Author Wonderlandless Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Haha, its okay. Well, he offered to help me move the same night he broke up with me. I was hurt and being bitchy, so I told him no. I was moving in a few days and the wound would have been too fresh. I think a couple of weeks a part did us okay. He really seemed into me when he saw me earlier this evening. But yeah, if he completely ignores my birthday (which if he has to work, as he is a waiter at a very busy restaurant then I'll understand if he calls or says we'll do something later) then I'll just write him off.
MaxManwell Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Haha, its okay. Well, he offered to help me move the same night he broke up with me. I was hurt and being bitchy, so I told him no. I was moving in a few days and the wound would have been too fresh. I think a couple of weeks a part did us okay. He really seemed into me when he saw me earlier this evening. But yeah, if he completely ignores my birthday (which if he has to work, as he is a waiter at a very busy restaurant then I'll understand if he calls or says we'll do something later) then I'll just write him off. Why don't you just move yourself and break off contact do you need him to move for you ? Just make sure your hair looks nice and some big strong man should come and do it for you. He is a waiter, my most hated of all the professions, please tell me you are not a waitress too that would cause me too laugh so hard at the intense irony due to our earlier debate I may just explode from the inside out. I am only racist against waiters. Seriously though I wish you the best, I am not a vindictive person we can agree to have our differences, can't we ?
Author Wonderlandless Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Thanks for the concern, Max, but I was able to move myself out perfectly fine. And no, I am not a waiter, I actually do product testing for video games in our store. And I don't know if we can agree to disagree. You're the one being pretty narrow-minded and vindictive here.
lemony fresh Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 She doesn't have a problem with moving. He offered to help her move and she refused. I was just wondering why she refused his offer to help (cause that's what SO's like to do, help) and she stated that they had just broken up and that it was OK. What is your problem with waiters? It is an honest living. Geez.
northstar1 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Thanks for the concern, Max, but I was able to move myself out perfectly fine. And no, I am not a waiter, I actually do product testing for video games in our store. And I don't know if we can agree to disagree. You're the one being pretty narrow-minded and vindictive here. Video game testing - amazing!.
Author Wonderlandless Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Video game testing - amazing!. Its one of those simple, pretty-girl-only jobs I'm sure Max can't stand. Naturally, I got it with my perfectly flowing blond locks and great figure.
MaxManwell Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Thanks for the concern, Max, but I was able to move myself out perfectly fine. And no, I am not a waiter, I actually do product testing for video games in our store. And I don't know if we can agree to disagree. You're the one being pretty narrow-minded and vindictive here. I don't play many computer games. What is a product tester ?
MaxManwell Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Its one of those simple, pretty-girl-only jobs I'm sure Max can't stand. Naturally, I got it with my perfectly flowing blond locks and great figure. Did you just hijack your own thread ? Pretty girl jobs exist; face it.
Author Wonderlandless Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Basically, all new release video games I have to play them for a set amount of hours (I can go over more, if I want). I have a certain criteria I must meet when playing, like how the battle/aim system works. Camera work, graphics, playback probability and the like. Its usually a pretty cool job, but there are some games I'd rather stab myself in the neck than have to play them for the set number of hours Did you just hijack your own thread ? Pretty girl jobs exist; face it. Indeed they do. But, I turned down Playboy for controllers and consoles. ;]
Crestfallen_KH Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I am only racist against waiters. I didn't realize "waiter" was a "race." Wonder, here is my take. You may not like it, but you asked for advice and please, please know that it's coming from someone very much like you who is striving to stop being this way herself... You have been waaaaay, waaayy too nice and accommodating. I'm not even talking about the "Yeah, sure, sleep with other people while on tour" stuff. I'm talking everything else you've done. You've been together 4 months, and have seemingly bent over backwards for him. CLEANING his apartment?? Helping him move?!?! And, on top of that, you put no pressure on him, basically tell him you'll hang out "whenever" and will pay your own way? You may as well stamp "doormat" on your forehead. I know, you want to be nice, treat the man you care for well, and all that, but this early on it's TOO MUCH. You never set yourself up as a catch to be wooed, a challenge, a special girl who demands to be treated a certain way. You've let him set the pace, you've let him determine when you see one another, you've let him know you'll "be around" when he wants and he has zero, ZERO demands put on him because you "don't want to add to his pressures." Sure, that's nice, but NICE girls finish last. I'm not talking about (or promoting) game playing, but you have to be less available, less accommodating and less "whatever he wants is fine with me" about the whole thing. Even when talking about your birthday, you say "Well, he has to work that night, so that's ok if he doesn't do anything THAT night." WTF? I don't know if this can be saved. I think it possibly could if you become less available, less understanding of his hard, busy life, and less "Sure, whatever you want." But right now you don't present a challenge to him and he's grown bored. When men know they have you in their back pockets, they tend to lose interest. Don't ask me how I know this.
Author Wonderlandless Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 I cleaned his apartment once to be nice. It was a mess, and helping him move is a nice thing to do. Don't think I babied him or anything; I just bought him some groceries a few times because I know as a waiter and moving to a new place he was strapped for cash and was always buying me things. I wanted to repay the favor. As for hanging out whenever he was available, I pretty much had to. Between his and my schedule and his band practice it was hard ever really getting to see eachother. We'd usually agree on a date to see eachother before it took place. When we first started dating I did make him chase after me a bit. I dunno why, but I gave in to him, which is odd for me to do. I probably did become boring. How do I fix it for next time?
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