broski Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 to make a long story short, i went out with my gf for around 4 months, were totally in love (yes really) everything was going smooth, always called each other, texted each other, had sex alot, just everything going well. ended up breaking up for about a month. didnt talk at all during that. finally we both happen to text each other about how much we loved each other and how much we missed each other. and now we are back. the problem though is, now she is so distant. she says she loves me here and there, but doesnt call me as much. doesnt text me NEARLY as much. we rarely have sex, and now she says that i use her for sex because i want it only when i want it, and that i dont think about her or when she wants it. she says i ask too many questions, when i know for a fact i dont and i am not like a pushy or annoying bf. she says that im too needy when i ask her to like call me before she goes to sleep so i can say goodnight. am i in the wrong here? are there signs i should look for? i mean, it hurts that like i feel so strong for her yet she takes everything i do in a negative aspect. even today, shes been away for a few days, and i talked to her on the phone and told her how much i missed her, and mentioned it a few times during our convo. at one point she says 'why do u keep saying you miss me? are u trying to get me to say it instead of you or something?' like little things like that just annoy me. what do you guys think? she claims she loves me and all, but im so lost Link to post Share on other sites
saraispiel19 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 hi I was wondering if your brain was all there. Of course she doesn't love you! Actions speak louder than words buck-o! She leaves you hanging! Common' she gets annoyed easily- I think she regrets the descion of even taking you back. Look I'm a girl- and by the way she's acting that is not love. Goodluck to ya and keep us posted! If anything talk to her tell her how you feel and tell her to be honest with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 People that are always annoyed are usually a half-step away from breaking up with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I agree with the other posters that her behavior is not a good sign. It sounds like she is pulling away, which means that she: a) needs space because she feels overwhelmed b) is not that into you anymore Either option is probably not something that bodes well for you. I suggest you have a talk with her about her feelings. Don't be accusatory or anything, just ask her if everything is alright with the two of you. It does sound like you may be smothering her a tad, so you might want to back off a little. Tell her the reason you have been more "overwhelming" is that you missed her so much during the breakup. See what she says, if she gives you another annoyed comment than I would take that to mean she isn't interested in a relationship anymore. At that point I would save yourself more heart ache and break up with her. By the way: why did you break up the first time? Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Most likely she's also seeing someone else, or was seeing someone else during the time of your breakup, now she has someone to compare you with. I am a woman who was in some sort of the same situation. Otherwise, she wouldn't have been annoyed when clearly what you're trying to show her is that you love and care about her. You may want to give her space for now, and see her reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 By the way, I would suggest not trying to talk sense into her right now, seems to me she's not in the mood. Just give her space for a couple of days, and when she decides to contact you, you can bring it up then. Link to post Share on other sites
Isis1808 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I agree with the other posts, i was in that situation, i was the girl with the attitude and always being bothered. She might be seeing someone else, or just doesnt want to be with you and is trying to have you break it off instead. Just give her some space for now and see later what happens. Dont push yourself on her and try not to tell her all those lovey-dovey things, which apparently she doesnt want to hear. Give her the cold shoulder as well to see if she notices, if she doesnt you need to find yourself another girl that will appreciate you and the relationship. Good Luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I was this girl a few years back. I didn't really realize that I was in a relationship that I didn't want to be in. I wanted it to work, but couldn't understand that he just wasn't for me. I always found myself unknowingly pushing him away, and eventually he broke it off with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author broski Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 yeah i guess you guys are right i mean i care for the girl but i just dont care to be in a relationship where someone isnt in it 100% like i am. im going to talk to her today and just be straight up wit her Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky555 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 i myself when i get annoyed only because there is something that i am not happy about and there IS a problem. Obviously there is a problem here that you should talk to her about. Ask her what is it hat is getting to her? See if its something to work on or could be solved. However, when i want to break up with someone i just get really annoyed and then it usually ends! Link to post Share on other sites
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