JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I don't understand why men are intimidated by any woman. We want to be loved just the same as y'all. If you approach us with respect you can disarm us pretty quick. disarm? I don't like the sound of that.
bones1 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 What I have come to realize is that women..Especially attractive ones 1. Love to look at themselves in any reflection possible... Passing a window, mirror, etc. 2.. Love to look at men to see who is checking them out. 3. Love to look at you, and flirt when you are with an attractive woman yourself.
bones1 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Monkeyo, good post. Men, next time you see a "beautiful" woman think of this... http://www.rense.com/general74/home.htm
GoodOnPaper Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 A take on this subject from the No More Mr. Nice Guy website. Mainly about taking women off the pedestal. http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forums/showpost.php?p=176249&postcount=1
luvmy2ns Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I get hit on often, and by some very good looking guys as well as average looking ones. I have a great guy, so would never entertain any of their offers of a drink or what have you. However, it wouldn't matter to me where these guys fell on the scale of "hotness." I would want an initial interest on my part, though, but that could come from their personality alone. I've found that I've been attracted to some very average looking guys, but their sense of humor and confidence just drew me to them! Many of the better looking guys make it clear they know they look good, and that is a total turn off for me. If I do turn a guy down, though, I'm always very polite and thank them for the offer with a smile. I've seen cases, though, where a gal is approached by a guy, and she puts on this sneer and looks him up and down and rejects him with an "as if!" attitude, laughing with her girlfriends. Ick! No wonder some guys have a hard time approaching certain women!
lino Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 They're afraid because they feel out of their league and probably because many gorgeous girls have rejected them really harshly before. The fact that a lot of people don't realize is once women lose their makeup, they all look pretty average. This isn't really true. A truly beautiful girl is also naturally beautiful & doesn't need much make up if any at all. The ones who look average with out make up aren't that gorgeous to begin with, that's why they need the make up. And it comes to show that beautiful women are just as superficial as much as most of us men are. DNR yep, they're just better at hiding it at times than men are that's all.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I don't understand why men are intimidated by any woman. We want to be loved just the same as y'all. If you approach us with respect you can disarm us pretty quick. That's not true. If it were so, I would not have to rely on friends and the internet to try and find women who are even willing to give me a look at let alone even get past whatever hang ups they have about dating me. DNR
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Mainly about taking women off the pedestal. Pedestals are bad for relationships or dating. In putting someone on a pedestal, they have a long way to fall! It's unfair to both parties.
A.G.Doren Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Now back to the major idea of the thread... Okay I am going to show you exactly what I mean and I would love an honest answer from you ladies if these are the qualities you are willing to ignore in a man... And guys you can reply the same if you feel so about a woman. 1) I'm 5'6". I am quite tall so my height preference is tall, but I have dated men shorter than you in the past and I'm dating a short one now. 2) Slim built, with slight muscular build...I have been told I have a dancer's body. Sounds good to me I don't like overly muscular men. 3) Dark brown eyes. Love that 4) Black hair with some gray (no I will not color my hair, well maybe no is to strong I would do in a committed relationship). Don't care about that. 5) Cute, tight bum. My ex's loved my butt for some reason. Always a plus 6) A combination of geeky shyness, some arrogance in things I hold a strong belief in, and confident in most other things. I'm smart I like geeks 7) Is very serious about not having sex before marriage. Is chaste (you're getting more attractive by the minute) 8) Looks way younger than I am. Could be good or bad. 9) Live at home with mom currently, may be moving to Texas with best brother for employment. Not excited about this, but I just moved back home with my dad to help him out. 10) Does have a criminal past. Not of intent, one of those foolish choices and willing to take the punishment for my failings kind of things. Needs more information. 11) As one can guess from #9 not employed, definitely not from lack of trying, more like from not being inexperienced enough for entry level work, yet not enough education and/or work in the field in some of the things I can do. I would have to see what happens. 12) Doesn't smoke, drink, or do drugs. A+++ 13) No kids, but wants some if I ever get married. Always good. 14) Dark brown skin. I like dark-skinned men actually I prefer them. 15) Personally I consider myself having average looks. But, since beauty is in the eye of the beholder I have been described from being handsome (super handsome, but definitely above average) to ugly. So, that is each individual to decide. Don't care much about looks. Would I like to date a hot guy with a great personality? Yes. Is it important? No. Here are a few of my traits. Now all you beautiful women, if I or a man similar to me stepped up to you, would you tell me I am aiming too high? DNR Oh, and yes, the avatar you see is a picture of me. I'm considered attractive by lots of men. If you talked to me intelligently I'd probably go out with you.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Pedestals are bad for relationships or dating. In putting someone on a pedestal, they have a long way to fall! It's unfair to both parties. I enjoy pushing people off them.
