CHANTRESS Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 If you contacted a an ex...or a girl what would be more effective in driving you crazy or want her more? Ignoring your attempts? Her not contacting you back for days, or contacting you right away?? Thx
northstar1 Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 If you contacted a an ex...or a girl what would be more effective in driving you crazy or want her more? Ignoring your attempts? Her not contacting you back for days, or contacting you right away?? Thx Well, the mere attempt to get in touch is putting yourself in a very vulnerable position. All are really things that can drive you crazy - the only thing that wouldn't would be if they responded back with "I made a mistake, or I want you back" etc (and even that comes with it's own issues) - everything else is just pure self torture.
sid3 Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 So basically you are asking what to do to drive a guy crazy? If I've understood your post correctly, then that is sad. Why would you seek ways to emotionally abuse another person. It's really qiute simple. Be honest with people. Don't play games. I'm sorry and I miss you means little if the words aren't backed up with action. There is never any discussion of a third chance. It never happens. My advice would be to tread lightly, you may find yourself tangled in the web you weave. Everybody has their threshold for pain and disrespect, there comes a point where enough is enough.
Author CHANTRESS Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 Thx North. I asked this question because it seems like the coping section is filled with more guys than girls, at least right now..and most are wanting contact with their X's. Anyway, I am trying to end an affair with a MM. I am trying to be strong but it gets hard when he contacts me. He's being selfish because he wants me in his life but yet he won't change his situation. I want to move on. I don't want him to even leave his marriage, and if he does it has to be for his own reasons...not for me.We have fought so much about this so at this point there is nothing left to say. I know all talking does is keep me stuck. Maybe my silence will finally make him realize I am serious. What do you think?
Author CHANTRESS Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 Sid, I guess my post did come across as "game playing". I didn't intend it that way. Sorry.
northstar1 Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 Thx North. I asked this question because it seems like the coping section is filled with more guys than girls, at least right now..and most are wanting contact with their X's. Anyway, I am trying to end an affair with a MM. I am trying to be strong but it gets hard when he contacts me. He's being selfish because he wants me in his life but yet he won't change his situation. I want to move on. I don't want him to even leave his marriage, and if he does it has to be for his own reasons...not for me.We have fought so much about this so at this point there is nothing left to say. I know all talking does is keep me stuck. Maybe my silence will finally make him realize I am serious. What do you think? Well, that's a tough one. Your silence/NC should be for you to move on, not to send him signals on how serious you are. I think you realize that your situation is a pretty difficult one at best.
Author CHANTRESS Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 Yeah....I told him basically I am done with him Friday.... So he sends me an email last night, basically saying he cares a great deal for me.. balh blah blah. We have fought a lot the last few months because I am sick of being PLAN B. He expects me to just stick around and be ok with it. I am just sick of fighting. He has a wife to fight with.I deserve better.
northstar1 Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 Yeah....I told him basically I am done with him Friday.... So he sends me an email last night, basically saying he cares a great deal for me.. balh blah blah. We have fought a lot the last few months because I am sick of being PLAN B. He expects me to just stick around and be ok with it. I am just sick of fighting. He has a wife to fight with.I deserve better. Yes, you do. So cut off contact and get on with your life to find something better
Author CHANTRESS Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 I am trying. It is not easy though. He has been in my life for over three years, so it's like a real breakup
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