toowarmhearted Posted July 29, 2003 Posted July 29, 2003 Ok so I have been divorced for 5 years and dating for 3 years and wow is it hard to find a decent guy out there! When ever I meet someone who I think may be interested in a long term relationship ....it always fails. Does no one believe in relationships anymore? Does anyone out there feel the same way? I am almost ready to give up the whole dating scene. Being 29 and self supporting I would like to have a companion to make my life complete. I am told I am an attractive woman with good morals and values...then what''s wrong with me. Why can't I meet a good decent man wanting the same thing. My kids from my marriage are also saying "mom it's about time you have a boyfriend". Does anyone have any advice as to how to land a good guy?
longlegzs80 Posted July 29, 2003 Posted July 29, 2003 I can't relate in the divorce thing but I can relate in trying to find a decent guy. I just find the whole dating scene to be very difficult for me. I am only 22, but would like the same things like a decent companion, someone I can share good times with. My mother is the same way. She is divorced, several years though, has not dated because she was taking care of me, and now wanting a companion. I really feel sorry for her. But anyways, I understand, it is so hard to meet decent people. But too maybe your looking too hard, if there is such a thing. Maybe you need to let everything fall into place and see how things go. Too, maybe you need to get involved in the community. Just something where you can meet someone decent, because there are decent people out there they are just really really hard to find. Or there are decent people out there that they might be attracted to us but we are not attracted to them. So, your best bet is to go out. Sounds like a ladies night out to me. And just have some fun. You can go to other places other then a bar or a club. Just something where you meet men. But, I can see it is a hard thing, but things will work out in your favor, just be pacient. Hope this helps, take care.
Curiousa Posted July 30, 2003 Posted July 30, 2003 To be honest, in the past year or so (and over an extended relationship breakdown for me), I actually found a pretty good number of what I would be considering "decent" guys out there ... if what you are looking for is someone kind, caring, supportive, committed ... So I doubt that there is a real shortage, unless I have been incredible lucky, which I somehow doubt My guess is that these qualifications might not be the end of your wish list of what a "decent" guy would have?! Just assuming that - after that "basics" list - now comes issues like looks, financial status, religion, race/age/education, whatever, this will of course will narrow the "accessible" down - so, I guess it might be a matter of what you are really looking for, someone who loves and cares about you and that you can love back or someone who solves all your missing expectations on life... Hm, hope that doesn't sound too harsh, was just wondering because the "decent" guys I have met would probably be seen by many to be lacking in terms of looks or one or the other on the educational background, but they treat the woman of their interest well, respectfully, appreciative and are emotional and physically supportive ... . But you would be unlikely to get an envious look from other women or a "glam award" at a dinner party ... My point - a bit long-winded, of course - is: I think the guys are out there, maybe you might want to look at your expectations and double-check what really matters to you
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