melodymatters Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 I did a copy and paste job, so sorry if it comes out formatted incorrectly. Mel I've been feeling so horrible that I haven't been treating you the way you deserve to be treated. I have a deep desire to, but for some reason i just feel so emotionally drained. My emotional energy just seems to be totally MIA. This person's comments seem to make some sense, actually quite a lot of sense. I've been scared to try and talk to you about this for fear you'd tell me to get lost or that you'd think I was trying to tell you I wanted to chose to try with Lisa again (which isn't the case). So I've been trying to fake my full emotional energy level, so I wouldn't lose you. But you do deserve to have my full attention and energy. I do love you, but you deserve the full me, not some emotionally exhausted facsimile of me. And it would be a horrible start to what might be an otherwise wonderful relationship. It would be nice to talk to you more about this tomorrow in person if you want. I had a nice time with my family. Got out much later than I had wanted, but it was really wonderful to be able to spend so much time with them. I hope you're having a good evening Mere. Sorry it took me so long to write you back today.. Love, "Mr. LL"
Author melodymatters Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 Oh, and the person he is referring to, is upsetnhurt's comment on my last thread. i sent it too him and told him i found it very insightful
johan Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 Whether he's accurate with his self-assessment or whether he's just trying to reason out why he's not interested, the bottom line is the same. He'd prefer for some reason not to start a relationship. My rule is that it's better to take people at their word as much as possible, particularly when the outcome is the same whether they are being honest or not. Sorry if this frustrates you. I guess because you haven't actually started a relationship with him you are lucky to not be more invested. And I don't know the back story you referenced in the other thread.
Author melodymatters Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Thank you Johan. Appreciate having the robot back; I needed a friendly face;) Don't worry about me, I don't cope with chick mechanisms ( hagen daz, chick flicks, and a box of kleenex ) I'm drinking too much, and very much enjoying the attentions of a much younger gentleman caller
Crestfallen_KH Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Hmm...well, I've been keeping up with your threads, Mel, so here's my take on it. I DO think he's being sincere. He has been through a lot with the whole Lisa debacle (and her going crazy hasn't helped, I'm sure) and it really seems like he respects you and doesn't want to hurt you. So, he's being honest that he can't be "100% there" which, I think, is very self-aware of him. It's obviously very brave of him to admit this to you, knowing that you might read into it or otherwise ditch him. I would take him at his word on this - he can't devote the time, attention, etc. to you (that you may or may not even want at this point) so I'd just play it cool. Take him at his word, and keep seeing those young gentlemen callers while those of us who have temporarily sworn off dating writhe in jealousy.
mortensorchid Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 He won't devote the time now, nor will he later. He'll find some excuse to leave. Best just to move on.
Author melodymatters Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Well, the good news is, this whole process has helped me become very much over him. So, thanks for being here folks. PLUS: my ex h is getting remarried tomorrow, but today, he and i and his bride to be, had a very,very cool talk. .....and, once i bought the kid an ice cream it was smoooooooth sailin' :bunny::bunny::bunny: .
Trialbyfire Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 So you're not going to talk about it with him, mel?
Author melodymatters Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Nah, why bother ? I have my answer, and that's what counts. ....AND, ex h and his SO and I are cool. So, it's all good... love you
Trialbyfire Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Got it. ((hugs)) Glad to hear that things worked out with your ever expanding family! Heart you back darling.
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