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When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering

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Personality.

 

Looks come later. Along with height.

 

Maybe that's where I'm going wrong, maybe I need to just go for the pretty boys. :D

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Personality.

 

Looks come later. Along with height.

 

Maybe that's where I'm going wrong, maybe I need to just go for the pretty boys. :D

 

I know personality but say your at a party and you see a guy you like...what is it that gets you right off the bat?

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Blonde hair. Followed by a sweet smile. Oh... also he has to be tall. I don't entertain short men. Sorry. :D

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When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering

 

Face...............

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Well built body and nice face. Neither is more important than the other, got to have both.

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Blonde hair. Followed by a sweet smile. Oh... also he has to be tall. I don't entertain short men. Sorry. :D

 

 

Well i got one good thing on my side.. i am 6'1

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Well i got one good thing on my side.. i am 6'1
Oooh, where did you say you lived again...? :D
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Oooh, where did you say you lived again...? :D

 

 

haha well... yea its ok being tall...and yea all girls i know like tall guys so i guess its all good. Even though it hasnt worked that way yet

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Well, overall impression at first. (Coloring, height, build, how he carries himself, blah blah blah.) Then the face.

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When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering

For me, I don't know what it is that gets me. When I see a guy I automatically notice if he is attractive to me, but even if he has a nice face and body, maybe I'll feel sparks, or maybe I won't. Sometimes he's not even attractive physically, but I am attracted anyways. I really am waiting to find a pattern, but so far I can't find a rhyme or a reason to it. I do or I don't like him and I can't be sure what chooses how I feel.

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How he carries himself. If he struts, lurks, minces or drags his feet around, forget it!

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I agree with MissDeath - it's the overall appearance to me. Like how they carry themselves - I think it's completely true when someone who doesn't look like they have confidence aren't attractive. Even IF they are good looking.

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Eyes with that special spark.

athletic body, or thin but strong.

Manly man, good personality....self confidence.

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In this order:

 

- Posture and carriage: Shoulders up. Chin level, not staring at the ground when talking to people. Economy and grace of motion. Expressive but not showy gestures. Can look you in the eye without making it a challenge.

 

- Overall appearance of health and decent strength. Not overweight. Not overly frail. Clear, bright eyes, muscle coordination. Some amount of care and pride for their appearance, and I don't mean gym-rat muscles or designer clothing, but at least proper personal hygiene and acceptance of their body, whatever type it is. I dated a guy who had a secret loathing of his body, and instead of doing anything about it, he would neglect his body (junk food, no exercise, would never wear short sleeved shirts, etc) and it just made it worse.

 

Everything else - height, coloring, details of facial features, etc, really doesn't matter. I can grow to like that stuff later, but the above is what attracts me first.

 

You can also tell a lot about a new guy (or a girl) from how he is with an unfamiliar dog. :)

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I could not help but to say this, but you gals have some superficial things going on here. I will admit there are certain things that I look for, but come on. It would be the same thing if I said I do not like fat girls. You women would think badly of me.

 

I will say this, I am about 5'7" at best and have dated model women at 5'11". Being shorter than average is my only problem I would say. I have many other great qualities and Yeah I think that I am nice looking fellow. I guess that I see this "height" thing mentioned quite a lot especially on dating sites and have even dated women saying that I would not pass their initial height requirement.

 

In defense of you ladies here, I date women from 5ft-6ft, thin to a few pounds overweight.

 

I basically have a wider range of what I will accept than you guys, but you could miss out on someone very special because you are being too superficial.

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I could not help but to say this, but you gals have some superficial things going on here. I will admit there are certain things that I look for, but come on. It would be the same thing if I said I do not like fat girls. You women would think badly of me.

 

I will say this, I am about 5'7" at best and have dated model women at 5'11". Being shorter than average is my only problem I would say. I have many other great qualities and Yeah I think that I am nice looking fellow. I guess that I see this "height" thing mentioned quite a lot especially on dating sites and have even dated women saying that I would not pass their initial height requirement.

 

In defense of you ladies here, I date women from 5ft-6ft, thin to a few pounds overweight.

 

I basically have a wider range of what I will accept than you guys, but you could miss out on someone very special because you are being too superficial.

Man, havent you figured out that women are far more superficial than men yet?

 

If you dont believe me ask 99% of men in relationships who controls everything related to keeing up apearances?

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It is always the eyes first for me.

That is what will attract me initially.

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I could not help but to say this, but you gals have some superficial things going on here. I will admit there are certain things that I look for, but come on. It would be the same thing if I said I do not like fat girls. You women would think badly of me.

