Ms. Red Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 That's how I always felt when I ended a relationship. I was freeeeeee Weeeeeee. I would start saying, "I can go wherever I want with whomever I want whenever I want & not worry bout anyone but meself." Good you told your parents. They will give you support you need right now. Take Porter's suggestion & tell your family that knew about this relationship that it's over. That gives you more solid stance to keep this attitude. You are not alone & have a good backup with your family. I give you a big...wait for it..... WOOT!!!111one11!!! LoL
Ms. Red Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Another thing. You may have fallbacks in emotions & get sad & depressed & down. It's normal. You may doubt your decision. But if that happens whatever you do, DO NOT CALL him. Instead, jump on here & tell us how you are feeling & we can walk you through it & out the other side. Your LS Sistas are here for you chicky!
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey guy's It's me. Gosh what a relief. It feels good. Thanks for the motivation guys I owe it to everyone here. ( I'm not kissing Butt. LOLOLO) well maybe I am. I Know I'm going to go through those emotions but as soon as I fall into that emotional trap Ill make sure to come here. Thanks guys ure the greatest support system ever. ^_^
Touche Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 You'll be fine LT. I was the biggest doormat. I started getting a clue right around the age of 30. And that's when my life turned around. You'll be fine. We're here to support you.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey T How are you. Its hard when ure a doormat then reality kicks u in the Butt kins. Well I've been watching the stupid box( T.V ) and there is this show on the tube called Ashley paige. Shes a swimsuit designer its so neat! Well my family is proud of me and so is my dad. My mom told him and hes not going to bother me in terms of my decision. I'm a big girl and I take care of my own. Well Nothing happening now. Shows are over.
InLimbo2 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Who wants to bet me that within 48hrs she'll be back posting about her 'amazing relationship' and how this 'situation is done' and they are back together and in love again? prove me wrong littletoes - go 4 weeks of no contact - and I'll eat crow like never before seen. prove me wrong and stay out of the toxic relationship with the loser and his family Hey T How are you. Its hard when ure a doormat then reality kicks u in the Butt kins. Well I've been watching the stupid box( T.V ) and there is this show on the tube called Ashley paige. Shes a swimsuit designer its so neat! Well my family is proud of me and so is my dad. My mom told him and hes not going to bother me in terms of my decision. I'm a big girl and I take care of my own. Well Nothing happening now. Shows are over.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey in limbo. NO need for bets. I've made up my mind it's made up and done as I Sit here I think about all the crap he's put me through during these couple of years. In 48 hours I will not go back. This time I will not. The [COLOR=green][FONT=serif]parts[/FONT][/COLOR] of what u said in regarding the crow. Well I will tell you. [COLOR=green][FONT=serif]You[/FONT][/COLOR] better have a mean bite for me when [COLOR=red][FONT=serif]ure[/FONT][/COLOR] feasting on that bird. LOLOLOLOLO ( I mean it) Well just packing for my trip and getting ready. I will make sure too update u guys on this site of whats going on with me.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey in limbo. NO need for bets. I've made up my mind it's made up and done as I Sit here I think about all the crap he's put me through during these couple of years. In 48 hours I will not go back. This time I will not. The parts of what u said in regarding the crow. Well I will tell you. You better have a mean bite for me when ure feasting on that bird. LOLOLOLOLO ( I mean it) Well just packing for my trip and getting ready. I will make sure too update u guys on this site of whats going on with me.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey guys well im in the back seat of the car. Writting this. My dad just had a conversation about what has happend. He doenst want me to worry or sit my in my room and cry because of waht happend. He wants me to be happy and he wants me to be strong. He's glad that I stood up to him and that Im not going 2 take it anymore.
oceangrl Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I'm so glad you told your parents too...they really are the best support =) I can see you're making positive changes already--by getting your parents involved. It means that you are serious about letting the most important people (your family) support your decision. Good for you!! Keep it up!! =)
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey Ocean. Thanks for getting back 2 me. Yes they are the best support system ever. I must say that the whole entire family knows now. MY mom told everyone here. I'm being brave and strong. I keep telling myself about all of the bad things that he has done and It's keeping me from calling him. Jeeze as I read all of my posts I sounds like a desperate person trying to get the attention of someone who really doesnt love me.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I wish porter and my luv2ns were here to read all of this.
