theobserver Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Good job on telling him what happened it's nice to see someone woman-up. If you indeed love this man give him some time to get his head straight. He's of course might have a few outbursts I'm sure you can accept that a few F's here and there are natural. He might also be saving this for in person expect a lot of "Why? how could you do this?" etc etc this should last a short period. However if he and you obviously are going to work through this to regain the trust he will not be acting abusive towards you or manipulate you to a degree that it's controlling If it gets to that point then get out of the relationship asap. At the same time I hope he does not go into doormat mode >< alot of men seem to do this after their partner cheats and then they become a complete turn off to their partner. If he want's to break up then that's his choice accept it and know you told the truth and can also walk away and just take the experience with you and try not to repeat the negatives.
SueBee3490 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I have alot of respect for you too Katie for telling him. As others have said, that means alot. I wish my bf would have told me about his cheating instead of hiding it and me finding out. We have have had a different ending to our relationship. Good luck
ahmad nassem Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 keep it to yourself and never do it again . it will only ruin everything if you tell him .
mental_traveller Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 well guys, i told him, i couldnt not really. he got so upset that felt like scum..(yes...even worse than i felt before). now he says we will talk when he gets back and he is being very dissmissive on the phone now. there is a part of me that feels better for it tho...al be it a very small part. i guess i deserve it. Good on you, at least you didn't compound your wrong by lying too. In the long run it's far better that you told the truth - he can now decide if he wants to stay or not, and knows the score. Obviously he's upset, wouldn't you be? Not all relationships are meant to be, and usually if someone cheats, there's a reason.
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