Jasmine777 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I have been dating a guy for about a month now. We had the most wonderful, magical dates and we clicked so well! We both have similar interests, morals, values and so forth. I thought he was the most wonderful, well rounded guy out there so I was starting to really like him a lot. All of a sudden he started to drop out of the picture, he wasn't calling as much but we still hung out sometimes. Every date we had was just a blast but I was starting to feel a little uneasy about him not calling as much as he previously had done. So all of a sudden we stopped talking all together except for he every once in a while text me to see how I was doing. I did a little research and I found that he is going after an 18 year old girl. Now what I would like to know is why would a 26 year old guy who is not out of college, seems intelligent, go after an 18 year old who is just starting college. This guy and I are the same age with similar goals and we are both done with college and he totally blew me off and lied to me because he is interested in a very young 18 year old. Can anyone tell me why a man that age would go for someone that young and stop calling me. I just feel very confused about the situation because he went around telling everyone I was the one and then he dumped me for someone way younger then him!
wareagle Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 How hot is this 18 yr old!! No seriously it sounds like this guy is out for one thing! I don't think I have to tell you what that is? Did you guys ever get intimate? Some guy's aren't mature or ready to settle down at such a young age despite what he tells you! His actions speak louder than words!
CailinPig Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Age isn't always an issue. I know the age gap sound slarge, but there could be one of two reasons: 1) The guy wants a hot young girl 2) He just simply likes this girl, regardless of her age. I'd say it's no. 2, to be honest with you
Enema Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 How many more years do you think he can "get away" with dating 18 year olds? He's doing it (her) while he still can.
v33 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 How many more years do you think he can "get away" with dating 18 year olds? He's doing it (her) while he still can. This probably has a lot to do with it. Or maybe they love each other. Who knows? My 37 year old ex left me for a 58 year old man. People do strange things. Don't worry too much about it, she will screw him over eventually.
dazed.1 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I agree with wareagle; but also, because younger women are more easily manipulated. They are fresh, they haven't "wisened up" if you will...he sounds like a total creep!
dazed.1 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 This probably has a lot to do with it. Or maybe they love each other. Who knows? My 37 year old ex left me for a 58 year old man. People do strange things. Don't worry too much about it, she will screw him over eventually. 37 and 58 is different than 18 and 26....there is a big gap in maturity and life experiences between an 18 and 26 year old, he is a creep
northstar1 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 37 and 58 is different than 18 and 26....there is a big gap in maturity and life experiences between an 18 and 26 year old, he is a creep When do you think the biggest age gaps come into play, in terms of generational differences (X vs Y etc) and goals/life plans etc? 18-26? 25-35? 35-45/50?
Author Jasmine777 Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 We actually never got passed first base! He acted like he was afraid to kiss me!! I just thought he was being very respectful and taking things show. So I am not sure he really is after one thing. This girl is not even what I would think is that pretty, actually she looks like a little girl!
BoooredGuy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Easy. It's the sex. I'm his age, and I have a lot of 18 - early 20 year olds who flirt with me, hit on me, etc. I don't act on it because I know better. It's also too easy, like shooting fish in a barrel. However, I do know guys who chase after 18 - early 20 year olds, and some of them are 30ish. These guys don't want to settle down yet, and the young girls love them. At the same time, these guys have a hard time with relationships with women 25+, as women (and men) tend to wisen up by then.
torranceshipman Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Its about hookin up with a hot young 18yr old, hes blatantly not in this for her personality, lol! But you guys didnt even get past the kissing stage anyways, so it doesnt sound like it even got that serious between you....maybe he also decided to leave it with you before it got more physical, ie more complicated, because he knew it wouldnt get serious between you both anyway?
The Collector Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Ha, when you girls were 18 you were all about the older man, then as you get older and a new crop appears on the market, you change your minds... Having said that, when I was 26 I'd have found an 18 year old quite immature... but maturity isn't everything. Sometimes you have to teach them stuff. Mutually beneficial arrangement I guess.
bish Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I did a little research and I found that he is going after an 18 year old girl. Now what I would like to know is why would a 26 year old guy who is not out of college, seems intelligent, go after an 18 year old who is just starting college. This guy and I are the same age with similar goals and we are both done with college and he totally blew me off and lied to me because he is interested in a very young 18 year old. Can anyone tell me why a man that age would go for someone that young and stop calling me. Because for a guy in college, he aint too bright. He is thinking with his vienna sausage and not his head.
