Whitefox123 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 okay...so I'd like an opinion on this! My ex fiance and I just ended our almost 3 year long relationship last week....we ended it because basically I pushed him away since I was very insecure about him talking to other women (and he didn't respect that it made me uncomfortable). We agreed to remain friends and see where things went from there. We have talked every day since everything went down with us, and every time we talk..we get into some kind of discussion about us usually involving a lot of flirting on my part! (he knows I miss him like crazy). Well I mentioned to him that I'd be near his house this friday and that if he wanted I could stop in jsut for a quick visit to see him and his family.Well I thought thats what we agreed on. last night he asked me if I wanted to get together today for lunch and some shopping but when I told him I'd love to see him but had other plans he got upset with me. He said he wasn't mad but that he was dissapointed. Because of this, I am thinking that maybe he is starting to miss me/our relationship (although he told me he's happier now that we aren't together) because it has ONLY been a week and he wants to get together for lunch...and was so upset that I wasn't available. I even offered to see him earlier before getting together with my friends and he said no that he didn't want to be rushed. Does anyone else see what I am seeing with him possibly missing me, or is that just wishful thinking or stupidity on my part? Is it possible he wants to get together as 'just friends' even after just 1 week?
norajane Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 Ending a 3 year relationship where you were engaged takes longer than a week to process. Neither of you seem to have walked away - you're talking every day and you suggested getting together and he wanted to see you for lunch... I'm sure he misses you, just as you miss him, although perhaps not too terribly because you haven't really been away from each other entirely to truly miss each other. Missing each other doesn't mean wanting to get back together, though. It could mean that, but it could also mean just missing having someone around that's been a big part of your life for 3 years. I think both of you need to figure out what you really want - to break up or be together. It doesn't sound like you really have figured that out yet.
Author Whitefox123 Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 Yeah, you do bring up a good point about missing someone but not wanting to be together...... thanks for your comment! he is really upset with me about not getting together with him I found out.... but I think for now I will try the NC thing so we can figure out where we stand! because yes...that is a big issue right now! I feel like we are somewhere in the middle (although he says its totally over...I dont feel like it is)
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