life hell like he had made mine.

I knew he would know that I did it, but I haven't heard from him and it's been almost a week now. I am just wondering if he really did know it was me. But knowing him, he would have called and bitched me out, but I haven't heard a word from him.

I am starting to feel really guilty about it. I know that was really mean and devilish, but he broke myheart. Noone had ever hurt me like that. I usually would never react that way, but something just came over me. It's like my devil side rose up in me.

I really feel bad though, and I don't know if I should call him and apologize or just let it be.

Can anyone offer some advice. I really am not a bad person, it's just that I was planning on marrying this man. He shattered my heart.

Help if you can, please. Thanks

July 30, 2003

I am just wondering if he really did know it was me.

Oh, he knows it was you. He definitely knows it was you. I suspect he didn't call to bitch you out because he now thinks you are cuckoo.

I am starting to feel really guilty about it.

I can't imagine why...

He shattered my heart.

I really can't believe you did all these things to him. Don't even bother apologizing to him--if he has any brains he will want to have nothing to do with you after this. I'm sorry he hurt you, but the best thing to have done would have been to keep your dignity. So now? Just move on and forget about it. Let it be.

July 30, 2003

wow you really were mad at this guy!!! Normally I would say to go and explain yourself followed by an apoligy, but maybe you shouldnt go near him. He might also be so angry he will react to you in a way that will make you feel worse. HI I am maklea btw:)

July 30, 2003

YOU WRITE: "- I emptied all his toothpaste and replaced the tube with hemmorhoid cream."

How did you get that stuff in the tube of toothpaste. I have never been able to do that. I know that Preparation H is great for cleaning teeth. Does your ex have hemmoroids?

Today will be my happiest in a long time because I don't date a lady with the criminal anger you have. What you did is dangerous and punishable by law. Statute of limitations in most states is two years...so be nice to your ex, he has two years to bring charges. I promise you, there's enough evidence to convict...even if he doesn't discover your post above.

July 30, 2003

Well, you certainly are imaginative! Maybe you could work for the CIA.

July 31, 2003

You want to know what to do? Grow up. You learned a lesson that you could have learned by reading - that revenge is never worth it. It just makes you as bad a person as the person you get revenge on. Plus, you did things which could have harmed him and you vandalized his possessions.

Maybe you could have sent a bouquet of black roses but to do what you did was horrible. Wise up and pray he doesn't send you to jail. Next time, if a guy is rotten to you, thank your lucky stars you found out before you married him and move on.

August 1, 2003

Well, I laughed like hell when I read what you did. Of course, it's 3 AM and I've been drinking too much Mountain Dew...At the very least, congratulations on being so imaginative. Now if you could do something constructive with that imagination you might be a millionaire someday. And don't feel guilty. He CHEATED on you.

August 1, 2003

Another person's actions should not have that much influence on the choices that one makes. I don't find these actions clever or brave at all - facing the pain of cheating with integrity would take a lot more courage and be a lot less cliche' than these banal pranks.

Please see a counselor - it is clear you are in pain and want help. These are dysfunctional reactions.

August 1, 2003

i personally think everyone is exagerating - i really don't think it was THAT big deal, i thought it was funny.

obviously i don't think many people would actually do what you did on a cool head, but it's not like you burnt all his clothes or actually destroyed anything he couldn't easily replace. the most he'll get from all of this is maybe a tummy ache, but i think because he knows someone has been there, he'll probably be careful of everything in that house before he uses it.

and i think the reason he hasn't got in touch is because he feels guilty and knows he deserved it! honestly don't worry.

when you invest time into a relationship (you said you wanted to marry the him for God's sake, it wasn't like a fling), and you trust that person, you expect them to be the last person on earth to cause you pain. it's terribly devastating when they do, and your reaction (though rather odd) is understandable.

Unfortunately, i have cheated before (when i was younger) and i don't want to sound hypocritical, but i have also been cheated on and i know what it feels like. i am however very glad that my exs didn't do anything like that to me

and by the way, i don't think you should call him. leave it, get on with your life. hopefully you'll find a more trustworthy boyfriend next time.

December 21, 2006

Don't feel guilty - he deserved everything he got! I've rubbed my boyfriends toothbrush around the toilet many times, makes you feel good doesn't it? Women rule - men watch out!!!!

December 22, 2006

As funny as that was, you'd better hope he doesn't slap a lawsuit on you for it, because you totally vandalized his house.

December 22, 2006

thanks for telling me. in the future, i will be sure to place hidden cameras through out the house so i can black mail the girl who does this to me. either she does what i want or i report to the police.

