sunshinegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 While it struck outside, It burrowed inside, Made tunnels through Every ground of confidence. For days, it would lie still Until a thought would start it... Yet somehow now I have begun to glimpse The unexpected fruit Your dark gift had planted And I thank you For your unknown work. --John O'Donohue
ianandris Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 That is stunningly beautiful. I'm going to put that up on my facebook/myspace page.
foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 While it struck outside, It burrowed inside, Made tunnels through Every ground of confidence. For days, it would lie still Until a thought would start it... Yet somehow now I have begun to glimpse The unexpected fruit Your dark gift had planted And I thank you For your unknown work. --John O'Donohue Beautiful, Thank You for posting it.
Author sunshinegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 The question is, what is the fruit this experience is producing? I can't shout this blessing with any real conviction...yet...but I can see two things this relationship brought about: (1) recognition that I have destructive patterns in picking men (until this relationship, I thought it was just coincidence that my relationships didn't work out); and (2) helping heal a big part of the negative 'family of origin' issues I have. Something related to my relationship happened with my mom back in March that my counselor thinks, and I increasingly agree, could be a watershed moment for me going forward.
ianandris Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I've learned a ton from this experience. I realized that I wasn't a complete person and I need to be a complete person before I consider another relationship. I realized what love is and what it isn't. I realized that I am a man of my word. I realized that my needs are as important as anybody else's and I don't have to discard or sacrifice them in any way to make someone else happy. I realized that I am who I am, and if you don't like me for me then I don't need to spend any emotional energy worrying or being concerned about making you happy. Your loss (and it's a significant loss. I'm a very caring person). I realized that inner peace is achievable in the near term. I realized that I can heal as quickly as I'm able to learn. I realized that I am a catch. I learned not to sacrifice my standards for anyone. I learned to let go of the illusion of control. I learned to trust my instincts, my intuition. I learned not to let my emotions overcome my sense of reason. I learned to become self validating. I learned to hope when things seem hopeless. I learned that the worst is never as bad as you think it is.
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