backto1 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Hey everyone, Kind of a random post but I just wanted to share something positive in this somewhat depressing section of LoveShack. Most of us were pretty clueless at the time of our first post here. We were shaken up, kicked in the balls and saying the same things that hundreds of people before us have said: "She broke up, is she coming back? How come she doesn't answer me!? I'm going to send another text/e-mail/letter/rose." After a while, we learn those things backfire and we learn how to move on with our lives. You might lurk for a while, reading about everyone else who's all screwed up at the moment and take comfort in that fact that you're not alone...but eventually most of you start making posts and replies in other peoples' threads in an effort to help them out. Take heart in the fact that you've taken the effort to join this forum and address your issues in the healthiest, most adult like manner there is. It shows that you're someone who can learn, live and make better decisions in the future. Everyone who sticks around for a while ends up giving great advice to others and it goes to show how far you've progressed. I swear if jaded singles stumbled across this site more often, they'd be amazed at how mature and level headed each one of you is. The people who post here will make great decisions in the future, know how to handle the ups and downs of relationships and just make all-around great relationship prospects. I've got no doubt at all that every last member of this forum will find great, fulfilling relationships and will strongly impress members of the opposite sex with their emotional stability. I would say good luck but you don't need luck. An early congratulations is more like it.
kizik Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Back, you're kind for complimenting the legions of heartbroken folks here. It is true that many of us are intelligent, compassionate humans who probably got the sh*t end of the stick. I love LS, but I'm not some computer guy.. you know? Sometimes I feel like a huge nerd being on here every day, or that it's causing me to focus too much on the recent tragedy of my life. I'm getting tired of reading the same old story. Most times when I post or thread, it involves specific nuances of breakups or recovery, or is in attempt to be inspirational to new users or old, or both. I wonder what my recovery would have been like without LS. Probably would have involved a good deal of begging or deal-making with the ex. Chances are I'd be in greater pain if I had not joined the site. Love Shack is my only support system right now. It is true that I have no family (save for a weird mom) and no friends (save for one dude who is out of town!!). There are certain users who have been a godsend to me and whose love I feel deeply. I will not point them out cuz they certainly know who they are. I like you, backto1!
Peter_pan Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 great post, agree with kizik! i am so glad i found this place
stlnsmile Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 LS is great and no matter what happens in my life, even when I meet Mr. wonderful, I won't forget how much it helped me. I know Im good dating material, just can't get any of the guys that I would be interested in to see it. I hope that early congradulations is in order, cause I seriously feel like Im going to be alone foreverrrrrrrrrrrr! I will always try to come back to LS to help...it does get hard sometimes, cause you hear so much of the same stuff over and over, but at the same time, when I came on, I am sure the people who were on here had heard my story ten thousand times, and still helped....so I hope to keep helping.
ianandris Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Amen on all the comments so far. LS has been a huge support for me, too. It's great to be able to vent some of your heart ache to a sympathetic crowd. Friends are great, but you don't always want to be burdening your friends with your moanings, you know? I know Im good dating material, just can't get any of the guys that I would be interested in to see it. I hope that early congradulations is in order, cause I seriously feel like Im going to be alone foreverrrrrrrrrrrr! Story of my life, smile. *sigh*
Confused9 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Can you email this to my crush??? Maybe then he will want to take me out. haha
porter218 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I agree, the people on this site are great. It is reassuring to see that I am not the only one left in this world with good sense. I wish I had found LS earlier when I was dealing with my marriage problems. Even though I was past most of the pain when I came here, I feel even more at peace now. I think it really helps us come a long way in our personal struggles to stop for a minute and talk to someone else about their struggle.
critter909 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I totally agree with OP. Our ex's should be on here learning. We WILL have better relationships, I have learned so much from the break up and everything on LS, I have my eyes and ears wide open.
Trialbyfire Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I agree. I am totally awesome. "I'm too sexy for myself, too sexy for myself!" Damn straight!
4givrnt4gtr Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 opps sorry meant to post as new thread.... Thanks for the compliments by the way!!
ate_the_paint Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Awesome! You nailed it on the head...I don't think I'll be moving away from LS for a long time! Everyone here IS date material!
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I agree. I am totally awesome. Lol. I'm the best too! Everyone should bow to my greatness!
Trialbyfire Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 There are a lot of vulnerable people on this site. Do not view this site as a hunting ground.
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I totally agree with OP. Our ex's should be on here learning. We WILL have better relationships, I have learned so much from the break up and everything on LS, I have my eyes and ears wide open. Isn't that the truth. My one ex could use a crash course in this stuff.
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Awesome! You nailed it on the head...I don't think I'll be moving away from LS for a long time! Everyone here IS date material! I'm hoping to have LDR isssues soon, so not moving on for a bit. (Not hoping to have issues, but hoping to have a LDR with a certain someone which will most likely lead to issues, lol.
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 There are a lot of vulnerable people on this site. Do not view this site as a hunting ground. I know what you mean. There have been a few that I thought "well, if he wasn't so emotionally distraught, he may be a good catch" but wouldn't try to hook up with anyone here.
kizik Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I don't think anyone is using LS as a hunting ground, TBF. No one is going to fly to Australia or England or Oregon for a fling, or permanently. Someone saying there are a lot of attractive minds here, is far removed from "hunting."
sfsassy Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I don't think anyone is using LS as a hunting ground, TBF. No one is going to fly to Australia or England or Oregon for a fling, or permanently. Someone saying there are a lot of attractive minds here, is far removed from "hunting." Plus you can go on someone's history, and really dissect their personality and history:) I would rather start my relationships without the baggage of knowing all of someone else's dirty laundry. (and vice versa!) Can you imagine? You would be like "Well on November 8, on your post you said that "I will never love anyone but him" what did you mean by that?") I know I'm being flippant, but you just would have a hard time focusing on just a date I would imagine.
Trialbyfire Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I know what you mean. There have been a few that I thought "well, if he wasn't so emotionally distraught, he may be a good catch" but wouldn't try to hook up with anyone here. Keep in mind that the words rebound and baggage, are prevalent here on LS. I don't think anyone is using LS as a hunting ground, TBF. No one is going to fly to Australia or England or Oregon for a fling, or permanently. Someone saying there are a lot of attractive minds here, is far removed from "hunting." You'd be surprised how many predators are on LS, kizik. I'll leave it at that!
Lizzie60 Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 I agree. I am totally awesome. I agree too.. you are totally awesome.. oops I mean I am totally awesome..
ate_the_paint Posted July 3, 2008 Posted July 3, 2008 Can you imagine? You would be like "Well on November 8, on your post you said that "I will never love anyone but him" what did you mean by that?") I know I'm being flippant, but you just would have a hard time focusing on just a date I would imagine. Haha, very true!
LikeCharlotte Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 Love Shack is my only support system right now. It is true that I have no family (save for a weird mom) and no friends (save for one dude who is out of town!!). There are certain users who have been a godsend to me and whose love I feel deeply. I will not point them out cuz they certainly know who they are. I like you, backto1!What Kiz said. I work very hard to be worth the kind of love I expect. That's a good thing I suspect.
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