New to LDR - long

[Noein]

*backround*

 

I was the kind of guy who needed physical contact in a relationship, and didn't believe in LDR. That is until i met someone through a game oddly enough. A few months ago i met a woman through a game we played. We had friendly conversations joked about things and basically just enjoyed ourselves. Approx 3 -4 weeks ago I realized we had sooo much in common it was almost sickening, and the more personal information i found out about her the more i got attached.

 

It was also around this time that she gave me her phone number. Since that day we have called each other every night, talking as short as 20-30min all the way to up to 6 hours even talking until we both fell asleep.

 

Never have i felt so attached to someone even in my relationship of 2 years. I wake up thinking about her, and i go to sleep dreaming of her.

 

*questions*

 

So me being curious ive looked into LDR's just to kind of get an idea of things that we can do together which is what led me to this forum.

 

I guess im just curious if any of you with past experience have any advice. Be it activities , ideas, or anything to help with the distance gap *approx 800miles* we are both college students and being able to visit each other is out of the question currently as far as finance goes although i would in a heartbeat if i were able.

 

Also when i don't hear from her for long periods of time (12 hours or so. not really that long) My stomache feels like its in knotts from missing her. I have never even missed my mother or best friend as much as i miss her, and its not even for a day! Is there anyone else that feels the same way? Every time i think of the situation i think of myself as crazy, but i always want more of her. I have even turned down women that flirt with me since i started talking to her, because when they do i only think of her =/

[lovesick1]

My last relationship was like that dude. Like you, we talked for hours every night on the phone, but didn't get to see each other every day. I would go nuts sitting in school, my gf was at another high school, wishing that we could go to the same school and see each other all the time. It is hard to deal with, I know. But what you have to do is get out and do other things when your not with her. If you don't, you will develop such a strong attachment to your girlfriend that when you aren't with her you go nuts, and it sounds like that's what's happening to you! Go hang out with some of your friends, guys, girls, whoever. You have to do something to take your mind off of her. That will make the time pass faster. My best friend and I both got into our first serious relationship at about the same time in high school so we had each other to turn to when we were feeling lovesick.

 

Look at my screen name, lovesick1, I created this back last summer when she was gone for about 2 months and I could not see her at all! This was right in the middle of this major attachment you are talking about having with your girl. Every day it ripped holes in my heart and I had the absolute worst summer of my life because I sat inside moping and wishing she was back home with me. Had I gotten myself involved with something or some friends, it would have made those 2 months fly by and before I knew it she would be back in my arms again!

[Noein]

Ty for your response. The thing is i've still been going out with friends nearly every day, working, and doing the things i have normally done. It's just every time i do something fun i wish she was there =/ and the knots in my stomach seem to tighten. I have never felt this way about anyone let alone someone i have never met in person! Every time i look at the situation I think how can this be possible i must be crazy! Yet i always end the day wanting more.

[Noein]

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[avw911]

Hey there,

I have been in my long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little over two years now, I know what your going through. We met in College so I had known him before it was LDR but I still think I can help you out. It is extremely important not to let yourself get too depended on your SO in a long distance relationship. You need to have a life of your own and you need to have things in your life that make you happy other than her. I know its hard but it needs to be done for you to be the happy wonderful man she is falling for. There are also things you can do together. My boyfriend and I have "date" nights every sunday where we webcam with MSN messenger. You can see and talk to each other and if you want you can play all sorts of games together. You can even put puzzles together, together which is one of my faves. We also have "watched" movies or tv shows together, you both start it at the same time and be on the phone with each other during and then talk laugh and talk about the movie or show after. Here are just a few things to start you out, if you have any questions feel free to ask!

avw

[awesomeness43]

I feel that i am in the exact same situation. I actually met this girl on a cruise and we hung out for a week straight. From what begun as a fling we both grew really attached and realized we had alot in common.

 

For the past 6 weeks we've been talking every day for hours at a time. We talk before we go to sleep and we wake up at the same time and call each other. We are actually spending all of august together vacationing.

 

What worries/scares me is that after that whats is next. She is 500 miles away. We will be able to see each other for about one-two weekends a month alternating between me going down to so cal or her coming up to nor cal.

 

I care for her so much to the point where i get bothered if shes going out even though im also going clubbing or what not but i just dont vocalize my concerns. At one point i contemplated just to stop talking to her because i didn't like the fact that i was so attached and cared so much.

 

Basically, we're both college students as well. Just consider transferring schools

if you both see fit or if there is serious potential for a real relationship that could blossom in to something more later in life. Sounds premature to talk like this but i'm just so bored of the whole clubbing/partying and nothing serious routine. Im genuinely happy with her and if you feel it is worth it go for it.