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I want to break up with my man who I think is going to propose to me. What do I do?

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So let me get this straight.....

 

You're living a huge lie. You're living with a man you've been together with for 3.5 yrs -- and you're using him (a place to live? someone to take care of you?) while sneaking around behind his back with a scumbag who is fine with the fact that you're already involved with someone...........and you're fearful that the man you're leading on and using is going to have his heart broken because you think he's going to propose and you're obviously not interested?

 

Be a decent human being. End the relationship with your boyfriend NOW. Stop dragging this out and leading him on. that's cowardly and sick. Have some integrity and class and move out and then carry on with guy #2.

 

Why are you screwing around with someone new when you're still living with and involved with someone else? How could you do that to someone? How could you live such a selfish lie?

 

 

 

NO I have not been using him. I used to love him so bad I would do anything for him but lately it just doesnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt treat me like Im his princess or the love of his life cuz hes always busy working on cars or something else. He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it I want to end it because guy #2 wants to give me a better life.

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How old are you?

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NO I have not been using him. I used to love him so bad I would do anything for him but lately it just doesnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt treat me like Im his princess or the love of his life cuz hes always busy working on cars or something else. He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it I want to end it because guy #2 wants to give me a better life.

 

Well then END IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, you are USING HIM if you're still living with him and giving him the impression that you're still his girlfriend *YET* you're sneaking around behind his back with another guy. What part of that don't you get????

 

Which fairytale land do you live in? Life and relationships aren't about men being obligated to make you "feel like a princess." And what's this crap about the other guy being able to "give you a better life"? Is that all you see men as? - people who can give you a better life? Get your OWN dang better life; make it for yourself. What is with this sense of entitlement - that men are somehow put on this earth to give you a life? You sound like a high maintenance, deceitful, princess-wannabe.

 

If you don't think he's treating you the way you should be treated, then put on your freaking big girl panties and LEAVE HIM. End it. Stop pretending to be his live-in girlfriend when you're no longer interested. Sorry but women like you make me sick. Total users.

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This is'nt the first time i've seen a female or male on this site with bad attentions for the BF. But this is the first time i ever seen someone get chewed out as bad she you guys are attacking her.

Stop and think for a while, i think the reason why everyone on this site is attacking her is because maybe she reminds some of us of a Ex Bf or Ex Gf, who did the same thing to us, ya know, thought the grass was greener.

 

And i also feel so bad for the guy, i remember the first time it happened to me, it was terrible. So right now shes just going with her heart, she feels that the other guy loves her so much or will treat her so good and hes probably only looking to get some.

 

Everysingle day your drag this on, everysingle minute, all your gonna do is hurt the guy more and more and more.

So how long are you gonna wait? Are you gonna wait 5 months to tell him? Hell by then he would have halfway over you! You need to tell him ASAP, i mean TODAY!!!!!!

 

He needs to find someone who will not lose her feelings for him, now im pretty sure once you get out there with the guy if he treats you bad, your gonna wanna go back to him and start calling him, but thats up to your ex if he takes you back.

 

My ex waited 3 months to tell him how she felt, and i wish she would have done it then, do you know how many good looking women i turned down?

 

So dont take it personal its just that you opened up some wounds, because the site is alive just because of people like you, so just know your not the only person who has done this or felt this way. Without people like you there would be no LoveShack!

 

But you need to end this today!!!!!!!!

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NO I have not been using him. I used to love him so bad I would do anything for him but lately it just doesnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt treat me like Im his princess or the love of his life cuz hes always busy working on cars or something else. He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it I want to end it because guy #2 wants to give me a better life.

 

wow... you're in for a harsh reality lesson... NO relationship stays the same... even though # 2 treats you like a princess, that won't last for long... and then what? onto the next? And why does lucky bachelor #1 have to take care of you and treat you like a princess? Do you really think you deserve to be treated like a princess? Are you kidding me???? Are you from the Valley?? Are you a Paris-Hilton wannabe? Look at how your treating him! You're not exactly treating him like a prince... hell, you're net even treating him with respect by carrying on with bachelor #2 (if he is a bachelor). And this #2 guy sounds lame... - with all the other *princesses* out there he had to go fishing in someone else's kingdom ... no sense of boundaries. Real nice values there - a *man* of honor.

 

Be honest ... the only reason you don't want to hurt your boyfriend is because YOU'LL feel guilty and you know what you've been up to is cold (emotional cheating is cheating, period) ... ironically, the nicest thing you can do for #1 is tell the truth, even though you know it'll make you look bad. This way, he can move on properly instead of waste his time... but you won't do that, will you? You'll just drag it out with some crap about needing space, being confused/young... etc. My advise? Don't do it... for everyone's sake. At least be honest - its the best for everyone, you included.

 

You seem to crave the chase, the novelty of dating ... and this is what makes you sound childish/inconsiderate and bratty. It would be ok if someone else's happiness wasn't in the balance, but unfortunately it is. You have to understand that most of the posters here have been hurt by someone that behaved in a childish/inconsiderate and bratty way (either in the relationship or in the breakup) - that's why you're getting dissed.

