Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 I just called my boyfriends cell phone and someone picked up the cell finally just no voice they were only listening 2 my voice for 25 seconds and then hung up the phone on me. Strange don't u think?????????????????? Well I called back and no answer I see that the beans are starting to spill He probably has another girlfriend because why would'nt the other person on the other end talk. So its so obivious that I smell trouble. Who ever that was I cant wait till she reads all of the texts. And if he deleted them who cares because I just wrote another one quickly I hope f that was a chick she would find the email and blast him not to mention If I get any weird calls tonight I know whats going on.
Touche Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Oh, this is really sad LT. You're not listening to any of the good advice here. You're hooked on the drama. Come on. Grow a backbone. You're obsessed.
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 I feel confused I want answers and its making me going bonkers. Honestly how can someone answer the cell and not talk? Now IM going even more crazy because I want to know whats going on. I keep on sendiing him emails and calls I cant stop. I knbow u guys are giving me good advice honestyly what would u do ig u have been trying to call ure man for 2 days and hes not answering his phone finally the phone picks up and no one is talking on the other end. How would u react. Tell me please.
endlesstrains Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I know you want to talk to him and get answers but all obsessively calling is going to do is make him want to talk you even less. Put yourself in his place right now. You just want to think things over in your mind and need some space but your girlfriend is calling, texting, emailing you constantly, leaving dozens of pleading voicemail messages... it's not going to do a thing but turn him off and make him want to run a hundred miles away. I am not saying you should stick with him, because it seems like Mama is going to be a permanent 3rd party to your relationship. But if you want answers from him, LEAVE him be and he will give you them in time (hopefully).
luvmy2ns Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I feel confused I want answers and its making me going bonkers. Honestly how can someone answer the cell and not talk? Now IM going even more crazy because I want to know whats going on. I keep on sendiing him emails and calls I cant stop. I knbow u guys are giving me good advice honestyly what would u do ig u have been trying to call ure man for 2 days and hes not answering his phone finally the phone picks up and no one is talking on the other end. How would u react. Tell me please. STOP NOW. Stop calling, stop e-mailing, stop texting. THAT is what you need to do. Did we not have enough conversations about this? You need to stop.
Ms. Red Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Hi Jenny, I've read your story & haven't replied because I felt that the others were giving you spot on advice. I hope I am wrong, but they may reach the point that they feel their advice is falling on deaf ears & it may stop. What would I do? I wouldn't have let it get this far. If my BF made it clear that he was a Mama's boy, I would be gone. You are making the mistake of listening to his words from days past & not reading his actions which is what you need to do. The words from the past are no longer valid. His actions have clearly overrode them. I feel sad for you & I hope you can have more respect for yourself & act like the mature 30 something woman you claim to be. You are acting like a young girl that needs to mature. You remind me of a friend I had when we were teenagers, & she acted exactly like you. It was pathetic to see her make a pest of herself dialing this dood 100 times a day. What a fool I saw her as. I wish you well. Please please reach around with your hand & feel that thing that runs from the back of your neck to your butt. It's called a spine & you need to use it to stand up straight & start acting like you love yourself & respect yourself more. Take Care. =^-^=
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 HI guys I'm sorry if Ive caused some disapointment, I thought I was going to get the chance to talk to him when the someone picked up the cell and when someone did'nt answer it made me loose it. Dam me. I'm really bored thats being honest I'm lonely I dont have any friends anymore. They have all moved far away from me. I only have him and I guess because hes not around to talk to me I feel like I lost my Best friend. I've become obsessed I convince myself that hes going to answer and he doesnt its an endless cycle. Yikes........ I Know what u said about not giving him the space he needs while I'm constantly calling him and texting him and emailing him and all of the other Jazz i'm doing. I'm a big dissapointment his mom was right. I don't know nothing and that I'm not full of life and I'm slow IM not capable of taking care of a family even though IM taking care of my mom who know pees her self and I took care of 2 beautiful girls for 4 years as an Early Childhood Educator. I had them since they were babies. Please some one come and shoot me. Gosh IM on my period and I feel so vulnrable and emotional and IM just not all there/
luvmy2ns Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Ms. Red is right. And it sounds like you've been relying on your BF to save you from a boring life. You need to make yourself a happy life first. You can do that. Make friends. It's not hard. Smile and be open and friendly. You'll be surprised at how fun life can be even without a MAN. Or maybe especially without a man!!
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 HI Ms Red. I am a strong girl u are right as well. About the fact that I keep on listeing to words rather then his actions. I Know evryone here is giving amazing advice. I'm 30 years old by the way I've had the most worst critisim in my life by that women and I'm starting to beleive it. See I'm perfectly aware of whats going on I keep on repeating words in my head. and that needs to stop. You are so right about the fact that IM not listening to his actions. MY cell phone is turned off and I wrote a piece a paper on top of it its says dont turn me on hes not worth the heartache and pain.
Ms. Red Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 HI Ms Red. I am a strong girl u are right as well. About the fact that I keep on listeing to words rather then his actions. I Know evryone here is giving amazing advice. I'm 30 years old by the way I've had the most worst critisim in my life by that women and I'm starting to beleive it. See I'm perfectly aware of whats going on I keep on repeating words in my head. and that needs to stop. You are so right about the fact that IM not listening to his actions. MY cell phone is turned off and I wrote a piece a paper on top of it its says dont turn me on hes not worth the heartache and pain. No, it doesn't need to stop. It needs to change. Change it to all the great things about yourself. example: I am a strong woman who works hard at my job & my personal life. I am a good person. I can be a good woman to someone who deserves it. I will not call that wimpy mamas boy because I am better than that. Also, please don't take our disappointment & turn it on us with words of how pathetic or lame your are. Don't try to buy our sympathies with that. Make us proud of you & we will be cheering you on & giving you WOOTS!!! when you post that you haven't called him in 1 day...2 days...etc. You can do it! Be strong & make us proud of you girl!
