justaguy87 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 So here's my problem... My girlfriend and I have been dating for the last 2 1/2 years and have been living together for the last 2 of those years. I will be the first to admit that for the last 1 our relationship hasn't been the best. It was full of constant fighting, me being distant and not really understanding what she was feeling. Now keep in mind that I have never stopped loving her its just at the time I was suffering from anxiety and depression because of my mothers acholism. All of sudden two weeks ago she told me she was going to be moving an hour away to another city for school. Her reasoning was because she needed to get her life in order (she's been messing up with school her) and because of us being so down in the dumps for so long. After hearing this I freaked and didnt know what to do. I want her be happy and for last two weeks we have been great and I couldn't be happier. We have both agreed to stay together and try to make this relationship work (eventhough she expected this to end after she moved because its been so good now we both wanna be together) my question is what should I do. Last time I was in a long distance relationship the girl ended up cheating on me multiple times and broke my heart. She says that she won't do this to me but recently has been talking about how there are no gaurantees that we will stay together saying we both could meet new people (keep in mind that she seems more scared of this than I am) so what do I do?
D-Lish Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 So here's my problem... My girlfriend and I have been dating for the last 2 1/2 years and have been living together for the last 2 of those years. I will be the first to admit that for the last 1 our relationship hasn't been the best. It was full of constant fighting, me being distant and not really understanding what she was feeling. Now keep in mind that I have never stopped loving her its just at the time I was suffering from anxiety and depression because of my mothers acholism. All of sudden two weeks ago she told me she was going to be moving an hour away to another city for school. Her reasoning was because she needed to get her life in order (she's been messing up with school her) and because of us being so down in the dumps for so long. After hearing this I freaked and didnt know what to do. I want her be happy and for last two weeks we have been great and I couldn't be happier. We have both agreed to stay together and try to make this relationship work (eventhough she expected this to end after she moved because its been so good now we both wanna be together) my question is what should I do. Last time I was in a long distance relationship the girl ended up cheating on me multiple times and broke my heart. She says that she won't do this to me but recently has been talking about how there are no gaurantees that we will stay together saying we both could meet new people (keep in mind that she seems more scared of this than I am) so what do I do? I think you really have to go with the flow and see where things go. She is right- there are no guarantees in life. If you guys have been fighting a lot and the last year has been somewhat tumultuous, then it's not a bad thing to take some time to experience life apart. Just keep in mind that your current gf is not the same girl as your ex that cheated- so you can't base your fears that your current gf will cheat just because your ex did. This is a different girl, different relationship. If things have been good since this decision was made, that might have something to do with the fact that both of you feel that some pressure has been lifted from the relationship. Maybe you're both feeling some relief about making this change.
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