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I enjoy pushing people off them. Do you? I don't. I don't put anyone on a pedestal and expect they will reciprocate with the same treatment. I'd rather enjoy who they are in an entirety v. the fantasy person.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Do you? I don't. I don't put anyone on a pedestal and expect they will reciprocate with the same treatment. I'd rather enjoy who they are in an entirety v. the fantasy person. I agree, but sometimes people will put themselves on pedestals and I try my utmost to throw them off balance. I hate people like that.
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I agree, but sometimes people will put themselves on pedestals and I try my utmost to throw them off balance. I hate people like that. No one can put themselves on a pedestal. Only you can believe they do.
just-a-girl Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 That's not true. If it were so, I would not have to rely on friends and the internet to try and find women who are even willing to give me a look at let alone even get past whatever hang ups they have about dating me. DNR What hang ups? If they are not interested in you then they won't be on or off line.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 No one can put themselves on a pedestal. Only you can believe they do. Nonsense. People can do whatever they want with themselves.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I agree with some stuff lizzie said. i think she will get hit on a ton and that will be the cause of much unneeded drama In her case, she should be in a old people's home, instead of sexing it up with people 40 years her junior.
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Nonsense. People can do whatever they want with themselves. Nonsense. People can try to put themselves on a pedestal but it's only real if someone enables it!
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Nonsense. People can try to put themselves on a pedestal but it's only real if someone enables it! Nonsense. Heck, I'm not arguing with you about pedastals.
trubella Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 but the other day a man came up to me and started talking to me (in a retail store).... within 3 minutes he said "I am very well endowed." WTF? Why do people think they can be disrespectful? What a wanker! lol ive had a guy do that to me, ive also had them throw in hints like they have a "insert expensive sports car name here" or they manage to hint around that they have money or a nice house. im not one to be bought so i think its funny.
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Nonsense. Heck, I'm not arguing with you about pedastals. Nonsense, good! Continue creating fictional pedestals aka Don Juan jousting windmills!
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Nonsense, good! Continue creating fictional pedestals aka Don Juan jousting windmills! Get back into the Kitchen.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 If there were more women like you, but single, I would be in the money. DNR
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 What hang ups? If they are not interested in you then they won't be on or off line. And this is the major issue. Not many women are. Heck, I really don't know any who ever REALLY was interested in me other than from the help of friends or we spending months and months talking on the internet or the phone. Maybe hang ups was wrong, okay, superficial things that few men can compete with. But, yet, same women wonder why guys won't step up to them. While this is not about the same thing above, but I can also add some things I have noticed in my attempts to talk to a lady that might put me off I call them the looks... 1) Don't even think about approaching me. 2) I am too hot/cool for you. 3) I am waiting for someone. 4) You've got to be joking. 5) I am annoyed and don't want to talk. 6) I will cry or pee my pants if you say something. 7) I have nothing going on upstairs. 8) I am too wasted to even remember who you are. 9) I am enjoying being single. 10) I have been hit on too much already. NO MORE! 11) I just escaped from confinement and I am just out for a good time. 12) I'm easy and cheap, I would let anyone and anything do whatever it wanted to me. Those are just a few. Don't get me wrong, I have those looks sometimes too, but usually after trying so many times and I just get tired. DNR
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