Luv2Laugh Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hey love shackers-what are your thoughts on a 50 yr old man dating a 28 yr old woman? Think it could ever work?
Jilly Bean Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Ewww. But beyond that, I think over the age of 25, age is totally irrelevant. Good luck!
itgirlragdoll Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Man, I just turned 21, and my boyfriend is almost 32, and I thought that was bad. Like Jilly said, it might give some people the heeby-jeebies, but once a person is fully mature and of adult age (depending on the person this could be 18 or could be 30) age is really just a number.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 1. Why set yourself up for being a target, especially on something so trivial? 2. Do you REALLY care what others think, especially people who have no face and their own bias and prejudices and would more than happily tell you why you are wrong or for their own reasons and agenda tell you why you are right. 3. Do you love the person and do they love you in return? 4. Are you treating them like a decent human being and are they doing the same for you in kind? 5. Are you two communicating about the direction the relationship is going and are you two making real and reasonable goals? Now if YOU have a big issue about the age of you and your SO, then maybe YOU should take some time and talk with yourself, find out why you are their, is it right for you, are you doing the right thing for your partner, etc. Now if there are issues you might have questions concerning issues with the relationship, e.i. My 28 year old partner loves to go out to the clubs all the time and never goes to Bingo with me, that someone might be able to help you with. But, man, to be honest, most people could careless who you are dating and those that do need to get a life. DNR There are only three things most people are concerned with when your dating... 1) Are you treating them right. 2) Are they treating you right. 3) I wonder what kind of sex they are having.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I think over the age of 25, age is totally irrelevant. (or thereabouts). Like the guy above me says, who cares as long as you're happy?
Jake Barnes Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I think you must be a total masochist, that's what I think If you're the guy I mean. If you're the girl I think you'll use him in some way or another and that will be that
blind_otter Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 If the two people involved are happy, I see no problem with it. My parents were 22 years apart in age and they were very devoted to each other.
Ally Boo Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 When I was 24, I dated a 40 year old. That definitely didn't work. Age really is a number. Depends on the people. And expect to continue to hear a lot of what you've already heard. lol
Balthazar Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I like a lot of the points DNR made. When asking people about age differences you will often get generic answers based on the social standards that person grew up adhering to, or possibly, media influenced stereotypes. For example, for people in the US, average age differences between couples may be in the 0-5 year range. Thus, even a 10 year difference may appear extreme. Compare this to many countries in Europe(ex:France), where age differences of 10+ years don't even warrant a second look as they are quite common. I grew up in a family where my parents had an 18 year age difference. Not surprisingly, I am 37 yet often date women from 21 - 30(In my last LTR the woman was 25 and I was 36 when we broke up due to a serious health problem she was facing). So no, you shouldn't worry about the age difference. If it doesn't bother her, it shouldn't bother you. I just hope your energy levels are not low! CHeers,
Lizzie60 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Not for long term.. but for short term ..yes why not. I am 56 and I am presently involved with a 25 yr old.. and a 34 yr old... age is only a number... What counts is .. if you're young at heart..
Jilly Bean Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I am 56 and I am presently involved with a 25 yr old.. and a 34 yr old... age is only a number... You go on with your bad self, Lizzie!!!!
D-Lish Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Age-schmage. I'm 38 and I won't even TELL you how young the last guy I dated was. Quite frankly, I don't care what other people think. My friend is 26 and she is seeing a 48 year old guy... He looks great and he takes care of himself- I don't even notice the age gap when I am with them. Nothing wrong with it at all. And again- I shall re-iterate what others have said: Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Lizzie60 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 You go on with your bad self, Lizzie!!!! Huh?? what is this suppose to mean?
KinAZ Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Someone up there said that it depends on the people, and I have to agree. I would have to wonder what the two people are looking for and what they see in one another. If their priorities are matched, they're looking for the same things, headed in the same direction, I don't see a problem with it as long as they're both willing to make it work (as with any relationship). But in general, I would wonder what a 50 year old man would want with a 28 year old woman that didn't have to do with appearance, possibly status, and the like. As a woman who tends towards older men though, I can see why a woman in her 20s might be attracted to a man in his 50s, or close to it.
imbewildered Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Hey love shackers-what are your thoughts on a 50 yr old man dating a 28 yr old woman? Think it could ever work?\ Could it ever work ? Hell yeah ! A man's age is irrelevant if he has the other qualities that age brings. Clooney is almost 50. I know a guy who is 52 and he is dating a great chick of 30 y.o. She adores him in all the right ways. I intend to grow old disgracefully with as many kittens in tow as I can attract. I somethimes date women 20 years younger than me- they are great fun - no baggage .