Ms. Red Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Hey Jennie, I just saw how great your doing. I'm happy for you. Keeping yourself busy & involved with people is the best way to not slip back into the mindset you had before. Keep it up. Enjoy your visit with your family. I wish I could do that with mine. Take Care. =^-^=
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey red. How are you. Me I feel really lazy. Lol I've been eating so much food here and been chatting up a storm with my cousins. Now I'm just relaxing typing of course. I Hope that u are doing ok. Well u have family on love Shack that love you.
vivrantflo Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I'm very happy to see that you got rid of this guy. You must feel so refreshed and happy! You deserve to be treated a lot better than you have been! Congrats, and stay strong.
Author littletoes Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 HI there. I'm trying to stay strong and positive. It feels great
Author littletoes Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 God. I'm falling in that trap where I'm confused if I made the wrong decision or not. Please help me. I'm getting scared.
whichwayisup Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You made the right decision, don't be scared and don't cave. Remember WHY this relationship is not working out. You two are not a good match and he isn't long term boyfriend material, you know this! It's OK to cry, to feel sad and down about this, it is a loss. Just take things day by day, hour by hour if need be..Vent away and try your best to not contact him.
whichwayisup Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Time for you to read no foolin's famous no contact thread...It's long but worth the read. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/
Author littletoes Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Hey there. Thanks for getting back too me. I'm feeling all of these bad emotions to be honest Ive really never stood up to a guy b4 and when I stood up to him in Wednesday I felt really guilty after our conversation.The stupid calling thing is bugging the kazoodles out of me. I havent called him since yesterday and my hearts bugging me to call and I'm not caving in. How do I stop myself from thinking that I made a mistake.??????? I have not made a mistake. I guess the griefing process hasnt took place. All I have is anger pent up inside me. Its scary because I'm not an angry perosn and I have no mean bones inside me. I guess this is the second time hes doing this too me ans this is why I feel this way. The only difference is that his mom fought with me. I also keep repeating in my head what she has told me and it makes me really upset. I really must sound like a looser on here. All I wanted was someone to love me and respect me. I have the worst luck. this is like being struck by thunder twice.
Author littletoes Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Hey there. Wow that was quite the read. Its just there plain and simple right in your face type of post. Kudos. Very well written. I'm still away here with the family. I'm busy typing away here. I feel horrible as if my mom died or something. Anyhow I feel so bad.
Ms. Red Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 It will be hard but you can do it. You will have good days & bad days. Take it one day at a time. Just keep coming here & why don't you visit other threads & see if you can help someone else? Maybe you have all ready, I don't know, I haven't researched your posts. LoL Hang in there. You are not alone when you have us. =^-^=
Author littletoes Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks Ms red. I feel like I am about to relapse. But I'm on here buring up typing speed. Gosh I wrote another little post called back and feel like crap. U will see it. Gosh I'm trying so hard.
Author littletoes Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 I feel like crap today. I really think the grief process has kicked into full force. I was suppose to do a painting project and I can't get it together. MY heart feels like its burning inside I feel so worthless and helpless. It's not a great feeling trust me. Gosh why you bad things always happen to good people. I feel so bad and it hurts. How can someone that told you that they love you and they would fight for your heart and then end up leaving you hanging with out a proper good bye. Anyhowzers I feeling really depressed and extermely blue. I having ups and extreme downs. I cant find any balance and its making me go crazy.
luvmy2ns Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Get out of the house and do something to make yourself feel good. Let yourself go through the process, though. Sometimes we have to just feel pain and get through it. You'll be okay once you reach the other side. You'll wonder what you ever saw in him once you're there.
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