BornToFly Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 A little background...Back in the fall, I met a girl who I thought was really incredible and would make a wonderful friend. The only catch is that I noticed she seemed like the type of person who could be really harsh on people, and this kind of concerned me about getting to know her. But she was amazing in so many other ways, and always went out of her way to help me out as a friend and be there for me nevertheless as a great friend. Well, about three weeks ago we were hanging out and she told me that most people do not like her, that her family thinks she is harsh on other people, and that she has a hard time being nice to people she does not like. That she is nice to me because she likes me, but if she does not like someone, forget it. This sort of concerned me. Also, about a month ago, she told me that if I had a friend who wanted to come visit me in the city, they could stay in her room, since she is living with her boyfriend. So I have a family member who decided to come, so I emailed her asking if she thought it would be ok for my family member to stay in her room. I ran into her today, and said hi, and she walked by me without saying anything! Again I tried to talk to her, and she ignored me, but was laughing real friendly with another person we know. Finally i got her to talk, and asked if she had received my email. She said, "yes and you really pissed me off. You asked if your family member could stay i my room but you were not really clear about it and that really pissed me off. I don't know what you want me to do about that." I was so shocked I did not know what to say. I did not understand what was so upsetting about my email. I have gone back and re-read it, and I cannot see what is so upsetting at all! All I asked was if she thought it would be ok for my family member to stay in her room. Anyways, I was wondering if there is something I am missing here that I did which is so terrible that I am unaware of and if I should apologize? She was always so nice to me before, and I do not understand what happened or if this is someone who has red flags written everywhere. Thanks!
GPFan Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 Harsh, controlling, domineering and doesn't compromise. I would demote this person to acquaintance, forget about a friendship as it will be nearly impossible to maintain until she softens up a bit.
ZenSilk Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I've been friends with a person like this. Always extremely helpful, but moody in a way that was completely unpredictable. Very controlling and demanding. Things seemed to come from nowhere, all of a sudden he'd be furious about things I said... and always made it sound like I was responsible for it. I put up with it for months and at some point realized I was being abused in some way... and my self-esteem suffered a lot from this. I stopped contact with this person and that was the best I could do. I say don't invest your time in this relationship.
VashX21 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 bag her..tag her and send her on her way! she wants ur weiner dats why "family" crazy broad probably thought u ment ur girl...its ok it happens...lol idk
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