sid3 Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 My gf has recently started spending alot of time ie; weekends, holidays and such with a new female coworker. I am all for my gf having friends and spending time with them. my problem is that she is never available for me because she is now busy with her new friend. I am wondering why a married woman would have so much time to spend with a single girl, who she is aware has a bf (me). I think she is a bad influence on her, I have noticed my gf's atittude change and the way she treats me. This has all come about since this new coworker came into the picture qbout five weeks ago. What can I do?
Ronni_W Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Figure out what YOU want from your relationship, in terms of quantity of time and quality of activities, and find out if your g/f is willing and able to meet your relationship desires and expectations. It's perfectly acceptable and appropriate to set your own boundaries around how you want your romantic partner AND platonic friends to treat you. If your requests are reasonable but the other can't make the effort, it is time for YOU to decide whether or not you want to be part of that. This has nothing to do with the new friend - her reasons and intentions for hanging out with your g/f are completely irrelevant to YOUR needs and desires, and to whether your g/f is able to commit to being an active participant in her relationship with you. As it stands now (based on your post), for all intents and purposes, you two have a "relationship" in name only. If you feel that you deserve more, it is up to you to ask for it, and then make a decision based on whether or not you will get it. Again, this all assumes that you and your g/f had a positive, mutually supportive relationship to begin with.
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