Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Ill be honast, i use to be very afraid of beautiful women..but now i just see them as the same as me. But sometimes the girl thinksshe is too good for a normal guy like me...happend before... but why are we so afraid? Do we think we are out of their league? Are we?
JP77 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I get nervous sometimes and the chances are I am out of their league.
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 you feel threatened because you think she will eventually find someone else.. or she will be hit on and eventually go with someone else. It's hard to say... usually, people attracts people in their 'league'... it's rare to see a beautiful woman with an ugly man..unless he's got ton of money... and usually if he has, that means he's extremely smart... but for 'ordinary people' they usually stay within their 'league'..
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 you feel threatened because you think she will eventually find someone else.. or she will be hit on and eventually go with someone else. It's hard to say... usually, people attracts people in their 'league'... it's rare to see a beautiful woman with an ugly man..unless he's got ton of money... and usually if he has, that means he's extremely smart... but for 'ordinary people' they usually stay within their 'league'.. I just hate how our world has 'leagues' of diffrent people...were all the same inside..looks dont mean anything and looks fade over year...personality last forever
Tony T Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I think I'm below average in looks but I have ONLY dated quite attractive ladies...and sometimes had to fight them off. The secret has always been that I don't slobber all over them and I treat them with respect. I can't believe the idiotic ways men come on to beautiful women and the ladies seriously get tired of it. I treat them like anybody else and they go for that in a big way. Also, I usually don't ask them out until I've known them for a while. Just because a woman is drop dead gorgeous doesn't mean she would make a good date....or even a good friend.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 I think I'm below average in looks but I have ONLY dated quite attractive ladies...and sometimes had to fight them off. The secret has always been that I don't slobber all over them and I treat them with respect. I can't believe the idiotic ways men come on to beautiful women and the ladies seriously get tired of it. I treat them like anybody else and they go for that in a big way. Also, I usually don't ask them out until I've known them for a while. Just because a woman is drop dead gorgeous doesn't mean she would make a good date....or even a good friend. yea my roommate is like that...slobers all over beautiful women and i say to him...are looks more important than personality?
Pedigree Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 are looks more important than personality? I'm afraid that we're in an age group where looks play an important role.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 I'm afraid that we're in an age group where looks play an important role. Oh i know looks play a role in our society...it just sucks its like that...so many great people go unnoticed
Blue Eyed Brain Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I think I'm below average in looks but I have ONLY dated quite attractive ladies...and sometimes had to fight them off. The secret has always been that I don't slobber all over them and I treat them with respect. I can't believe the idiotic ways men come on to beautiful women and the ladies seriously get tired of it. I treat them like anybody else and they go for that in a big way. Also, I usually don't ask them out until I've known them for a while. Just because a woman is drop dead gorgeous doesn't mean she would make a good date....or even a good friend. Not that I am special (I would like to think that I have inner beauty - because that's whats important), but the other day a man came up to me and started talking to me (in a retail store).... within 3 minutes he said "I am very well endowed." WTF? Why do people think they can be disrespectful? What a wanker!
Pedigree Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Oh i know looks play a role in our society...it just sucks its like that...so many great people go unnoticed Not talking about society in general. I'm just saying that in our age group (I'm 20, you're 19 if remember what you said in another thread correctly), looks will play a very important role. Guys want to be with that hot girl, girls want to be with that hot guy. I've only ever seen a handful of dudes my age with a girl whose looks are in the average/below average range.
imbewildered Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 you feel threatened because you think she will eventually find someone else.. or she will be hit on and eventually go with someone else. Geeez-- Most men are NOt threatened by beautiful woman at all. We stay away or are turned off by their belief in their bloated social value. Their massive egos and their superficiality is enough for me to go talk to someone else. If I sense the "princess" mentality in the initial convo, I just cut her off and walk away.
optimusprime Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Most beautiful women are not nice people, and they do not have to be nice because so many chumps out there fawn at them at first sight. Because beautiful women can treat people badly and still get what they want from dumb guys, they have little incentive to be kind, humble, or even nice. For me, I try to avoid beautiful women and I do not give them an inch if they try to pull any BS with me. Although a beautiful woman may have power during her youth, age is the great equalizer. It's hilarious to see how many single women there are in their 30's and 40's because they always felt they could better--now they're alone! Also, beautiful women in Europe, Asia, and South America tend to be more nice and kind than their counterparts in the U.S.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 Geeez-- Most men are NOt threatened by beautiful woman at all. We stay away or are turned off by their belief in their bloated social value. Their massive egos and their superficiality is enough for me to go talk to someone else. If I sense the "princess" mentality in the initial convo, I just cut her off and walk away. I agree somewhat..if a girl is like that...NEXT
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Geeez-- Most men are NOt threatened by beautiful woman at all. We stay away or are turned off by their belief in their bloated social value. Their massive egos and their superficiality is enough for me to go talk to someone else. If I sense the "princess" mentality in the initial convo, I just cut her off and walk away. Good for you.. then you won't feel threatened and won't be heartbroken... Stay within your league and everything will be fine..
trubella Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 it took my current bf 3 months to ask me out on a date because in his words "i didnt think i had a chance with u, you're out of my league" ive never understood that way of thinking, why not take a risk and ask the person out you never know what may happen. im glad he took that risk.