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Well Im here and I feel horrible all of this advice is priceless. I thank u and its not falling on deaf ears. I made mistakes and I'm only human.
luvmy2ns Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Well Im here and I feel horrible all of this advice is priceless. I thank u and its not falling on deaf ears. I made mistakes and I'm only human. As we are as well! We all have ups and downs. Go after your ups with all your might!
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Thanks for replying MS Red may I ask how old u are. I thank you for your words of wisdom and all of the others that are making me see the light. Thanks guys and gals.
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Hey there. Thanks for all the responses. I'm going away for a long drive 2 morrow with my family. My parents told me that we are going ot go see family 2 hours away from where I live. SO that will be amazing.
Ms. Red Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Thanks for replying MS Red may I ask how old u are. I thank you for your words of wisdom and all of the others that are making me see the light. Thanks guys and gals. I'm 42. My history of relationships is that I jumped from one serious relationship to the next from the age of 15 till my marriage @ 29. I have a son with my H who moved out in '06 as we were more like room mates for too long. We are better co-parents than we ever were as husband and wife. I decided to give myself a break & be with myself until I feel that I will want another relationship if ever. I will at least wait till after my son is raised. I'm just content with raising my son & offering advice with my history of relationships through the years. I've made plenty of mistakes & hope to help people who I can see may be making them also or going through pain from a relationship.
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Hello Ms. Red thanks for getting back to me. I've been watching some tv now to get my mind off of whats going on. I cant wait till leave tomorrow and go away for a few days. I'll make sure to write. To let u guys now whats up with me.
Ms. Red Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Good for you. I hope you have a nice visit with your family. Enjoy every moment you can spend with your loved ones. You never know when they may not be around for you to do so. I know it all too well. Have fun tomorrow! =^-^=
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Hey guys hows everyone. ME I'm proud I still havent touched my cell. WOOO HOOTS. Well I'm so sick of watching t. I ve watched so much right now and I feel drained out. I've watched soo much of A& E LOL. Cold case files are amazing.
Author littletoes Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 2 morrow will be fun. Lot's of family will be there it's going 2 to be so much fun. Well I'm here. Relaxing on Love shack. GOsh Ive done so much typing today and my fingers are getting really really tired. wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ms. Red Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 How is it typing on a blackberry? I just 5 minutes ago got a text from my cell company saying I'm due for a free phone. I've been wanting to get a full keyboard. I all ready have i-net on my RAZR now, but it won't go to sites like this coz it's too much data for it to handle. I check e-mail & send that from it & read news but that's about it. So, how's that handle this site? And how hard is it to type on a tiny KB like that?
porter218 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Hey there. Thanks for all the responses. I'm going away for a long drive 2 morrow with my family. My parents told me that we are going ot go see family 2 hours away from where I live. SO that will be amazing. That will be very good for you. You need to use this opportunity to make a huge step in your recovery. You should announce to your family that you have broken up with him. Once you have said this out loud with witnesses you will feel better. I have noticed in some of your posts in the last few days that you still refer to him as your bf but he is not anymore. You don't have to tell him to his face that it is over he doesn't deserve that. Just end it in your mind, tell your family, and begin this new chapter in your life. I remember I felt sooo bad for you in your last thread because I knew he was cheating and was afraid you were going to accept whatever cockamamie story he fed you. Now this man has done the best thing for you, freed you from his cr*p. You are no longer bound to this boat anchor of a man. You are now are free to enjoy your life. I am happy for you.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Its not hard to type on the Blackberry especially if you have small fingers like mine. LOLOLOLO. Well I was so strong today I found the courage to let her know everything. Shes so shocked that I would put up with that, She said ure BF is not a baby he can make his decisions, My mom also said I would'nt be surprised if his mom tried to hook him up with some one. Considering she keeps saying the thing about you know how many women come to me asking for my son blah blah blah. My mom said Jenny do what makes u happy and this is not making you happy. MY mom was dum,bfounded about the card situation she laughed about everything. LOLOLO. A 2 faced mother in law wouldnt be cool she also said that my guy is a poor excuse of a man that the fact that he couldnt stand up for me means that he doesnt have love for you. She said its weird that she said nice things and turned on u like that. AND he just stood there like a loser. Hes a poor excues and hes a mamas boy. And he will always put her first. I told my mom to tell my dad 2 stop asking me about him and if I spoke to him because Ive mademy decision I DONT WANT A LOSER MAMAS BOY WHO CANT HOLD UP HIS OWN UNDERWEAR. LMAO. MY MOM WAS ALSO BEING MEAN AND SAID THAT I SHOULDNT OF TAKEN HIM BACK AND THAT SHE THINKS THAT HIS MOM WS THE ONE WHO PROBABLY CAUSED THE 1st Break. NO MORE. I FEEL GREAT I TOLD MY MOM THE TRUTH AND NOW THEY WONT BUG ME. NOW I DONT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH MAMA DRAMA. LOLOLOLO?
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Thats 2 funny porter I just told my parents its ove.
Author littletoes Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Hey Porter. OMG. AS I WAS TYPING AND CLICKED SUBMIT U SAID SOMETHING SO SIMILAR IT WAS SOO FUNNY> I BEAT U TO IT. LOLOLOLO I feel so good. OH MY GOD ITS LIKE AN ANCHOR JUST LIFTED OFF OF MY SHOULDERS<<<<<<<<< NICE. NOW I CAN GO BACK TOO WORK ON TUESDAY BECAUSE IM FREE>
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