Green Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 yeah it could work. the age could end up being a problem, but might also be the reason it is working.
MaxManwell Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Ewww. But beyond that, I think over the age of 25, age is totally irrelevant. Good luck! I think the only people who say that are people over 40 who are insecure about their age. Of course age makes a big difference and 25 is still pretty young and so is 28.A 50 year old man dating a 28 year old woman is disgusting and wrong although sexy for the man. I wouldn't say no if I were a 50 year old man either. Are you in it for the money ? Does he make you feel validated and intelligent ? I got nothing against a 40 or 50 year old going back to school and starting a new career in nursing, teaching, science or in general; I got nothing against them, but they should keep their grubby paws OFF our young women. They're our territory and you had your chance in your own time Grandpa. Its just wrong, what are you going to do ? when you're 40 he'll be 62. Real great life companion there. If they want some young meat that is why brothels exist. I really am disgusted by the notion that people think a 50 year old man should be able to date a 28 year old.
Yamaha Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I think the only people who say that are people over 40 who are insecure about their age. Of course age makes a big difference and 25 is still pretty young and so is 28.A 50 year old man dating a 28 year old woman is disgusting and wrong although sexy for the man. I wouldn't say no if I were a 50 year old man either. Are you in it for the money ? Does he make you feel validated and intelligent ? I got nothing against a 40 or 50 year old going back to school and starting a new career in nursing, teaching, science or in general; I got nothing against them, but they should keep their grubby paws OFF our young women. They're our territory and you had your chance in your own time Grandpa. Its just wrong, what are you going to do ? when you're 40 he'll be 62. Real great life companion there. If they want some young meat that is why brothels exist. I really am disgusted by the notion that people think a 50 year old man should be able to date a 28 year old. What's it to you? Did you lose out to an older man?
MaxManwell Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 What's it to you? Did you lose out to an older man? I'll be old one day I don't mind. I just think it is wrong. Young women, when they're fertile and beautiful should be setting themselves up for a life of companionship which is best had with a man close to their age; for obvious reasons. A man 22 years older is merely using the poor girl. She will grow old and be alone. I don't think that is fair. Old men should show more decency and respect.
Jilly Bean Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I think the only people who say that are people over 40 who are insecure about their age. Well, I'm 33 and pretty secure with my age. And since I made the comment, there goes your argument. Max, before you continue to spew judgements, let me just say that love is the most beautiful thing in this world. If you can find it with someone of the same gender, or someone older, or someone younger, or someone from a different race, then who cares? You will be in love and that's all that matters. Even though I "ewwed" that's only because I am not attracted to men that are in their 50's, for the most part. BUT, if the poster is involved with someone older or younger, so what? They have each other, and what do you have besides your judgements?
kladia Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I'd be suspicious if he serially dates girls that much younger than him, IF you're looking for the relationship to be long term/marriage potential. I've found that usually guys who only date younger girls do so BECAUSE for some reason they're not quite ready to take that step and a woman their own age might require it. However, 28's certainly not too young to be serious relationship minded, so that might not be it. I'd look at his past though to see what his patterns are, because they'll probably apply to you too. This could give you some insight if he's looking for a trophy wife or a long term yet not completely committed relationship. If you've taken all that into account, and it still would seem like it's true, real love - or if you're totally cool with whatever other situation it is then GO FOR IT and don't worry about what other people think.
porter218 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Hey love shackers-what are your thoughts on a 50 yr old man dating a 28 yr old woman? Think it could ever work? I think it is perfectly OK in my book. I dated a man who was 44 when I was 23, and it was the best relationship I ever had with a man. He had already gone through his womanizing days and was done with that stuff, it was nice to have a man with the same goals as me for a change. Let me add that he looked 30, I wouldn't have dated him if he looked his age. I didn't know how old he was till our 3rd date and by then I was already flying across the country for our dates. I think it works well as long as their maturity level matches.
BrooklynBridge Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 hey Love Shackers-what Are Your Thoughts On A 50 Yr Old Man Dating A 28 Yr Old Woman? Think It Could Ever Work? Power Move!!!
Shygirl15 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I think it's ok, 50 is not that old anyway. I'm 31, and have always liked guys at least 10 years older than me. Would rather date much older guys than much younger ones; now that's ewww!
Lizzie60 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I think it's ok, 50 is not that old anyway. I'm 31, and have always liked guys at least 10 years older than me. Would rather date much older guys than much younger ones; now that's ewww! At 50 you won't say that... Then you'll want much younger.. trust me... I'm 56 (in a few days) and I want younger .. not older... now that's ewwww...
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