Cherry Blossom 35 Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Hey London Guy. Remember that jp77 or whatever his name is is like 20 years old. Take that into account. You should move to the US. Or at least visit, No one will care about your skin. Your accent will be enough to turn all the women on
JP77 Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Remember that jp77 or whatever his name is is like 20 years old. Take that into account. Typical American always putting every one down and refusing to compliment another nation on a good deed. Listen matey, you don't know me or my age, so why don't you just offer advice and stop taking swipes at me oak tree? Now, this man clearly has personal issues, that need resolving. He seems to think he is the victim of women's cruelty, now sure some women are closed minded fools and need a visit from Mr T and his A-Team truck. But it's his portrayal of himself on here, which leads me to expect this is how he behaves off of loveshack and therefore he repels women. I've offered him decent advice, that he doesn't want to hear and won't take anything said to him in account. So until he becomes the change, his situation will always be the same way. There are people who are missing limbs, missing eyes, ears, and there are people who have skin conditions and other conditions and they find love, have kids and marry. Why? Because they don't beat themselves to a pulp over something they have no control over. They learn to except themselves, love themselves, respect themselves and in turn people do the same.
Serph Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Although I know it's done with very good intentions, I think that the answers from jp77 and the like come off as somewhat hurtful. It is that hard to acknowledge the severity of the situation for what it is, in just about the way that London guy presents it to us? There are people with crippling health conditions who manage to find mates, but when they're visibly impeded it's obvious that it drastically reduces their odds to next to nothing. I for one totally empathize with the guy's frustration. No one wants to feel like the elephant man. People, imagine how you'd all feel if you'd be forced to constantly witness the disdain in the faces of practically ever stranger you meet because your appearance can come off as shocking? Every one wants a fair chance, sometimes I feel I'm a bit too short for my liking or stuff like that, but this poor guy has to wrestle with prejudice and people don't even give him a chance to know him. How pathetic and whimsical do my own woes seem in comparison! If you read the guys' posts even in his struggle he seems to have direction and confidence in spite of his enormous life plight, the negativity he expresses here is simply his exasperation! He's not "whining" if he's simply decrying his harsh reality! What's there to answer? Man I wish you can summon your courage and live well, and I hope that lady luck will be on your side some day. It probably doesn't mean a thing for you but I for one admire your bravado. If I lived in London I'd totally go take a beer with you. I hope you can find a way to turn that resolve into something that helps you gain your piece of the dating pie.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Typical American always putting every one down and refusing to compliment another nation on a good deed. Listen matey, you don't know me or my age, so why don't you just offer advice and stop taking swipes at me oak tree? . I know I've read posts you've made where you identified your age, or age range. Where in my post did I "refuse to compliment another nation on a good deed"? I don't recall putting down other nations, anywhere. You don't know me, so don't call me typically American, always putting every one down. If you read through my previous posts, I try to lift people up. By the way, my family is from England and I have spent a lot of time there so again, you're way wrong on your assesment of me. The reason I told LG that you are only 20 years old is because some of your answers sounded somewhat flippant. I think you did give him some good advice, though.
Mary3 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You could date someone who is blind ? That way they can't see your face. But even if they are blind they are going to be aware of your attitude.
JP77 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You could date someone who is blind ? That way they can't see your face. But even if they are blind they are going to be aware of your attitude. Thank you, he won't accept its his attitude and his approach that is wrong, not him. It wouldn't surprise me, if he is actually handsome.
Mary3 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Thank you, he won't accept its his attitude and his approach that is wrong, not him. It wouldn't surprise me, if he is actually handsome. Also OP : How do your teeth look ? How does your breath smell ? What kind of colonge ? I know those seem minor things to some but for us girls we like nice teeth ! Nice breath ( jeez we are going to kiss you ) And if you put on the colonge heavy , yuck ! Also , we smell your lack of confidence , your fear , your attitude. So if you are projecting that you feel ugly , well then maybe you might be , but maybe its all in your head. I know you hate your disease. Have you kept looking for new meds ?
Serph Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 What the **** is wrong with you people, are you trolling? Yeah right, the ATTITUDE is always the answer to EVERYTHING! Or it's teeth that aren't brushed well enough, bad breath or a bad wardrobe! Stop being delusional and be humble enough to open your eyes to the harsh reality. Look up on Google images what psoriasis does to someone's body. Look at the pictures and imagine such an individual approaching you. Would you be attracted or would you try to get away from him? Would you consider dating him? Being seen with other people with him? Imagine having needs and being forced to approach others with these marks all over your face. And yet the problem isn't this terrible disfigurement, it's his attitude! It's like a magic pill that he could swallow up and everything would suddenly be allright! People would be drawn to him and stop being horrified at first sight!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Ok, i just looked up psoriasis on the internet. I can see how this can be terribly disfiguring. I wonder if you could somehow meet someone else who has this condition. Is there a support group around your area? Do they have those? Someone who has this condition would certainly not be intimidated by your appearance. Just a thought.
Mary3 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 What the **** is wrong with you people, are you trolling? Yeah right, the ATTITUDE is always the answer to EVERYTHING! Or it's teeth that aren't brushed well enough, bad breath or a bad wardrobe! Stop being delusional and be humble enough to open your eyes to the harsh reality. Look up on Google images what psoriasis does to someone's body. Look at the pictures and imagine such an individual approaching you. Would you be attracted or would you try to get away from him? Would you consider dating him? Being seen with other people with him? Imagine having needs and being forced to approach others with these marks all over your face. And yet the problem isn't this terrible disfigurement, it's his attitude! It's like a magic pill that he could swallow up and everything would suddenly be allright! People would be drawn to him and stop being horrified at first sight! I believe one poster here said she has a friend who has Psoriasis and has a great relationship....
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Serph, the problem is that nobody here has the cure for psoriasis (and if they do, they're not speaking up). So, since that's not an option, all we have left is pity or alternate suggestions. I don't think LG is here to hear 53 versions of "gee, sorry to hear that", so now we're even more limited. Since people are a package deal, we're trying to find or create enough other positives to outweigh this one negative. With any luck, if we offer enough suggestions, someone may stumble upon the 'right' one that'll work for him. Many of the suggestions won't work, but at least if we offer them, then there's a chance. If one works, great! I'm sure LG would be thrilled. If nothing we suggest works, then he's no further back than when he started. Everything to gain, and nothing to lose.
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