Whitefox123 Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 [sIZE=2]Alright….so long story short: [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]I was engaged to a man for almost 2 years. We were together almost 3. Overall we had a great relationship…..we had problems of course though like every couple, but they never lasted long (a few days tops!) and we went back to our old happy selves. Well our relationship ended last week because basically he said I pushed him away. I didn’t like him being so friendly with a few women on myspace/work and he didn’t respect that it made me uncomfortable and it ended up tearing our relationship apart as it because a vicious ciricle.He’d talk to them, I’d get upset..and make comments…he’d get upset w/ me…then I’d get upset for him being so upset and so on and so forth. When we ended our relationship we agreed that we would try hard to remain best friends. And before he left my house for the night we were hugging and basically refused to let go of each other. I knew that once I let go….he would really be gone. Not forever…but just as my lover. He kept telling me that maybe the situation will change between us. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Well, I must say that we have talked every single day for this last week. He basically was telling me he was going to be upset with it being the 4th of july and all and we always said we would get married on or the weekend of the 4th. He also always teases me because I am spending a lot of time with my friends and doing the things that him and I were supposed to do this summer but never got around to it. I think we even agreed last night to get together next week for lunch and just catch up. Oh yes and he joked about celebrating the 4th together....just the two of us! He sounded upset when I told him that his mom asked me to come by and I told her no, he asked me why I didn’t want to go. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]He says he’s happier to me, but I have my ways of finding out and he’s telling people that he is upset about us. At one point the said he was a mess and hes feeling really down. He basically told me last night that he misses having me around the house (I talk A LOT and he was teasing me for that saying it was quieter) but see he’ll tell me he misses certain things but then he’ll say, but I still feel the way I did before (as far as his unhappiness in our relationship due to my getting upset that he was talking to other girls all the time!) [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]So this is where I get confused because I feel like maybe he is trying to deny his romantic feelings about me because of everything that happened. I understand being upset and thinking about how we were supposed to get married, but if you’re really that much happier w/out me then why are you even thinking about it? Especially when it wasn’t going to happen for another 2 years. I know I am trying to act tough and act like I don’t miss him but I have let on in little ways (such as asking him if he wante dto do lunch…but again that was AFTER he asked me about spending the 4th with just him) a few days after it happened we talked about still wanting to kiss each other…and it got brought up last night and that’s when he decided to change the subject (after we were seriously asking each other questions about how the other one was feeling ). Why do we end up talking about US so much (he said last night too that he feels tension between us…he said its not bad tension but like with some of the things we both say all of the time….) [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]So my question is, first of all….is it weird that we’re still close after a breakup? Everyone says we shouldn’t talk but it is very hard! Secondly, does it sound like maybe he’s having a really hard time letting go? I mean I know you don’t walk away from someone you were going to marry, you don’t forget those feelings for awhile…but how come every time we talk we both end up somewhat dwelling on the feelings (even if he is saying that its only friendly feelings now) In my heart, I still have hope for us….I still feel that hes going to turn around and tell me it was all a big mistake! I’m thinking that it is just wishful thinking though on my part…I honestly feel this is temporary. Again maybe it is just wishful thinking on my part. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Anyone have thoughts on this situation and what I should or could be doing? Besides not talking with him…because yeah I’m a failure at that! [/sIZE] [sIZE=2][/sIZE]
kizik Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 If you make this shorter and edit it so it's easy on the eyes, you will get some responses.
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