df273 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 today is 7 days NC with my ex... i'm really out of it right now. i just checked her myspace and she posted pictures of this new guy. it really hurts alot. earlier today i went and met with a councilor, next week will be a psych. my mind runs laps around her, which makes me do stupid stuff to keep me from progressing. she posted these pictures with captions that make things seem great for her. it's weird because this new guy looks kind of like me. it has been 5 weeks yesterday, 1 week with this new guy. the only thing i think of all day is whether she is thinking about me, and whether she misses me and all. sometimes i get nervous breakdowns and such, break down into tears and all. is it wrong to wish a relationship to fail? is this like a rebound or something, even though she had been talking to him before the breakup? do/can things ever get better from this point?
foxh1234 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 today is 7 days NC with my ex... i'm really out of it right now. i just checked her myspace and she posted pictures of this new guy. it really hurts alot. earlier today i went and met with a councilor, next week will be a psych. my mind runs laps around her, which makes me do stupid stuff to keep me from progressing. she posted these pictures with captions that make things seem great for her. it's weird because this new guy looks kind of like me. it has been 5 weeks yesterday, 1 week with this new guy. the only thing i think of all day is whether she is thinking about me, and whether she misses me and all. sometimes i get nervous breakdowns and such, break down into tears and all. is it wrong to wish a relationship to fail? is this like a rebound or something, even though she had been talking to him before the breakup? do/can things ever get better from this point? If you really want to do NC, stop looking at her My space. That only sets you back. You have to stop thinking about her, keep busy , workout, Treat her like enemy #1. No contact of any kind. It is the only way. Good Luck man.
Author df273 Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 Your absolutely right. I'm going to block myspace on my router, and do the same at work. I only check because I'm curious, but it does not help my situation, so it is pointless. I still wonder tho, since she dumped me, does she still think about me at all? I know each case is different, but it bugs the hell out of me. 3 1/2 years, you can't just forget all that in 5 weeks right?
Simon Leon Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 No you can't forget someone after 3 1/2 years. I still sometimes think about all my old GF's. Even the one's from 15 yrs ago. I gurantee that my ex is thinking about me as much as I think about her. But if they have made their mind up.....there is nothing you can do to change it. You just have to try to move forward one day at a time....and try not to slip back. We are all with you in this.
replicator Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I feel for you. She won't forget you. It's not wrong for you to wish her next relationship to fail. I feel the same way for my ex. I love her, but don't want to her to find happiness with someone else, when she couldn't find it with me. It's human nature. Let yourself feel - process your emotions. Cry if you can.
AnLandy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Your absolutely right. I'm going to block myspace on my router, and do the same at work. I only check because I'm curious, but it does not help my situation, so it is pointless. A very dear friend of mine is still monitoring her ex's MySpace page after nearly five years. He posted his engagement announcement last month, to the woman he left her for no less. Needless to say, my friend is not doing so well. Despite having had several relationships since the break-up, she is still incredibly angry at this guy. MySpace is both a blessing and curse. When you find yourself turning into you ex's cyber stalker, it is time to BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK!!!!!
kyta Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 im just glad my x doesnt have pc, no myspce, no facebook, no email, no msn, yeha its all great, nc now for 24 days, i did see her in town yesterday with her new guy, walking past me holding hands lol, felt strange, a bit of pain but happy days ahead wasnt as bad as i thought it would be, im just so glad she wanst a nice girl, if she had treated me ok then this would really kill me but she didnt, she treats everyone like crap, shes 2faced to all, she can have her new life for as long as it last.
Author df273 Posted July 4, 2008 Author Posted July 4, 2008 Wow... it's amazing how NC can feel so great at times. It makes things seems so simple and easy. Thats the way i'm feeling right now. Yet at other times, it sucks so bad that you can't help yourself but to breakdown in tears. This is the way i'll probably feel tomarrow. Is this normal part of the process?
northstar1 Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 Wow... it's amazing how NC can feel so great at times. It makes things seems so simple and easy. Thats the way i'm feeling right now. Yet at other times, it sucks so bad that you can't help yourself but to breakdown in tears. This is the way i'll probably feel tomarrow. Is this normal part of the process? Yep. Somedays I feel strong for holding on NC - that it is the only real way to get over them and move on. But some days it's a struggle not to want to get in touch and see how they are............... It's all part of the healing process.
kizik Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I have no desire to contact her. I would like it if she contacted me. I would like it if ANYone contacted me. I've done nothing to have no friends, but here I am. No, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. It's just a bad time in my life. Anyway forbes, congrats on having a good day.
ioncebelieved Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 NOT WRONG AT ALL to wish unhappiness in her relationship!! But in time, when you find someone that you feel is superior to her, you wish only the best for her. At least that is what I told myself and my ex. Right now, I wish her a sorry life after the crap she did, but I know when I am wishing her the best, Life has gotten better for me. You are perfectly normal!!!!!!!!
Author df273 Posted July 5, 2008 Author Posted July 5, 2008 wow, just hit with some more hurt. the stuff i took when i moved out was sitting in a old bedroom. i have not looked or touched anything since i put it there almost 2 weeks ago. i went in there to check for something today, and the 1st thing i notice was the ring i gave her for her birthday the 1st year we were together. it hurt alot. i thought this whole time she had it, which i wanted her too. i still am on NC with her, although i saw her yesterday and today walking into work. as soon as i noticed her, i adverted my attention other direction. i went almost 2 weeks without drinking, and today the urge was back worse then ever. i bought myself some alcohol for after work, but am so tempted to go at it right now. broken heart is truly the worse feeling in the world.
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