kizik Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I had this idea tonight that if we took the opposite view we have of our ex and wrote to them sarcastically, we could see what we were missing from the R. Maybe you guys will like this - otherwise it will be another dead thread. * Dear X, thank you for reacting maturely when I requested you send me a picture of your new haircut. "Sure!" you said. "I know, it'll probably take some getting used to." I'm so glad you didn't feel insulted or react with a tantrum, that you didn't make a mountain out of a simple request. Thank you SO much for not taking that job 200 miles away, and putting us in an LDR. You know I would have supported you had you went b/c I loved you, but you staying in town and waiting until you got a job here meant SO much to me. You knew we wouldn't be able to handle an LDR and you stayed here for the health of the R. And I respect that so much. X, I really appreciate how you always put me first. Whenever you came into town, you wanted to see me first, and maybe if you had time, your parents later on. I'm SO glad you're not dependent on them, and that they don't spoil you with affection and attention. After all, you're 25 and too old for that! Thank you for always being calm, rational, and mature. Thank you for respecting my opinions, especially when they differed from yours. Thank you for being affectionate and responsive to my needs. And thank you for letting me know immediately when the R wasn't working for you. Your honest, forthright way of dealing with it will make me respect you forever.
JustinWolf Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Hey sure I'll pitch in Hmm Hey (can I call her X? or did you trademark that or am I in violation of some copyrights you may have on said above post?) Anyways Hey X, you know me and you, it was good. You just had to always leave early because you were scared that your parents would get mad but hey, me getting mad didn't seem to get you worried. I only got mad because I wanted to spend more time together because you know, in love, you usually want to be with the person and see them come to you, not leave. I got mad, I'm sorry. How did you react? You got yourself a brand new boyfriend. Oh well, geez, perfect. Then you break up with him, got my hopes up for nothing and you told me you'd never be with a guy again (don't worry though, I knew that wasn't true...) A couple days later, you're back with him. How romantic. Not just that but I HAD to see a picture of you and him holding each other like you were about to go at it right on the dance floor or whereever you took that damn picture. Also I talked about the future with you because I wanted to build a freaken' future with you. You know marriage and kids and a house etc... Live together. You know things that serious couples end up doing. That would've been nice. But noooooo, with you, I didn't even know where I was headed. Oh and that teddy bear I bought you, I hope while you're sleeping it comes alive and suffocates you with your pillow! Naaah, I'm just kidding. You know I love you. Oh damn, I re-read the topic and I noticed it was suposed to be the other way around ... damn! Well... X, I hope everything turns out alright for you. I hope you get married to that guy and have kids and a big house with him a nice car, 1 little boy. Also, I hate you!
kyta Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear fiona Im so glad that you treated me like i was just a taxi, thank you for walking all over me and hurting me time and time again, thank you for cheating on with with various men, it made me feel so good in side, im so glad you thought all these men in your bed would make me feel good, thank you for treating your kids like crap i think they appreciate it a lot, im so glad you think of yourself so much as you are no1 and u must think of no1, me and the kids are nothing to special, i allso thank you for making me look at myself and think im not worth anything, that i feel used, i couldnt of asked for a nicer person, 7yrs was not long really, i thought we could of gone on another 7yrs so you could feel a lot better about treating me with so little love and respect, we could of really built up your ego with more of my and the kids pain, im allso happy that you can now go to the pub and clubs more to get drunk with your brother and his **** stiring gf that has so much in common with you, i know the kids like to watch you come home off your face and act stupid and show yourself up, life must be good for you now and im so pleased for you, this new guy who wants to have a job as drug dealer will help you so much with bringing the children up, he must have great morals, i hope he will give you discount on any drugs he sells you and maybe he will give some to the children, that will make you feel great, im a happy to think your life is going so well, i think i will miss plenty of thing about us, like when you go away for a cpl of days and you totally ignor me and the children, but at least you having a good time, please tell this new guy of yours that i wish him well with you, i hope you to can have everything you want from life, im sry im not the man for you, i wish i could enjoy watching you get off you face more and taking you clothes off in front off ppl, i wish i could watch you treat your kids like **** more it must be so pleasing for you and make you feel so proud of yourself, im sry i was so bad to you, i know doing everything for you and the kids wasnt rite, like taking you on holidays, meals out as a family, decorating your house, giving you all my love, treating you with respect after all you did for me, loving your kids, trying to bring them up the rite way, taking them to school while you slept till miday, cooking the meals for them and you, i know i only went to the pub now and again with you i wish i could of done more in that respect, maytbe we should of gone out every nite, but im just boring and play head games, im allso glad that i walked in the bedroom and caught you in bed with this new guy, as you told ppl that your glad i caught u in bed with him, you have showed me so much respect it so overwelming, thank you thank you thank you, if i have hurt you then i am truely sry as i ahvent meant to, as for me dont worry about me anymore, i will be ok, i will miss some things for a while, but i will heal, and the way i feel now it wont take to much longer, o by the waay thx for having me arrested for you lies i cant wait to go to court and face more pain, life has been great with you, im hoping i can really fined some one else one day who may match up to you, but i dont really thnik ther is anyone out there like you, so i may struggle a bit, i wish you well princess have a long and enjoyable life and if things go bad for you, well you could allways cheat on you new guy like you did with me and your x husband, im sure the kids will love another guy to be with you, you could allways get a new guy for every nite, sleep well and hope that the booze and drugs dont run out for you, Take care live well, id like to give you all my love, but you have taken it allready and i have none left for you, sry. Ritchie. Ps i just want to thank you again for all the misery and pain you have brought me, it must really please you.