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just one more thing... i actually do think it is brave of you to post something like that on a site like this... so few people in your position would have the guts. my comments above are harsh, but like wise one said, you probably did open up a few past wounds for me. But it helps reading a post like yours and seeing that exes that act like that are not the big loss we made them out to be in the first place. sincerely (no bitterness intended), good luck to the 3 of you.

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You are not a princess and you are not the love of his life.

 

Love is a curious thing, it's the only emotions that is manifactured by two humans beings. You are not giving him love anymore. So get out.

 

There is nothing else for you to do. Just end it, be honest, and then leave.

 

This is the only decent thing to do. Prepare your bags and things. Make sure he is home and in a good state. Tell him. Prepare for verbal attack, questions, tears, complete emotional fall-out. Answer his questions. Then, after a while, leave. Maybe - if you are concerned about his reaction, have some friend come over at a scheduled time so you know that you will break it off then.

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I need some help. I've been dating my man for 3 1/2 yrs and my love for him is going downhill. I fell in love with another man that wants to take care of me and treat me better and he loves me so much. He understands my situation and he knows that im dating my man but he knows whats best and we comprehend eachother.

 

At least until the 7 year itch settles in with this guy too.

 

 

Me and my man are living together and I think he is going to propose to me before the end of this year but I want to break up with him before he does. He loves me to death but i dont feel the same for him. I still have feelings for him and i would hate to break his heart but I think its whats best. How do i deal with this?

 

You deal with it head on. Grow the female equivalent of balls and break up with him before he makes a fool out of himself.

 

And if you are cheating, then just up and leave already and quit stringing this guy along. Have some freakin' decency.

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NO I have not been using him.

 

If you are cheating on him and still living with him then yes, you are using him.

 

 

I used to love him so bad I would do anything for him but lately it just doesnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt treat me like Im his princess or the love of his life cuz hes always busy working on cars or something else.

 

 

Oh boo freaking hoo. You are not the center of the universe any longer. Cry us a river.

Guess what, relationships calm down. People DO develop interests other than waiting hand and foot and groveling to someone that wants to be a "princess".

 

 

He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it I want to end it because guy #2 wants to give me a better life.

 

Ya, and things will be like a honeymoon everyday with this new guy for the rest of your life ya think? think again

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Miss 28, I like the way you think!!!!!!

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LOL. OMG. Your boyfriend should throw his "little princess" to the curb. Reality check. You are one of those women (just like my STBX) that always thinks there is a bigger better deal on the other side of the hill. Pack your stuff, leave him a letter (because you are a coward) and leave without him there to avoid your boyfriend from pleading with you (because you do not deserve it). Let your boyfriend retain his dignity and self respect. Let him hurt in peace. Your chariot is waiting for you. Your prince awaits. Sheesh. :rolleyes:

 

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this is exactly what my ex did to me minus the proposing. It hurt like hell when she broke my heart and worse of all she never had the guts to tell me she got a friend to do it she got out of it without even having to break up with me she was a coward and a poor excuse for a human being and you are quite possibly worse

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NO I have not been using him. I used to love him so bad I would do anything for him but lately it just doesnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt treat me like Im his princess or the love of his life cuz hes always busy working on cars or something else. He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it I want to end it because guy #2 wants to give me a better life.

 

ugh women like this bug the **** out of me. It's all about you and how you're treated, and princess this and that. How are you treating him? I am all about romance and love and nice things and all but after 3 years things sort of run a course and that sweet stage ends and the highs and excitement sort of drop.

 

Remember the beginning of your relationship with this guy 3 years ago? There was probably alot of what this new guy is doing. It's exciting! It's new! He wants to do everything for you! He loves you! He treats you like the "princess" you deserve to be but wait 3 years and see what happens.

 

And to be totally blunt how do you know this guy 2 wants to give you a better life? How do you know he won't be the same guy as your current in 3 years? Guys will tell you a lot of **** in the beginning to paint you the fairytale picture that you so want to have.

 

Good luck.

 

-Just

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In a few years she will be doing this to the new man.

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In a few years she will be doing this to the new man.

 

exactly. excuse me while I go puke in the toilet.

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Dang girl. I feel no sympathy for you whatsoever. You got slammed by everyone, and to be honest you deserved it. There's a LOT of good guys in the world that got tainted by women EXACTLY like you, and a LOT of women in the world who won't get to be treated right by these guys. And the worst thing is-you don't really realize what you are doing RIGHT NOW is WRONG. What goes around comes around 10 fold. Normally most of us her wouldn't wish the emtional hurt that you'll probably put on this dude on anyone, but I think in your case, you deserve it more than anyone else when it comes back to haunt you.

 

Break up with you man NOW, and be HONEST. Don't sugar coat it. He will hate you, but at least do the right thing and allow him to hate you for the right reasons.

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