AnLandy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 We actually never got passed first base! He acted like he was afraid to kiss me!! I just thought he was being very respectful and taking things show. So I am not sure he really is after one thing. This girl is not even what I would think is that pretty, actually she looks like a little girl! That could be your answer. Maybe he was just sexually inexperienced or didn't have a lot of sexual confidence. Maybe he thought that an 18-old-partner would be less likely to notice his "inadequacies".
Trialbyfire Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I have been dating a guy for about a month now. We had the most wonderful, magical dates and we clicked so well! We both have similar interests, morals, values and so forth. I thought he was the most wonderful, well rounded guy out there so I was starting to really like him a lot. All of a sudden he started to drop out of the picture, he wasn't calling as much but we still hung out sometimes. Every date we had was just a blast but I was starting to feel a little uneasy about him not calling as much as he previously had done. So all of a sudden we stopped talking all together except for he every once in a while text me to see how I was doing. I did a little research and I found that he is going after an 18 year old girl. Now what I would like to know is why would a 26 year old guy who is not out of college, seems intelligent, go after an 18 year old who is just starting college. This guy and I are the same age with similar goals and we are both done with college and he totally blew me off and lied to me because he is interested in a very young 18 year old. Can anyone tell me why a man that age would go for someone that young and stop calling me. I just feel very confused about the situation because he went around telling everyone I was the one and then he dumped me for someone way younger then him! I'm not certain an answer would help you. Do you really want a guy who's willing to give up a relationship for someone who's that immature or worse yet, for some tail? He's showing you who he really is.
brokenthinker Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I have been dating a guy for about a month now. We had the most wonderful, magical dates and we clicked so well! We both have similar interests, morals, values and so forth. I thought he was the most wonderful, well rounded guy out there so I was starting to really like him a lot. All of a sudden he started to drop out of the picture, he wasn't calling as much but we still hung out sometimes. Every date we had was just a blast but I was starting to feel a little uneasy about him not calling as much as he previously had done. So all of a sudden we stopped talking all together except for he every once in a while text me to see how I was doing. I did a little research and I found that he is going after an 18 year old girl. Now what I would like to know is why would a 26 year old guy who is not out of college, seems intelligent, go after an 18 year old who is just starting college. This guy and I are the same age with similar goals and we are both done with college and he totally blew me off and lied to me because he is interested in a very young 18 year old. Can anyone tell me why a man that age would go for someone that young and stop calling me. I just feel very confused about the situation because he went around telling everyone I was the one and then he dumped me for someone way younger then him! Take it from a guy who himself was interested in a young 18yr old girl, I am 25. Not only was she attractive but she was very smart and very fun to be with. I always enjoyed her company and had a great time. However that being said, despite the fact we got along super super great, she was 18 and still quite immature and it didn't last, she had a wandering eye if you know what i mean. So don't worry, most likely it will not last, at 18 your considered an adult... but most 18 year olds still have a lot of growing up to do, and they are in fact still maturing and developing at that stage.
claycald Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 oh wow.... 8 year difference big deal... i didnt read all of ur post but there is nothing wrong in a 8 year difference... my parents are 11 years different. hell a friend of mine married a man who can be her dad. she is 23 he is 56
notgoodatthis Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Hi. I'm almost 40 and I still love young girls, here's why. 1. Most of the time, their bodies are nice and everything is soft and intact. 2. They're cooler to talk to because they haven't developed that stuck-up attitude that women get in their 20s. 3. Younger girls are at the age when they're looking for acceptance and are excited to meet new people. They make much better conversationalists this way and they don't have a lot of baggage or walls around them preventing them from opening up. 4. They are tons more fun!
vivrantflo Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Ahh, this 26 year old is in for some major heartbreak if he plans to take this chick serious. I would know. I met my ex when I was 25, and she was 18. Close enough. At first I was skeptical, and planned to have fun with her, cause she was so young. But she insisted that she was mature, blah blah. When you're 26, you're lookin to settle. When you're 18, you're fickle as all hell, you don't know what you want, and you're just looking to get your feet wet. He's not calling you, cause this 18 year old girl is gassing up his head with confidence, and performing every single sexual request this guy asks of her. But don't let this bother you. Cause when he turns 29 30, (if they make it that long) she'll be 21 22.. She would have already invested 3 years to him, but she's STILL in that fickle stage of wanting to "find herself" and all that crap. He'll propose, she'll say yeah, they'll get divorced cause some greaseball will hit on her in the mall or something... she'll leave him, and then he'll create an account on Loveshack asking us what the hell happend to his marriage. Don't worry about him. For a 26 year old to have a relationship with an 18 year old, means he's really immature for his age, or he's just using her for the sex.
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