Corinne Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 This helped me to not become bitter.... http://www.soulstudiohome.com/2007/12/how-to-love-others-in-highest-ways.html although I did feel better when I could be hateful about it, I didn't really feel better, its hard work to evolve into a better person but that IS where love should take you
Ariadne Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 This helped me to not become bitter.... http://www.soulstudiohome.com/2007/12/how-to-love-others-in-highest-ways.html although I did feel better when I could be hateful about it, I didn't really feel better, its hard work to evolve into a better person but that IS where love should take you (I clicked on the link and I got a window saying my computer has been infected with a virus.)
Author Corinne Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 never had that? its a shame cos its good stuff to read
Ariadne Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 never had that? its a shame cos its good stuff to read Yeah, maybe it was just me. Nevermind. I'm scanning now.
Ariadne Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 never had that? its a shame cos its good stuff to read Yikes! I went to the link again, and again it told me I've been infected with two viruses. I got them deleted but still scanning.
Author Corinne Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 I will copy n paste then How to Love others in your Highest way There are many ways how we express love to another. I have once heard someone said that giving love is about sacrifice. I find that a bit off the mark. What is his definition of sacrifice? Is it giving all he has to another to make them happy? Sacrifice is of course a very noble act – but it has to be based on pure intentions of really wanting the best for another. If it’s out of wanting approval and love from another, the foundation is not love anymore; it’s fear of losing another. When it comes to loving another, it's best to always question what the underlying motive is to find the highest way of loving them. Loving someone in the highest way is… [COLOR=#CC33CC]Loving them while loving yourself completely[/COLOR] Only when we can love ourselves that our love for others would be whole and complete. Because only then we don’t want anything back from them as we are whole and full ourselves – there’s nothing missing. This means everything from wanting best for our highest self first to acknowledging and loving every part of us – the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. While it’s noble to give everything to another, how can we love another truly and completely when our love tanks are running on empty? What happens is we tend to latch on another to get that love fuel. This means the most loving thing to do is to love ourselves completely first, learning how to fill that love tank on our own without needing to turn to another for something we, with our divinity, can do on our own. This then releases us to completely and truly love another because there are no attachments and expectations. [COLOR=#CC33CC]Sparking the love that already exists within themselves[/COLOR] While ‘giving love’ sounds like a loving thing do, what is the basis of this ‘giving’? Is it letting another attach a hose to us as if we are a gas tank and allow them to fill their love tanks with our energy according to how much they can ‘pay’? Or is giving love means showering them with your best intentions of wanting them to grow into their highest self? If it’s the latter, giving of love becomes giving a spark of light that the other can use to see the dark spaces where love can be found. Giving love, as i see it, can also be as simple as having merely an intention to want the other to find joy, happiness and all the good things on their own. Again, it goes back to the why we are giving love. [COLOR=#CC33CC]Helping them towards self growth[/COLOR] Loving others the highest way is seeing the big picture of the other's life, and not what you want from them. It is helping them unfold their divinity and helping them achieve the growth that is for their highest good. It answers the question: how may I serve this person's growth and highest purpose in the highest way? in doing so, you are also opening up avenues for your own growth. You see, again, it goes back to balanced giving and receiving. Loving others does not mean helping them to do things that are meant for their growth. It does not mean solving their problems for them. It also does not mean spoonfeeding them with so much of your light, love and energy that they cannot see their own. Loving somebody is helping them see their light, love and energy because they, too, are divine. [COLOR=#CC33CC]Loving someone through their soul, not their personality self[/COLOR] To be able to see and appreciate another’s soul and divinity is the highest way you can love him/her. It is going beyond their personality self – which might be anything from being arrogant to being shy and weak. It is loving their soulful potential, knowing they too are walking towards their highest self. It is also not indulging in their ego-personalities. This means if you see something that does not resonate with your values and beliefs, you can choose to say No and walk away. For example if your group of friends has a love for gossiping and putting down others, and you know this doesn’t reflect their higher selves, don’t indulge that by pretending you do too because you don’t want to be a misfit in the group. You can gently steer the conversation back to more wholesome discussion. If that doesn’t change a thing, remember that the most loving thing to do can be to walk away. You are not responsible to solve another’s problem or karma ties – it is for their own lesson because within that they can grow. I won’t lie that sometimes loving another through their soul, and refusing to oblige to their lower personalities can cause you to lose popularity points – in fact you may find yourself losing friends. So look at the bigger picture. By withdrawing your attention energy to their ego-personality behavior, it is helping the other to transcend it too. [COLOR=#CC33CC]Loving someone enough to lose their attention[/COLOR] As the above, sometimes loving others through the soul means giving up your need for them to accept you. Many of us do things in the name of love where in truth we are actually doing it to get love back from the other. This way of loving others may sometimes cause relationships to fade because the personality self cannot handle it yet. This is especially prevalent when how you choose to love others means to stop giving them energy because you know they can find it on their own. [COLOR=#CC33CC]Loving them in freedom[/COLOR] Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for others is to just let them be. Have faith in them that they would know what to do in times of challenges. It’s already sufficed to just be there with loving support for them. Loving others is setting them free to be who they, to make their own mistakes and to learn their own lessons. If you keep taking all that away for them because you want them to live an easy life, you are actually being a hurdle. while the intention is good, you are actually being in the way of their natural growth towards their highest selves. See challenges not as hardships but vas ladders towards growth. To love others is to have faith that they have the inner power and faculties to climb that ladder. My mentor once said that our Higher Selves are always looking over us and they are always concerned about the company we keep. So when friendships fade, let them be. “But”, he added, “love always has a way of bringing things back together again, which is all inclusive and draws everything to it through love.”
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