critter909 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 The ex just texted me and wants to come get his car today. I'm so weak and lonely right now! I need to hear why I don't need to cry over his alcoholic ass anymore. I need a spine.
ladyinlimbo Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Critter I don't know your story as I'm new here.....but I know you probably don't have much time before he comes over so I'll write this quick. Can you just leave the keys on your doorstep? Can you arrange it so that you're not home when he comes? Can you focus -- really focus -- on all the hurt he's no doubt caused you and try to replace those feelings with the ones of being lonely and weak. Get out a piece of paper and write down the things he did to hurt you, let you down, mistreat you, use you, waste your time and love..........sometimes putting them down on paper helps. I still have a large poster-board under my bed that I made up last summer when I was trying desperately not to "be weak" -- It was a neon green poster-board -- and on it I wrote down all the lies he'd ever told me, all the names he'd ever called me, all the broken promises he'd made, all the put downs, all the hurtful things he'd done to me, his nastiness and vindictiveness, his selfishness............I wrote it all down and believe me, it covered the entire board............and I taped it on my living room wall and made myself look at it each time he was mailing me and trying to suck me in again. At night, I'd take it up to my bedroom and tape it onto the wall beside my bed and I'd read it over and over...........it was amazing to me, how much abuse I'd endured -- it wasn't until I wrote it all down that I saw the enormity of it. I wish you strength.
Author critter909 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 Thank you. It's just really bad timing. I'm over the anger and betrayal right now and just really missing him. I still love him and it absolutly kills me not to have him in my life. Seeing him today is going to be incredibly hard.
Author critter909 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 unfortunately no. everyone is at work. Well here goes....
Lizzie60 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 The ex just texted me and wants to come get his car today. I'm so weak and lonely right now! I need to hear why I don't need to cry over his alcoholic ass anymore. I need a spine. Leave the keys with a neighbour.. or leave them somewhere in the yard.. and leave him a message that he HAS to pick them up there... period. It's that simple.. when there's a will there's a way... you don't want to see him.. well.. take the steps you need to NOT see him...
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