sb129 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear X Neener neener, I found someone better than you. Someone who respects me and loves me and doesn't constantly put me down or try to control me. Someone who has a genuine sense of humour and who isn't insecure or anally retentive. Someone who doesn't want to keep me from seeing my family and friends- he actually thinks they are a GOOD influence on me, fancy that! Someone who I can actually go out with without fear that he is going to flip out for the slightest thing and then belittle me in public and make me cry. Someone who doesn't have baggage the size of a Louis Vitton deluxe set. Someone who follows through with his promises. Oh, and did I mention my diamond engagement ring? Thank you so much for showing me what I DON'T want, and thank you for being such an azz that I totally appreciated what a great guy my BF is when he came along. xxx Yours, Sb129
LikeCharlotte Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Sarchastic and ironic huh? Ok, sure. I'll bite Dear XSO- I'm so glad that we were able to move passed the romantic relationship nonsense and be friends. It's really great to know that I was with someone who is capable of being mature and thoughtful; someone who wanted to know me because of who I really am and not just because I was or could someday be f***ing him. The way you are handling things after the break up makes me proud that I chose you and I know now that my choices will only get better from here. (*Charlotte grabs a gun and poises to shoot herself in the foot again*) Thank you for restoring my faith in men after all I've been through. I really needed to be treated this way. It's simply wonderful to not feel like a used whore for once in my life. Much love, -Charlotte
sunshinegirl Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear E: Thank you for showing me what it's like to date a caring, considerate, connected man. I really appreciated how you always kept me in the loop with your divorce paperwork. It was great how you acknowledged how anxious I was about being with a still-legally-married man, and took steps to move everything along that much quicker. It was so great how you reflected on what had gone wrong in your marriage, and what you were going to change to avoid repeating those mistakes. It was great to hear what you appreciated about me, and us together. I really felt like you 'knew' me - I loved how you asked about the photos in my living room and what those experiences meant to me; it was fantastic how you read my blog about 'losing my religion' and let me vent about how hard it was to upset my family and friends; it was awesome seeing you at the finish line of my half-marathon. You were so thoughtful and concerned for me - remember that time you were an hour-and-a-half late to meet me and your daughter at the Eiffel Tower? You were so distraught that you'd kept us waiting so long, and you outlined all the ways you tried to contact us and otherwise make the trains go faster so we didn't worry so much about you. And remember those two times I had health issues and was a bit scared? You were so comforting. I loved, too, how you appreciated my family and friends so much and made real efforts to get to know them. I loved how you wanted to know and support my dreams and goals, and that we really helped each other become better people. The only shame is that you wound up cheating on me with the office hooch. Oh, and that you did NONE of the above at any point in our relationship. SSG
v33 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Hey you! I appreciate you being a complete drunk the whole time we were together! What a fantastic experience for me. It was great how you were able to be so supportive, selfless and such wonderful company in spite of you being intoxicated, passed out and miserable those 4 years! It was so sweet of you to start ****ing the guy next door so I wouldn't have to tire myself out having sex with you. So considerate of you to want me to get my sleep and never wanting to bother me for sex. I also think it was totally awesome how you would give me and my friends and co-workers something to talk about after each event you attended with me. It was so much fun to make excuses for you falling down all the time and flirting with everyone. And I always enjoyed having an excuse to leave early once you were wasted! You were also so considerate in allowing me lots of time to spend with my family! You would always make us wait for you while you were off drinking giving the folks and I lots of time to catch up. Even better was how you never minded me taking off for the weekend so I could be alone with them! You were so happy to see me leave! What a great gal. I know you were having a nice quiet time by yourself doing productive things and certainly not getting loaded with no-one to be accountable too. And of course I would never have to worry about you cheating on me while I was gone. Did I mention how amazing it was that you stayed with me for 6 months while you had other men because you wouldn't want me to be stuck with paying all the rent myself? What a sweetheart! I know you kept it all quiet just to save me from having to move somewhere more expensive. Why did you ever leave? Thanks also for treating me SO WELL once you could no longer hide your relationship with the new 58 year old, married man! It was great of you to return my calls so promptly, be so understanding of my broken heart and treat me with such compassion. I also loved hearing all the intimate details of your new life and how you would give him your body anytime he wanted it. I am so happy for you to have discovered your sexuality with someone else! It's fantastic that you have a man who has SO MANY good years left to give you, I mean what 37 year old wouldn't want to be with a guy pushing 60? And who cares if he still has a wife? It just shows that he is a great man by not wanting her to find out and have her feelings hurt! It's really crappy that I had to go out and find someone new. I am really not sure if I want the young, motived, successful, sexy, grounded, intelligent, caring, loving woman that I am with now. It's really rough going on road trips, sitting on the beach, drinking wine, going running and sleeping with such an amazing person, especially compared to what we had, but in time I am sure I will get used to it. Bye baby! I still love you soooooo much and am right here waiting for you! My heart will be yours forever! /sarcasm off Haha, I am so glad the bitch is gone!
