luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I see nothing immature about what she is saying, littletoes. Don't lash out at her because you want to ignore the obvious. Thanks, Porter. Listen, LT, I'm not trying to make you feel worse here. But first your BF sneaks around, contacting women on the net. I recall that thread, and I thought, "Ick! I'd dump his a55 in a HOT second!" And now you have a psycho mom to boot. Don't you think you deserve better? You sound like a nice gal...
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Hey Porter thanks or the stealthy replys. I think she is playing the boss of the house which my bf is. God this is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO I really don't want to talk to her when I come over I'm going ot do what I please and if she has an issue thats too bd. I love her son to bits and I told her son that if I was another women I would'nt put up with this crap. I told him that straight up. I said Im oinly putting up with this because I love you and I care for u. I will tell u he mentioned that some of his ex girlfirend had plans to kichk her out of the house and when the exes would mention something like that to him he would dump them. I've never said anything about kicking her out. But I did not deserve to get blasted like this. Yeah It makes me think when she keeps rubbing it in my face that theres a lot of women asking and wanting her son. I think shes trying to get under my skin and IM not letting her. This is why shes doing this.
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 I dont mean to lash out any one here. I'm confused and I feel lost. The internet thing has been dealt with and thats behind us. Now it's the Mrs Crazy daisy that I have to put up with.
luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I dont mean to lash out any one here. I'm confused and I feel lost. The internet thing has been dealt with and thats behind us. Now it's the Mrs Crazy daisy that I have to put up with. But you do NOT have to put up with her. And your BF should have read her the riot act when his mom laid into you like she did. Can you not see your future if you stay with this guy? You'll be stuck with the old bee-yotch, and he'll NEVER have your back where she is concerned. As for the internet cheating, don't fool yourself into thinking that's over. If he's gonna do that at all, he'll just find a sneakier way to sneak around. Cut this loser loose and find a guy who will treat you right!!!
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 I Know to be 100% honest. When I think of it right now. He did'nt have my back really. There was one point where he tried to say somethng to defend me she said something to him and made him shut up.
luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I Know to be 100% honest. When I think of it right now. He did'nt have my back really. There was one point where he tried to say somethng to defend me she said something to him and made him shut up. Awww, honey, I'm sorry. I know how that feels, and it ain't good. And you did absolutely NOTHING wrong! You know he isn't going to change at this stage of the game, right? He will always bow to her whims, and even at your expense. And she'll be living under your roof! Do you want to waste more of your life on this? I know it would be very difficult at first, but you would be better off without him. A good man will never find you if you're tied up with this one. Good luck with whatever you choose.
porter218 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I Know to be 100% honest. When I think of it right now. He did'nt have my back really. There was one point where he tried to say somethng to defend me she said something to him and made him shut up. Maybe he is afraid to stand up to her because if he pisses her off she will spill the beans on his affairs. I really think she has actually met some of the OW over the years you have been with him, hence the comments. Maybe she has come to really like one of the more recent affairs and this is why she has been lashing out at you. She is just as disgusting as he is.
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Good grief. I Know to be 100% honest. When I think of it right now. He did'nt have my back really. There was one point where he tried to say somethng to defend me she said something to him and made him shut up. This won’t ever change so long as Mama is alive and he remains attached to her hip. Especially at thirty-six. This is certainly not the kind of nightmare situation you’d want to marry into. It isn’t about you, so please stop stepping to her tirades like her son does. You could be her carbon copy and you still wouldn’t be good enough. My guess, unless she’s suffering from dementia or some other form of mental illness, she’s dependant on her son and is terrified that she’ll no longer be the center of his universe if she’s replaced by another woman. ANY woman. He’ll be single for the rest of his life, and even if he’s lucky enough to land another girlfriend, Mama will make darn sure it doesn’t last for long. The fact that it’s his home ... and his relationship ... yet he still doesn’t have the courage to step up like a man speaks volumes. And the audacity to tell *you* to get a backbone and stand up to this fruit-loop while he wets his nappies is just beyond belief. If you’re worried about losing your sanity ... the fact that you’re still enamored by these crazies may indicate you already have. If you want to recover it ... get out, get out, get out!
