FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I've been missing her all day. I came home early 'cuz I was kinda depressed. I was just lying in bed, missing her, and she freaking called. I didn't answer, and she hung up on the voicemail. I'm shaking. What does she want? It's been well over a month of NC.
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 Is anybody out there? Is she just messin' with me? WTF?????!!!!!
stlnsmile Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I don't know Faux, but I would leave it alone for a bit. See if she leaves a message telling you what she wants. I really really would. It just causes paaaiiinnnnnn!
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 She won't leave a message 'cuzza what happened last time. The only way I would talk to her now would be in person, and I'd have to be in the right mood, which I am right now. I'm kinda waiting around now. heh
underpants Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Calm down sweetie. Yes, she is just messing with you. If she had something to say she would have left a message. She didn't leave a message because she knew you would see that she called and is testing your desperation. Weak move by her, if I do say so. Don't give her that satisfaction. However, take a little silent satisfaction that you didn't take the bait. Don't give in. Trust me, this will mess with her much more then responding. Just leave it be. If you can keep it up and work on yourself, the script will flip. I know it is hard, but you sound much better then when you did contact her. You don't want to go back to that feeling do you? It will get better with time.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Sorry, I don't know your situation.... however, I kinda know women. It's not a booty call (like men do after a few). She called because of one of two things (1) she is hurting and needs to talk and/or (2) she wants to hear your voice, as she misses you, too. Now, you can choose to accept or deny her calls, but can you deny your feelings? What are you feeling? Is it the : I will never get laid again feeling or the: I actually love/miss her? Once you decided which feeling it is, then act on it, accordingly. Best wishes to you.
foxh1234 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Hi Y, she called just to f**k with your head a bit more. She knows your getting better and getting over her and she doesn't like that. She would rather have you sitting around crying over her. You are getting better, F**k her and her new man. Keep doing NC and moving on.
stlnsmile Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 The way I see it is this, maybe things aren't going so great in paradise, maybe he's turning out to be a real jerk....lets say you rush in to save the day, and she knows once again you are always there to have her back just as you always were before......she knows she can have you.....uhhhmmm what have you gained.....respect? The feeling by her that she can not just have you whenever she wants? That maybe loosing you....if she really ever thought she did......which she doesn't right now......that loosing you is a bad thing and she made a mistake? If you run to her right now...I think it puts you in such a huge position of weakness...if she wants something real...if she's really reaslized her mistake, she will keep trying, she will show up at your door to talk about what a fool she has been. Anything short of that is a power move...shes checking your pulse to see if your still around. Don't fall for that bait. If things really aren't that great in paradise, then let her suffer the consequences and deal with what she has done. If she is calling to get her socks back.....let her wait.....a really really long time? Dude...come on!
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 Text Mr. Wonderful, "Why is your girlfriend calling me?"?
Blue Eyed Brain Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Hi Y, she called just to f**k with your head a bit more. She knows your getting better and getting over her and she doesn't like that. She would rather have you sitting around crying over her. You are getting better, F**k her and her new man. Keep doing NC and moving on. Sorry, but I respectfully disagree. I, myself would never do this, do I know or would recommend this to any friends. Women may tease a guy during courtship, but if love is between them, then the woman usually is straightforward in the relationship. (at least from my experience). I truly think she needed to talk to him (maybe not all lovey dovey) but she is reaching out. NOw, the poster can call or disregard. The choice is his.
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 She just called again, but I was on the other line, and didn't answer. She can tell when I'm on the other line so whatever. She must be having a boring 4th. heh She's prolly drunk, and yeah, needs to satisfy her need to hear my voice, and make herself feel better, 'cuz she has a free minute to call me now. I clearly told her how it was gonna be, but for some reason, she didn't believe me.
underpants Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Let it ride my friend. Let it ride. Don't call Mr. NotsoWonderful. A second time is not so good. Nah. That is no good. Just relax and enjoy the show.
sid3 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I if you decide to talk to her, better to remain aloof. I agree with UP. no reply will get to her the most
vivrantflo Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I clearly told her how it was gonna be, but for some reason, she didn't believe me. Good man, let her sit in it. Think about how it looks from her end.. She doesn't know you're hurting as bad as you are, cause you've been amazing with NC. She's realizing that you're moving on. Please don't answer the phone when she calls.. she could easily say something to set you off, and give her back the power. Right now, you totally have it. She's "reaching out" to you. Wait till she leaves a voice mail, which she will eventually, and see what she has to say. And even after that, don't call her back. You gotta admit Y, it feels great ignoring her calls doesn't it?
Issues & tissues Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Y, I have read a lot of your posts over the past months and I can see that you are clearly making progress. DON'T let a couple of missed calls set you back. You will speak to her when you are ready and on your terms only - not a minute sooner. Be strong. Be in control. Nothing is more alluring and appealing to the opposite sex than someone who is in control of their life. My ex and I have been apart 6 months and I have been on strict NC for almost 4 months. A few days ago he wrote to me. I have not replied. It is comforting to know that they still sometimes think of us. But it is empowering to know that we have the strength to look fate in the eyes and take control of our lives.
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 I turned my phone off, and went to bed. I think I'm gonna change my #.
Chinook Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I think I'm gonna change my #. That's what I did in the end. When it finally came down to me and working out what was best for me, I realised I didn't want him even having access to being able to communicate with me in any way shape or form and even now, a year later he's still blocked on all electronic communications.
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 Here's what she would've said if I answered: Scenario 1: Hey, I miss you (but not enough to come over, I just needed to get my "fix" of you for the next month or so). Scenario 2: I'm just calling to say "hi". (This is to check in, make sure I am suffering, and not doing **** on the 4th of July.) Scenario 3: I need my record player back. (Too bad, I had to buy a new needle for it, and it wasn't cheap.) Scenario 4: Did you do something to my e-mail? heh **** her.
foxh1234 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Here's what she would've said if I answered: Scenario 1: Hey, I miss you (but not enough to come over, I just needed to get my "fix" of you for the next month or so). Scenario 2: I'm just calling to say "hi". (This is to check in, make sure I am suffering, and not doing **** on the 4th of July.) Scenario 3: I need my record player back. (Too bad, I had to buy a new needle for it, and it wasn't cheap.) Scenario 4: Did you do something to my e-mail? heh **** her. Your right Y, congrats on staying strong. Great work my friend!! Keep it up, you have come a long long way.
ioncebelieved Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Man that was something great for me to wake up to!!! I am not kidding either Y!!!! I have seen what you have been through and know your story fairly well. Regardless of why she is calling, it makes you the winner right now!! I would keep to what you said about talking to her. If she shows at your door step then great!! This is a feel good story indeed!!!! Even if she is messing with you, you still are winning. Should feel great and envy your position and at the same time feel good for you!
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 What are you feeling? Is it the : I will never get laid again feeling You ARE TALKING TO THE Y!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111
iwish Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 That's fantastic Y. You're moving on and i'm very happy for you.
Author FauxVowel Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 i LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111
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