December 22, 2006

this is a classic!!! You should submit this to a sitcom.

Cat turds in the cereal........ well done.

Now yeah you got a little out of control, but hell it is understandable in a way. I can see why you could be so upset. A few cat turds in a cereal box are not nearly as threatening as a cheater bringing home the herpes or who knows what to you.

Your best bet is to now leave the guy alone. It's over.

Hell maybe he thinks any one of his "girls" did this to him..... but for your own good -stay away from him.

December 22, 2006

Yeah.. if someone did that to me I definitely would not want to get back with them. He definitely thinks you are loco. How would you react if he had done that to you? If y'all got back together I'm sure that would be a lovely story to tell the friends.

"Hunny tell them what happened after I cheated on you"

"No babe, you tell it so much better than I do."

"Okay well she still had a key to my apt and did all these crazy things... etc"

Doesn't really fit together. You should definitely stay away

December 22, 2006

Yeah.. if someone did that to me I definitely would not want to get back with them. He definitely thinks you are loco. How would you react if he had done that to you? If y'all got back together I'm sure that would be a lovely story to tell the friends.

"Hunny tell them what happened after I cheated on you"
"No babe, you tell it so much better than I do."
"Okay well she still had a key to my apt and did all these crazy things... etc"

Doesn't really fit together. You should definitely stay away

JEBUS PEOPLE LOOK AT IT THIS WAY she loved this guy so much she did all those things when he screwed up. i would rather find cat turd in my ceral than nothing at all - that';s a sign of LOVE [lol] and that my sweetie really cared. and that would be nothing compared to the delusion i had - now that's a story i'll be telling over christmas to aunt betty while sipping on eggnog and eating fruit cake [puke]

December 22, 2006

That's not a sign of love. That's a sign of anger and craziness. That is not a healthy way to handle love or anger. You don't go vandalize someone's property because you "love" them.

December 22, 2006

I hate "women" like you. My ex-boyfriend falsely accused me of having keyed his car -- I don't know for sure if someone damaged his car or not, but he accused me of it and may really believe that a woman could do that to him because evil people like you give grieving women like me a bad name.

December 22, 2006

ps... this thread is 3 years old!

December 22, 2006

Didn't notice that. Looks like an anonymous poster resurrected it.

December 23, 2006

I found out that my BF was cheating on me. Needless to say, I broke up with him immediately. I was so furious. I kept thinking about all the lies and betrayal and the more I thought about it, the more I just really wanted to get revenge.

I still had a key to his house that I just forgot to give him back. So one night when I knew he was going to be at work, I snuck into his house and did several henious things:

- I emptied all his toothpaste and replaced the tube with hemmorhoid cream.
- I rubbed his toothbrush around his toilet bowl (which he only cleans like once a year)
- I poured out half of his shampoo and replaced it with peroxide.
- I replaced his cologne with vinegar (and it was very expensive cologne)
- I broke a pen in half and let the black ink seep onto his very expensive leather shoes.
- I put vaseline on all his door handles.
- I unplugged his refridgerator.
- I turned on every electrical thing in the house, and every light and turned the air conditioner down to 50.
- I emptied his box of cereal (his favorite breakfast food) and replaced it with his cat's used litter (turds and all)

I LOL-ed

Seriously, I don't think you were unreasonable. You did a lot of little annoying things, not anything like destroying his car, stealing serious amounts of money, burning his house down or doing a Bobbit. If I were a guy and cheated on a woman and we had a really serious thing going, then I'd pretty much take it on the chin and not complain if she reacted like you did. Then again, I'm a pretty jealous/revenge-driven person when it comes to that kind of thing. If I was a woman in your shoes I'd probably go further!

December 23, 2006

Yeah.. if someone did that to me I definitely would not want to get back with them. He definitely thinks you are loco. How would you react if he had done that to you? If y'all got back together I'm sure that would be a lovely story to tell the friends.

"Hunny tell them what happened after I cheated on you"
"No babe, you tell it so much better than I do."
"Okay well she still had a key to my apt and did all these crazy things... etc"

Doesn't really fit together. You should definitely stay away

I don't agree. If I was the guy there, and my gf (well, ex-gf I guess) went postal like that, in a way it would show at least she had genuinely strong feelings to get that hurt and go that psycho. I'd have more respect for someone who did that and went postal than for someone who just sucked it up, stayed quiet, and bitched about it to her best friend. And yeah, it *would* be a great story to tell in years to come. I know my friends would laugh about it.