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 I must say thank you to all of u guys here. Your advice is so helpful 2 me. I had gone out for lunch with my parents and I have become very snipy with them today they keep asking me how my bf and how his trip. I tell them hes fine then they ask me how the mama is and I tell them she could'nt be better my brother asked me whats up Jenn. Is everything okay. Well at the restaurant my flks know the owners and they are from the same home town as my parents. The lady made a comment to my parents she said too bad your daughter has a boyfriend because I would hook her up with my nephew considering how nice and welcoming ure parents are. That me feel good. I dont know porter maybe my Bf has brought other women home that she feels like one of them is much better for him I don't know. I can't beleive hes affraid of her he couldnt even set her straight in front of me he was like a scared school boy that ran away from his potty when he seen his crap. LOLOLOLOLOLO. Welkl hes been becoming the center of me and I think shes jelaous of that.She is dependant of him . I will tell u guys when he got back from his trip and when I came over he opend the door and I seen him he gave me a warm hug in front of everyone and I said I missed you baby and his sister said aww. So I came in gave everyone kissess incl mom. few days later she goes I Missed u my baby. Like she has to do it better than me or something.Funny how this just came 2 mind. Wow.
luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I must say thank you to all of u guys here. Your advice is so helpful 2 me. I had gone out for lunch with my parents and I have become very snipy with them today they keep asking me how my bf and how his trip. I tell them hes fine then they ask me how the mama is and I tell them she could'nt be better my brother asked me whats up Jenn. Is everything okay. Well at the restaurant my flks know the owners and they are from the same home town as my parents. The lady made a comment to my parents she said too bad your daughter has a boyfriend because I would hook her up with my nephew considering how nice and welcoming ure parents are. That me feel good. I dont know porter maybe my Bf has brought other women home that she feels like one of them is much better for him I don't know. I can't beleive hes affraid of her he couldnt even set her straight in front of me he was like a scared school boy that ran away from his potty when he seen his crap. LOLOLOLOLOLO. Welkl hes been becoming the center of me and I think shes jelaous of that.She is dependant of him . I will tell u guys when he got back from his trip and when I came over he opend the door and I seen him he gave me a warm hug in front of everyone and I said I missed you baby and his sister said aww. So I came in gave everyone kissess incl mom. few days later she goes I Missed u my baby. Like she has to do it better than me or something.Funny how this just came 2 mind. Wow. It's interesting, isn't it, how little things you didn't notice in the past suddenly make more sense when you're beginning to see things a little more clearly? Her being jealous isn't the problem as much as his pandering to her every whim. Like Enigma said, run! Run as far and as fast as you can!
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Its actually pretty insane if u ask me. How I just seen things a little more clearer than yesterday. Well The Guy is out with his buddy from work for some coffees he said he would call me back later and never did. I tried calling him 2 times and I had left a message so I really don't want to call his home looking for him because I dont wan to get in to another stressfull situation I really feel like I should tell him off because he has yet to follow through on a stupid phone call today. It hurts my feelings when u say u will call me and u never do. Any way.
luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Its actually pretty insane if u ask me. How I just seen things a little more clearer than yesterday. You're starting to get sick of the BS, and you are beginning to get yourself back. THAT is how you see more clearly, and THAT is a good thing!
porter218 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Its actually pretty insane if u ask me. How I just seen things a little more clearer than yesterday. Well The Guy is out with his buddy from work for some coffees he said he would call me back later and never did. I tried calling him 2 times and I had left a message so I really don't want to call his home looking for him because I dont wan to get in to another stressfull situation I really feel like I should tell him off because he has yet to follow through on a stupid phone call today. It hurts my feelings when u say u will call me and u never do. Any way. That is a huge pet peeve of mine. My H was guilty of this a lot back a few years ago when he was a cheating SOB. This family is screwy and disrespectful honey, just jump ship. I don't see anything worth staying for. I understand that a multiple year relationship is hard to end even when it is bad but sometimes you just have to remember that there really are good ones out there. It is worth risking being alone in order to find a better one.
vivrantflo Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I dont know porter maybe my Bf has brought other women home that she feels like one of them is much better for him I don't know. Maybe so. Aren't you the young lady that was over at your BF's house, and a woman pulled up to the house and started arguing with your man? Put you and his parents in the house and took off with her in the car? And came back with a scratch?? Is this the same BF?? With the same parents?? What happend to that situation?? WHY are you still with this guy and enduring all this uneccessary drama????
Author littletoes Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Hey there, Yes Im the same gilr well that situation has been cleared up now Im dealing with this emotional drama. I've been feeling like Im going insane. My head is repeating this bs over and over I cant get over it. 2 when i spoke with my man today in the morning he told me that his mom spoke to him this morning and that she told him that she couldnt understand what I was talking about well he was in a bit of a rush to because he were to meet his friend from work to pick things up. Well he told me that he would call me later and still is leaving me in the dark without calling me. I've called him 5 times already and still no returning my calls. Plus I sent him an email telling him how crappy I feel emotionally I know he feels like in the middle and I'm hurt I just want to talk to him so he can make me relax. Because he know how to put my mind at ease. Maybe he still out with his friend i dont know or maybe they went over his house for a bbq who knows but I feel like crap and my heart is hurting soooooooooooooooooooooo much I m going 2 have an anxiety attack if I dont stop. SO much negative emotionaly draMA IS INSIDE ME KNOW ITS NOT FUN. im IN LOVE WITH HIM AND i LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF MY HEART. lOVE HURTS ME
porter218 Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Hey there, Yes Im the same gilr now well that situation has been cleared up....... Don't you mean to say you dropped this situation, not that you have cleared it up.
