kiraknight Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I am in college. Awhile back, I liked this guy and we were friends. He is extremely nice, but he has never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl and we're both 20. He found out I liked him and he did show interest in me and that maybe he did like me but he is shy. Im pretty sure it wasnt me overanalyzing. I highly doubt a guy with no experience with girls would play games like that but tell me if Im wrong. I wont go into detail with what he did because it will take up too much space. He hadnt known for very long, a few weeks before his friends meddled in the situation and ruined it, because they are very immature. (this happened after a night where he got tipsy and flirted with me and then left me voicemails saying "hope you got back to your room OK" and Imed me the next morning. However, he never told his buddies about the 2nd part and I know for a fact he doesnt do this with all his other girl-friends that get tipsy.) Basically, it ended up with me ignoring them all cause I was sick of their immaturity. I stopped talking to him completely as well. He noticed and asked mutual friends and once at a party later was a bit overly nice to me. I decided to email him awhile ago to say I was sorry for ignoring him (I realized I shouldnt have ignored him just because I found out through his friends that he didnt like me) and that it wasnt really anything against him, but his friends were rude to me. He sent me this message: Hi. I'm glad you sent a note. I knew that you had liked me, but I wanted to keep it quiet to avoid people getting hurt. I know Nick blew it - which I heard he did very rudely, so I apologize for that. I never had any intention of not being friends, and I never had any issues with you. I was mostly very angry because people were saying things about my friends and myself that weren't true - which I imagine is how you felt. This was all a huge misunderstanding and I'm sorry that you did not get your information straight from me. Thank you for sending your message - it takes a lot to send a note like that. Everything in this message I was fully expecting him to say, but he said "I wanted to keep it quiet to avoid people getting hurt" which Im confused by. The only person who stood to get hurt was me, and he didnt say "I didnt want to hurt you" which makes so much more sense.
Ronni_W Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 , but he said "I wanted to keep it quiet to avoid people getting hurt"... The only person who stood to get hurt was me, From HIS perspective, there could have been other people who might have also gotten 'hurt' in whatever fall-out may have ensued -- that can easily happen when a bunch of people are acting immaturely, as you say was going on. In making his decision on how to act/react, he looked at things from a much broader perspective that just one person (you) -- my guess is he made a very mature decision, especially given his immature friends. From his reply, he isn't showing that he has a deeper feeling or concern about any part of this particular matter.
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