eliksir Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 I dunno why but i never had any good friend, whom i could trust or with whom i could say anything and everything, anyone who would share their joys and vows... etc. Some say that i am very silent and dont mingle with people and that i'm some kinda weirdo (lot of people say that) and stuff like that. noone likes me. no one cares for me. sometimes i feel like hanging myself.
Pedigree Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Pick a group of people you trust then cut down the distance you normally put. It's definitely important to have an "inner circle" so to speak even if you're like me, someone who doesn't really trust people.
myfatsym Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Find the people like you. There are more silent wierd people out there than you might think . If you are having trouble breaking the ice, just doing something nice for someone like holding the door and picking something up for them can make them notice you. Also make sure that you present good body language. That can often turn people away from you. Try to smile and make eye contact.
ShadowU12345 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Well, first of all, hanging yourself is not the way to go. Second, it seems like you might be somewhat shy, and I've sorta had your problem too for the last 5 years through high school. I never talked to anyone and no one even really knows that I exist today because I'm somewhat anti-social, and I've cut myself from the outside world by choice. It's not all that hard to find someone who you can trust and share your innermost thoughts and feelings with. Find some friends that you share very common interests with and try to mingle with them. Just keep working at it and build a trust-social circle with them. There are many other people out there who feel just the same way you do, find these people and become friends with them if possible. What do you have to lose, you can't lose anyone, but you can still gain them.
Zal2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I feel the way you do. This weekend I came close to doing something drastic because the lonliness is so great. I have an appointment with the pastor counsellor at the church I attend. I am also trying to pray my way through this depression/lonliness/feeling horrible. I hope you will find comfort somewhere. I wish life could be different.
Author eliksir Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 thanks for your suggestions but i've been trying those for some time and i haven't come up with a solution yet. i'm soooooo lonely all the time
lovestruck818 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I dunno why but i never had any good friend, whom i could trust or with whom i could say anything and everything, anyone who would share their joys and vows... etc. Some say that i am very silent and dont mingle with people and that i'm some kinda weirdo (lot of people say that) and stuff like that. noone likes me. no one cares for me. sometimes i feel like hanging myself. I like you!
Author eliksir Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 lol thanks anyway. cheered me up. atleast for now
Beaches Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Ok not having any friends can be fixed...However hanging yourself, not so easy to fix. Everyone has a hard time finding someone they trust, heck I'm going through it right now. What you have to remeber is to be true to yourself. If someone thinks you're weird that's it's obvious they don't want to take the time to get to know you...so why bother. If you do have a problem being social you have to slowly try and put yourself out there. I don't mean be an open book to the first person you meet but see what music they like, there favorite restaurant...things like that. If you don't give the chance for people to get to know you how are you going to get to know others.
vintagecat Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I feel for you. Unfortunately it feels terrible thinking that you don't have good friends or someone to hang with. A few things to ask yourself: Did you recently move, graduate from school, change jobs or any other large change that might affect your social circle? Have you ever had good friends and now you don't or have you always had trouble making friends? Maybe some insight will come of asking yourself some questions. I mention it because I have similar issues. I have had a very few good "soul" friends over the years and now all of them are gone, died, or moved away and our contact has changed from a lot to a little or none with the folks that have passed away. Fortunately I'm married to a wonderful person who is my best friend but I know how you feel. It seems odd not to have girlfriends but I then perceive that you are probably male so I'm the other side of the coin. Folks are so busy working and then actively recreating that they seem to have no time to add to their list of friends. I don't understand that of course because if I meet someone that I find interesting I make time to be with them but maybe I'm unusual too. And I think making friends is an art or talent. Some have it in spades and others, the shy, the cautious, the introspective, those with self worth or identity issues, not so much. Doesn't make you a bad person, just friendship impaired. Best of luck to you. Keep in touch here when you feel down.
Nite Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 thanks for your suggestions but i've been trying those for some time and i haven't come up with a solution yet. i'm soooooo lonely all the time Loneliness can be a time for getting to know yourself better. It appears that you spend your time alone dwelling on the fact that you're alone, rather than making the effort to explore your own interior world. All the world is hustle and bustle, permeating with distraction. Loneliness can be the opportunity for you to develop your own voice of reason amid the sea of chaos.
Ally Boo Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 As Rob Thomas' song says you "don't wanna be lonely no more" and that's the first step. The next step is just finding people who are cool to you and slowly interact with them. Now that I think about it, I actually have done the same thing- had NO friends, but now I can say I have a circle of them that I can go to if I need them. Now, I also know someone who thinks having friends is pointless. That it's too much effort to keep friends. He is friendly to everyone, but keeps very few people close...and by few I mean like maybe 2 people (including family) and he's completely happy that way. Everyone is different.
Suiyobi Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I dunno why but i never had any good friend, whom i could trust or with whom i could say anything and everything, anyone who would share their joys and vows... etc. Some say that i am very silent and dont mingle with people and that i'm some kinda weirdo (lot of people say that) and stuff like that. noone likes me. no one cares for me. sometimes i feel like hanging myself. It's okay to be an introvert (to a certain extent) but what's important is that you should appear approachable. You'll meet more people this way, and in turn, eventually become friends with some (if not all) of them. Also, remember it's about quality not quantity, so if you only end up with having a few friends, then that's perfectly fine, so long as you realize these friends are those who you can share everything under the sun with them.
Author eliksir Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 thanks for all your suggestions. even though i really havent followed any of them, i dont feel lonely anymore. i guess i got used to being lonely.
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