CailinPig Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear M, Wow, you are such a sweet person; so caring and all. It sometimes shocks me how thoughtful you are! I'm so glad that you've used me. Sure that's what friends are for, eh? You can always depend on me, but don't worry, I understand completely that I can't depend on you. You have a wonderful intelligient girlfriend after all! I don't wanna ruin what you two have going on. I really appreciate it when you tell me what's on your confused mind, you know, like 'oh i like you as much as i like my new gf'. Wow, that's fab!! I love how you raise my hopes and then dash them. Cheers dude! Such a shame you're more attracted to me than that bimbo you got. if only she knew.... hmm...
sb129 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Oops. I actually meant EVERY word of mine. No sarcasm at all there....
Author kizik Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 Hey X, you're so secure with your body, and you always want to have sex with me. Awesome! I feel so attractive around you. You constantly show affection and make me feel like the greatest guy in the world. You NEVER talk my ear off, you NEVER get upset with me over little, stupid things. You are so rational. You're so hard to upset. You're so level-headed. I could never find someone as chill and laid-back as you! I always feel totally at ease around you. You accept me for who I am and I love that, and I love you. Haha I love you so much!
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear A, My favorite times with you were when you would make lists of things I need to be the best SFSassy I could be. Thank you so much for never introducing me to your family and friends. Who knows, I may have given them cooties or something. Thank you for pointing out every flaw to me, and what I could o to improve them. Because clearly at 30, I had no idea of who I was or what I needed to do for my own life. Thank you also for being so concise when you broke up with me. I now unerstand that waiting until I wasn't celebrating Christmas would mean that you would have to "live a lie" for 24 hours. My family thought my uncontrollable crying sure was festive. We were together almost a year, but no, I didn't need more than a 3 minute explanation for the breakup while you were on the way to dinner with friends. Finally thank you for being so, hmmmmm, nonchalant about me after the breakup. (oh yes, and hinting we could maybe still have sex, classy) I will try, but may never find anyone just as perfect as you. Ciao, SFSassy
Trialbyfire Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I might have some problem with sarcasm and irony but here goes: Dear X, I miss you. Love, Me
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I might have some problem with sarcasm and irony but here goes: Dear X, I miss you. Love, Me LMAO. Priceless
AnLandy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Dear X, Your ability to make compromises for our relationship was totally astounding, and I am floored by your desire to actually meet my needs, even though you don't understand them. Having to justify and defend every emotion that I was having was such a refreshing change. Love, Me
Lookingforward Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 well okay, I CAN do sarcasm, but every time I do I get flagged (waves at Tony) <sighs deeply>
Peter_pan Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 dear ex, wow i am soo proud of you for your heart felt email whilst i was in a different country obviously not missing you. thanks for letting me know of your new bf whilst i was away on holiday even though i spoke to you in person a few days before, that is just so kind and thoughtful of you, but you already knew that didn't you?. but wow this new guy you met, gosh what a STUNNER. No really! a bar manager who employs you for your looks must be such a great person deep deep down much better than me in every way, which is why later on he leaves you because he is scared you might cheat on him, we wouldn't want that now would we? but it was nothing serious right just like you told me? and we could still be in contact right away, right? because that wouldn't be hard for me at all would it? i mean like you said "time doesn't mean anything" and i only know you best because we have been together for so long. so i guess 3 years didn't mean f all to you. im so glad you enjoyed your bday with him and i hope that memory never dies. dont go getting fat now....
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