celinedion1 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Well I thought that my ex and i were able to be friends. As it turns out thats not true at all. He told me today after telling me how much i mean to him that he's been using me and that he doesn't mean what he says to me. He has a gf in indiana Iwhos hes never met) and hes been telling me that he will probably end up marrying me and that he still loves me however he goes into my bathroom and calls her and tells her that he loves her and that he cant wait to see her. So today after the lightbulb going off on realizing what a jerk he really is, I'm deciding on whether or not its worth it to even be freinds with him. A part of me wants to be friends with him because of the person who he used to be however as time goes on, I'm realizing more and more what a jerk and a sleezeball he's become. I just feel so confussed and sad right now....I just feel so used and stupid.
johan Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Just take the right steps going forward. Don't worry about what has already gone on. You were doing what you thought was the right thing, and that's nothing to feel bad about. You've gotten more information, and now you know that you must do something new. Feel good that you found out now, and you can improve your choice. Trying to be friends with him is not something I recommend. Especially because it's not out of appreciation for who he is. You'll feel better if you let him go.
Author celinedion1 Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 Just take the right steps going forward. Don't worry about what has already gone on. You were doing what you thought was the right thing, and that's nothing to feel bad about. You've gotten more information, and now you know that you must do something new. Feel good that you found out now, and you can improve your choice. Trying to be friends with him is not something I recommend. Especially because it's not out of appreciation for who he is. You'll feel better if you let him go. Thank you so much for your kind words. I know I need to let him go and I'm just surprised at what a maggot he's become. He's left me with so much pain to deal with. I know I will one day find someone who's right for me, and who will treat me right. However right now I need to focus on me and getting myself mentally healthy again. I don't know what happened to his heart and his compassion but it seems to of gotten lost somewhere. After 5 years of being together he cheated on me with the girl who lives in indiana. I then thought that we could be friends, didn't happen because the whole time I thought that we had a friendship, he was just using me for his own comfort and selfishness. He told me today that he has a girlfriend who hes cheating on with me. He then asked me which one was more important. I gave him my answer and he told me that his gf (who hes never met) is more imporatant than someone who's been in his life and gone through everythin with him since he was 15. When his family was about to lose their house my mom helped him get a job to save it. As repayment he cheats on me, then uses me for his own selfishness. I just feel so used, I know I need to move on with my life and find happiness but how do I do that after being told that everything I thought was a lie? The friendship I thought that we had was a lie, everything that he told me was a lie. I just wish I knew what to think and how to find true happiness. I wish I knew how to feel true happiness because currently I feel so confussed like everything is spinning....I feel like im in hell.
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