Brady_to_Moss Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 it feels like if i were in a relationship, more girls would like me becasue i am taken that if i were single. Is this true?
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Always, no. But, yes there are a fair amount of people who are evil enough to not care if you are single or committed. The reason runs the gambit of the most of the seven sins. Greed-They want and want and want. Wrath-Someone did them wrong so they are doing to do somebody else wrong. Sloth-Too lazy to find a good a partner of their own. Lust-They just need to see what you are like in bed. Envy-Some can't stand for someone to have something they don't. Pride-They want the challenge of causing someone to break their commitments and betray their trust. Now if you are willingly engaging such people, you are wrong. Why tempt yourself and put your partner on edge when you know it hurts them? DNR
kladia Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I think part of it is when a guy's in a relationship, he's more confident talking to girls, because he's not trying to get to know them to ask them out. So he can just meet someone, and have a nice, relaxed, confident conversation without the possible worry of rejection. If he was single and not getting his ego boosted from having a girlfriend, he has to build up the courage to talk to girls, and it doesn't seem so effortless. The girl senses this and thus doesn't find him as attractive and wonders "Why are all the good ones taken?" Build that confidence, meet people with no expectations (like instead of "I wonder if she'd go out with me", you could go with the thought "I'd like to talk to someone right now"), or whatever else you can think of to get in that confident state you'd be in if you were attached. I generally don't waste efforts pining for people who are taken or otherwise uninterested in me, just doesn't do it for me personally. So that's my theory.
Trialbyfire Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 People are generally more confident and secure, when they have a healthy relationship. Having said that, yes, there are many, many people who want what they can't have. For the ones that do this, avoid them like the plague. You'll find that once they have it, they never appreciate it, sabotaging, while looking around for the next thing they can pine away for.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I agree with the notion that guys have an easier time talking to girls if they aren't trying to score. They come off as more confident and more attractive to girls, and not some horny jerk off trying to get into their pants. That being said, there ARE a lot of girls who love the "thrill of the chase" or even the satisfaction of stealing a guy away from his gf. This of course is wrong and these girls should def. be avoided. Not all girls feel this way mind you, so going out and getting a gf just to be able to score with other girls is a crappy thing to do.
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