shadowplay Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I feel weird since we've gone NC. It's only been a few days but this anxiety is building and building inside me. At first I was fine, but it seems like the more time that goes by the worse I feel. I have this nervous energy as though I don't know what to do with myself. It's almost as though I'm waiting for him to call. I'm so used to waiting for him to call because he was a poor communicator that this feels the same. Even though I know he shouldn't and probably won't call. How do I handle this and move on? I keep on looking at the phone and wondering if I should call him. The way things ended were very unresolved. We never officially broke up, just stopped talking after a bad fight. Maybe this is why I'm so uneasy.
kizik Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Hi Shadow, I know how you feel. Often times it's more about the routine, the familiarity, the habit, than the actual person or relationship. Not to undermine what you and he had. I'm just saying that me GF and I talked each day for an hour at least while we were in our LDR. 10 months of that. Before she moved, we hung out each day, blah blah blah... My R was unresolved as well. I'm not sure you two need to officially "break up" to know that you're done. I'm of the opinion that closure is grossly overrated and often does more harm than good, as it drags out obvious reasons why the R isn't working. As time passes, the temptation to call him will diminish, as will the expectations that he will call you. It's a sad reality, and I am sorry for what we're all going through. As long as we learn something, it was worth it.
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