Let's face it, if everyone did that to cheaters, there'd be a lot less cheating in the world.

December 23, 2006

This thread is 3 years old? Thats a shame... My advice at the time would have been to blame what she did on a ghost

December 23, 2006

Well, I guess I can be a little, fun crazy....if that is your flavor.

I look back on some of my breakups and laugh. For a select wonderful few I have left...an impression. Mild to moderate, but ever sooo....

I think what she did was....not cool. It could have been 'served' much better, but this 'unfortuante' experience and dealing with it comes with practice.

Gosh, I have thought about sooo many things to do. Plotting it is fun, doing it is another. Then there is the guilt of acting, mixed with the remorse of actually following through.

I once sent someone a card with Jesus on the front...with the halo...and all the glory of Christ in art around him...(I think this is who he thought he was)...anyway on the front it said....Jesus loves you....inside...but the rest of us think you are an a**hole. Needless to say I never heard from him again and that was the plan.

Recently I wanted sooo bad to send my recent ex a card that said on the front ...I will love you til the cows come home....on the inside....picture of a big cow's face and the word 'sorry'. (btw you can get this by googling hallmark rejection ideas). A close friend though reminded me that I had already done something similiar and I do like to be original.

What I guess I am getting at is that breaking up just stinks. It hurts and how you deal with that hurt is how you deal with it. I have taken the high road, and the lowish road and plotted a course that would lead me straight to HE double hockey sticks. Fortunately my personal filter keeps that bad wolf at bay. I have never gone into the tunnel of doom with revenge, but I have plotted it, that I will admit. I have seen others do it and no good comes of it. That is what some friends are for, learning what not to do.

You get sad, get mad (you get even....or let it go). You eventually get over it and move on to....the next break up? What kind of thinking is that? Checking myself...

However, I did have a funny thought that I would never (almost never) actually do it... Besides for me that is looking ahead. Again, I am a pessimest and optimist at the same time.

Wouldn't it be funny crazy to put a stuffed animal of a bunny in a pot on the ex's stove...... yea.....that is how to return a key the a cheating b'turd.

Gosh, I almost feel sorry for my next ex boyfriend....

Merry Christmas

December 23, 2006

I found out that my BF was cheating on me. Needless to say, I broke up with him immediately. I was so furious. I kept thinking about all the lies and betrayal and the more I thought about it, the more I just really wanted to get revenge.

I still had a key to his house that I just forgot to give him back. So one night when I knew he was going to be at work, I snuck into his house and did several henious things:

I think one of the craziest revenge stories I've ever heard happened quite a few years ago to a co-worker of my ex-husband.

This co-worker was quite a ladies' man....a MARRIED ladies' man. His wife, according to my then-husband, was a very sweet woman. Soft spoken, domestic, took care of her family, kinda mousy and humble.

Well, somehow she found out her hubby was busy picking up on other women at a bar the guys hung out in after work. So, she arrived at the bar before the "guys" got there and sat at a table in a dark corner behind a fake fiscus tree and waited for her hubby and friends to show up. He did, on time...and immediately began hitting on the women there. According to my ex, the drunker this guy got the more "handsy" he got with the women. Then he found one he zeroed in on and proceded to make out heavily with this woman at the bar...his hands on every part of her body.

The wife sat quietly behind her tree and watched this. The guys, and her husband, then left the bar. She left right after them, managed to get home before her cheating hubby and got busy in the kitchen as though nothing had happened.

Cheating hubby comes home, staggers in the door, gives her a kiss, takes a shower then sits down for dinner. The wife never once let on what she saw and he was completely unprepared for what was coming.

They went to bed and he immediately passed out. When he did, she got a tube of SuperGlue and glued his "willy" to his abdomen and then left the house and him.

He woke up with "willy" glued to his stomach, which, of course, made it almost impossible for him to urinate and had to go to the ER to get willy UNGLUED from his stomach. In fact, it took minor surgery to do it...and a WHOLE LOTTA humiliation for him!

I about laughed myself sick when I heard this. I tell ya...women can be wicked when they're scorned.

Beware, men! lol....

~T~

December 23, 2006

To be honest, the guy cheated on you which makes him out-of-line and a dirty dog.

To do what you did was pretty bad but it is all too easy to get caught up with things. I would just avoid contact and deny everything if asked!

That was quite a comprehensive list though;)

Although you were hurt what you did imo was innapropriate and a bit crazy. Best not to try that with someone else !!

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