Author littletoes Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 I gues syou can say I droped this situation.
Author littletoes Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 The SOB called me. HE told me that hes abbsolutely confused and that hes torn between his mom and I and now supposibly his sister doesnt want me to be with her brother either as per mom. If sister had any issues she would address it don't u think. I honestly put alot of trust in his mom and his family and look I got screwed in. MY bf told me that he doesnt want to be at home anymore. I was so pissed off at him not returning my calls I told him that Iwas mad at him and that he should respect me to follow through on a simple phone call. He says he feels sad and he does'nt understand. He needs to put mama in her place and stand up for me. THis will not happen again I will not speak to her now. I know here true colors now and she needs a wake up call. I really hope I dont get into any phyical fights with mom. If she tires anything I will have her aressted because Im not her daughter Im still considerd a stranger. Ive been thinking about these senairios all night.
Author littletoes Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 I must say Im going through a horrible week did I mention Im on my vacation some horrible vacation time. ALl i can do is laugh how stupid this whole situation is. Gosh! well I spoke 2 Mr Man last night and he told me that he went out withone of his work buddies he went to vaca with. He brought him pictures u know blah blah blah he didint wan to talk about the situation to anyone yeah of course because its immature and people would laugh at the situation. Theres worse things to fight about trust me. He told me he feels disapointed and confused thats what he kepted saying to me. So instead telling me that he loves me he tells me to have a good night and take care ( he never talks to me like that. I said ahhhh so know your not telling me that u love me anymore eh??????????? all ure doing is talking to me like Im ure neighbour now I said are u forgetting who I am 2 u now. He said no its ure imagination. He said I Luv u and tomorrow morning hes going with mama somewhere. I said ok. I don't feel like calling anyone anymore. I'm not calling him today. At all. I will let him call me.
The Collector Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 The fact that this thread should actually be called 'Boyfriend's mother criticized me' suggests you are partly to blame for the resulting drama. If you love your boyfriend, swallow your pride and don't worry about his silly mother. He's unlikely to pick you over her, so don't make it into a huge battle. Her 'true colours' aren't that important. Just play nice.
Author littletoes Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Hey there. Thanks for the mature advice. I am aware that I'm partially to blame for that thats why I fel bad and went out and bought her a card. Okay. I felt guilty. Today is another day of lonelyness and hell. I need his attention and what did I do I called him. He answerd and we were okay he told me that hes painting and I wanted to let him go becaise I did not want to bother him so he did'nt want t o let me go. So We chated and he said hes go to paint. So I told him to call me when he will be finished he didnt tell me that he loved me and I think its because mom was around. SO here Im shopping and IM feeling really bad about all of this drama. Something triggerd my mind. Becayse I remember 6 months agao we broke upo and a week prior to the break. He would talk to me in a simialar fashion without telling me I Love u. SO I lost control of my emotions and I called him onece more 20 min later. I told him sorry for bugging u are u painting up or doen he said IM still on the ladder and I told him that I wanted to chat with him for a few minutes and he told me that he couldnt because hes painting he said he would call me later. I said o K and I called him righ back to say I love you to him and he didnt answer. Gosh I just want to be reassured thats everything is fine between us and that We will try and work through this. Thats all i want to know. I undersatnd hes working. I just need answers and not leave me in the dark.
luvmy2ns Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 The fact that this thread should actually be called 'Boyfriend's mother criticized me' suggests you are partly to blame for the resulting drama. If you love your boyfriend, swallow your pride and don't worry about his silly mother. He's unlikely to pick you over her, so don't make it into a huge battle. Her 'true colours' aren't that important. Just play nice. It was an "attack" of the verbal variety. Do you not see how mom is controlling everything, and her BF is letting her? Ick!
vivrantflo Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 I gues syou can say I droped this situation. You dropped the situation.... I see.. So you pretty much caught him cheating, and you "dropped" the situation. This guy and his family are disrespecting you to the highest degree, and you continue to stick around and get treated like crap. Because you love him. This guy doesn't respect you. His mom doesn't respect you. And you don't respect yourself. I do however wish I could find a woman with your dedication.. in a sense, I envy this dude.
Author littletoes Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 This post has made me cry. Because I do love him. Love is so hurtful maybe I not meant to be with anyone. He stil has yet to call me 2 hours later. NO one respects me and I'm crying while im writeing this. You know whats horrible I m losing jenny me. All I care about is them and not me. Thats what ive been noticing. I care about what they think. NO calls yet. I think his mom is telling him not to call me back. Or telling him not to say I love u 2 me. I don't know my hearts in a lot of pain. Plain and simple this is soo hurtfull.
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