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Most beautiful women are not nice people, and they do not have to be nice because so many chumps out there fawn at them at first sight. Because beautiful women can treat people badly and still get what they want from dumb guys, they have little incentive to be kind, humble, or even nice. For me, I try to avoid beautiful women and I do not give them an inch if they try to pull any BS with me. Although a beautiful woman may have power during her youth, age is the great equalizer. It's hilarious to see how many single women there are in their 30's and 40's because they always felt they could better--now they're alone! Also, beautiful women in Europe, Asia, and South America tend to be more nice and kind than their counterparts in the U.S. Did it ever crossed your mind that maybe they PREFER to be single.. being single DO NOT mean being lonely... maybe they want more than one guy at their feet...
D-Lish Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I'm afraid that we're in an age group where looks play an important role. Looks still play an important role to me at my age!... which is why I date considerably younger. Maybe some will say it's shallow- but I honestly believe that people that take care of themselves and make an effort to stay in shape indicate a sense of self respect. If you act afraid or in awe of someone you deem to be out of your league- you're sunk- the other person will always sense that trepidation and see it as a turn off. If you approach someone as an equal, and treat them that way... they will view you that way. It's just the way it is. The worst thing a guy can do is approach me- or send me a message on a dating site with the opening words "I know I am probably out of your league, but..." That's a huge turn off! I just automatically assume they lack confidence. Just remember, hot girls don't always get approached because they are hot and they pose too much of a percieved challenge. So approach them with confidence and throw caution to the wind.
Trialbyfire Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Most beautiful women are not nice people, and they do not have to be nice because so many chumps out there fawn at them at first sight. Because beautiful women can treat people badly and still get what they want from dumb guys, they have little incentive to be kind, humble, or even nice. For me, I try to avoid beautiful women and I do not give them an inch if they try to pull any BS with me. Although a beautiful woman may have power during her youth, age is the great equalizer. It's hilarious to see how many single women there are in their 30's and 40's because they always felt they could better--now they're alone! Also, beautiful women in Europe, Asia, and South America tend to be more nice and kind than their counterparts in the U.S. This sounds so bitter. Sometimes attractive women get sick of being viewed for looks only, so they learn to stop being friendly to every male, since many guys feel this is a come on or an expression of interest.
Yamaha Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Women value looks just like men. Men learn that having a personality and confidence does not always get you the hot girl so they tend to protect their egos and go after girls that show interest. Having confidence is a huge help in dating women but you need to understand that there will be women that are only interested in someone they feel are up to their standards. Beautiful women, in general, do not date the average Joe so guys feel threatened by them because they do not meet their standards. Just look for that gal that is attractive to you and if you both have chemistry then she will be beautiful in your eyes and who cares what the world thinks.
Jake Barnes Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 This sounds so bitter. Sometimes attractive women get sick of being viewed for looks only, so they learn to stop being friendly to every male, since many guys feel this is a come on or an expression of interest.Well at least one beautiful woman commented on this thread
McLovely Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 While I do have my moments of fabulous "hotness", I would be considered more classically beautiful in the looks department. A little bit of Liz Taylor combined with the uniqueness of a Glenn Close. But I am not in any way shape or form a princess. I'm too darn down to earth for that. Plus, the men I am drawn to aren't necessarily "hunks". The way a man carries himself is far more important to me than if he has a receding hairline, crooked nose or a fleshy gut. Anyway, it's been my experience that men are far more intimidated to approach an intelligent, successful and confident woman than one who floats through life on looks alone. While physical attraction is important, I think that when a man is serious about finding a long-term mate he will look for those deeper qualities like intelligence, humor, positive attitude, nurturing spirit and confidence. If a woman presents herself with an air of strength and confidence (not to be mistaken for bitchiness, which is a whole other animal) and is very intelligent, she might intimidate a man who may worry if he can measure up to what he thinks her standards are. If you're lucky enough to be a woman blessed with looks and the above mentioned traits, you are at an even greater disadvantage when it comes to dating. Usually only very confident and competitive men will try to approach that kind of woman. Men who are more average in those departments will try their luck on what they believe is a more easily attainable woman.
Trialbyfire Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Well at least one beautiful woman commented on this thread While I'm flattered, false modesty aside, I'm attractive, not beautiful.
Jake Barnes Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 While I'm flattered, false modesty aside, I'm attractive, not beautiful.Thats usually the kind of thing a woman who is actually beautiful says
Trialbyfire Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Thats usually the kind of thing a woman who is actually beautiful says No, no, someone like Catherine Zeta-Jones is beautiful. Anyways, you should know me better than to think I have any false modesty!
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Geeez-- Most men are NOt threatened by beautiful woman at all. We stay away or are turned off by their belief in their bloated social value. Their massive egos and their superficiality is enough for me to go talk to someone else. If I sense the "princess" mentality in the initial convo, I just cut her off and walk away. Guys with low self esteem are scarred of highly attractive women. Other guys go out of thier way to hit on them. Me, I try to treat all women equally. Also, beautiful women in Europe, Asia, and South America tend to be more nice and kind than their counterparts in the U.S. I've always wondered about that myself. Why are so many U.S. women so bad like that? Has anyone noticed that women who are constantly told they are pretty, seem to only value themselves based on that? Isn't that sad?
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