 

I will say this, I am about 5'7" at best and have dated model women at 5'11". Being shorter than average is my only problem I would say. I have many other great qualities and Yeah I think that I am nice looking fellow. I guess that I see this "height" thing mentioned quite a lot especially on dating sites and have even dated women saying that I would not pass their initial height requirement.

 

In defense of you ladies here, I date women from 5ft-6ft, thin to a few pounds overweight.

 

I basically have a wider range of what I will accept than you guys, but you could miss out on someone very special because you are being too superficial.

 

This was a first thing you notice question. Can't speak for everyone else but I know I took it literally. I suspect everyone else did too.

 

When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering

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First attraction is always - height, face and smile.

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This was a first thing you notice question. Can't speak for everyone else but I know I took it literally. I suspect everyone else did too.

 

I was guilty of that as well. The thread really did not concern me, but I was curious to some of the answers. Really it was a broad question to ask. Just many ways to make women seem awful if she continued with her grocery list of what she was looking for.

 

Not sure how guys profiles are, but I see this a lot with women. It really shows how shallow they are. We all have our preferences. Quick example: Ask the same simple question but turn the gender over to men. SEE HOW BAD THIS LOOKS:

1) Gorgeous face

2) Blonde hair

3) Blue/ green eyes

4) Thin athletic body w/ flat stomach and NO STRETCH marks.

5) Nice breasts

6) Nice rear

7) Smooth and shapely legs

8) NO KIDS. NO KIDS. NO KIDS

9) High paying job so you can pay some of the way.

10) Nice sweet voice with NO hint of masculine qualities.

11) At least 5ft6

12) Smooth, silky skin

13) Whatever else I decide on as we go along

 

Okay, my point is over. Just pointing out that people are out there that do this sort of thing and honestly someone along the way lied to them and told them they are a princess. Original question should have been kept simple, but it is NOT just one thing you notice about someone it is several.

 

I am off my soapbox and I did hijack the thread. I just think people should stick to what they will accept, but do not be surprised if you do not get exactly what you are looking for.

 

Sorry for jacking with the thread. I am still bitter and spend most of my time over in Coping.:)

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I was guilty of that as well. The thread really did not concern me, but I was curious to some of the answers. Really it was a broad question to ask. Just many ways to make women seem awful if she continued with her grocery list of what she was looking for.

 

Not sure how guys profiles are, but I see this a lot with women. It really shows how shallow they are. We all have our preferences. Quick example: Ask the same simple question but turn the gender over to men. SEE HOW BAD THIS LOOKS:

1) Gorgeous face

2) Blonde hair

3) Blue/ green eyes

4) Thin athletic body w/ flat stomach and NO STRETCH marks.

5) Nice breasts

6) Nice rear

7) Smooth and shapely legs

8) NO KIDS. NO KIDS. NO KIDS

9) High paying job so you can pay some of the way.

10) Nice sweet voice with NO hint of masculine qualities.

11) At least 5ft6

12) Smooth, silky skin

13) Whatever else I decide on as we go along

 

Okay, my point is over. Just pointing out that people are out there that do this sort of thing and honestly someone along the way lied to them and told them they are a princess. Original question should have been kept simple, but it is NOT just one thing you notice about someone it is several.

 

I am off my soapbox and I did hijack the thread. I just think people should stick to what they will accept, but do not be surprised if you do not get exactly what you are looking for.

 

Sorry for jacking with the thread. I am still bitter and spend most of my time over in Coping.:)

At first glance is one thing, getting to know them and having a completely shallow/superficial grocery list is another.

 

I think most (not all) women (based on the gender within the opening post of this thread) will confirm that once it goes beyond the first glance, personality and less shallow attributes, will trump first glance impressions.

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At first glance is one thing, getting to know them and having a completely shallow/superficial grocery list is another.

 

I think most (not all) women (based on the gender within the opening post of this thread) will confirm that once it goes beyond the first glance, personality and less shallow attributes, will trump first glance impressions.

 

You're the best!!!! Well put!!! It should be that way. I will agree initial attraction is a must.

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You're the best!!!! Well put!!! It should be that way. I will agree initial attraction is a must.

Thanks. :)

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At first glance is one thing, getting to know them and having a completely shallow/superficial grocery list is another.

 

I think most (not all) women (based on the gender within the opening post of this thread) will confirm that once it goes beyond the first glance, personality and less shallow attributes, will trump first glance impressions.

 

 

I think we all have a description in our mind of the ideal mate and I'm sure lots of men would go with your list. But, after first glance and meeting we all become attracted to the less superficial qualities of our partners. I'm sure your list was exactly what my husband was looking for also and then he met me, a far cry from your list!:)

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