Bebob17 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Hi, Yesterday i had a fist date with my sisters best friend. We had drinks and talked for about 2.5 hours, i told here I had to leave which was a little lie but i wanted to be the one in control. we said goodby with 3 kisses and she said something like see you the next time. What do woman prefer? 1. Me texting straight away? 2. Giving here a phone call 1 day later for some chit chat? 3. Not phoning or texting at all until something like 3 days later for some chit chat and also inviting here for another date. (i have a excuse for waiting 3 days because i have exams in 3 days) What is my plan? I find it hard to not think about here, but iam overanalysing everthing etc. i would appriciate some comments. tnx
OpenBook Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Text her, right now: "What RU doing? What RU wearing?"
Author Bebob17 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 Text her, right now: "What RU doing? What RU wearing?" But i fear it ends up in a " texting relation" so quickly, but on the other hand, i do want here to know that i really like here and not just wanna be friends. For me it feels really awkward to text here now asking what she is doing, It feels unnatuaral and it is implicating that i want to do something with here right now. Is this my own head messing me up?
Last_Nerve Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Send the text now. " I am going to be super busy for the next 3 days because of exams, but as soon as I am done lets get together."
Author Bebob17 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 Ok, i will send here now Should i make a reference to our time together yesterday, or simply text he, iam super busy the next 3 days due to my exams,i will ring you afterwards. (i have to translate it to my own language, but something along those lines?) ty very much. btw, what should i end a text with as a guy, i feel so corny putting an x or something behind it. )
Lauriebell82 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I suggest that you wait a day to call her. So don't call her the day after the date but the following day. Tell her you have exams but you would like to take her out again next week. That gives the implication that you have other things going on and are not too desperate. It also lets her know that you are interested enough to call her. Please don't text right away. I hate when guys do that after the first date..pick up the damn phone and call!!!! I suggest only starting to text her AFTER you start going out on dates. Texting just gives the impression that you don't want to take the time to call or you are too busy to talk to her.
Last_Nerve Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Should i make a reference to our time together yesterday? yes
Author Bebob17 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 I suggest that you wait a day to call her. So don't call her the day after the date but the following day. Tell her you have exams but you would like to take her out again next week. That gives the implication that you have other things going on and are not too desperate. It also lets her know that you are interested enough to call her. Please don't text right away. I hate when guys do that after the first date..pick up the damn phone and call!!!! I suggest only starting to text her AFTER you start going out on dates. Texting just gives the impression that you don't want to take the time to call or you are too busy to talk to her. So whe had get togheter yesterday, Should i call today or tomorrow. Calling does make me feel uncomfortable since I still have the fear of rejection. That fear is bigger then normal because it is the best friend of my sister and iam not really sure of here motives. I guess i have to STOP trying to analyse everthing and make contact with here telling iam busy but i will phone here after iam done with exams. yes i think i like this best: Text here now telling it was a good time yesterday, and that i would like to meet again but that iam very busy this week, but i will give here a call when iam done. Then we can maby send a couple of messages back and fort(how do i spell it) and in 3 days i will give here a phone call. Go or no go?
littlekitty Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I suggest you stop over thinking, over analyzing and just do what feels right. Are you going to come here to ask everything about the relationship? She touched my knee what should I do next...? Seriously I don't mean to sound like a meanie, but overthinking these things usually spells disaster or game playing. Just follow your heart! If you want to text her, do it. If you feel like calling her, do it. Don't play games and over think the whole thing.
Jilly Bean Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 After a date, I appreciate a text later on that night, or the next morning saying he had a great time, blah, blah, and that he will call me soon for another date. Then you can wait a few days and then CALL her for date number 2.
Author Bebob17 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 I suggest you stop over thinking, over analyzing and just do what feels right. Are you going to come here to ask everything about the relationship? She touched my knee what should I do next...? Seriously I don't mean to sound like a meanie, but overthinking these things usually spells disaster or game playing. Just follow your heart! If you want to text her, do it. If you feel like calling her, do it. Don't play games and over think the whole thing. you put my feed back on the earth. I text here now and then put my head in my accounting exams... not the best material to focus on when your thinking about a girl tnx
littlekitty Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 you put my feed back on the earth. I text here now and then put my head in my accounting exams... not the best material to focus on when your thinking about a girl tnx Glad I could help! From my personal experience, things have always gone better in relationships when I just do what feels right for me and how I feel about the person.
Author Bebob17 Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 Do ladys normally text back if I send a text that i enjoyed our time together and would like to hook up again soon, but iam busy so i will call here when i have finished my exams. When ever a girl would text me this which i really like i would send something back that i enjoyed it too and gl with exams or somehting along those lines. Would an average woman respond the same way?
zicke Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 If a man is into a woman, he will either call, email or text the day after the date. If only to say, I had a great time meeting you. Waiting is high school. If you want to see her again, lock her down. Women have other options too ya know. You wait to long, she will consider other options.
Author Bebob17 Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 I did text here the day after, but she didn't send anything back. In the sms I said i would be busy for a couple of days but that i would call here when I was ready with my stuff. Is it normal for a girl in such a situation to not text back?
Lauriebell82 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I did text here the day after, but she didn't send anything back. In the sms I said i would be busy for a couple of days but that i would call here when I was ready with my stuff. Is it normal for a girl in such a situation to not text back? She may be trying to give you space and not seem to needy..esp. since you said you would be busy. She told her you needed the space, so she is probably trying to respect that. Wait until you are done with your work and then call her and ask her out on the phone.
ate_the_paint Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Glad I could help! From my personal experience, things have always gone better in relationships when I just do what feels right for me and how I feel about the person. Exactly! Don't play games...if you start playing games, don't have the relationship!
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