FauxVowel Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 F**k her. Yes my brother! Say it again! Say it loud! Say it proud! Everyone now!
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 I don't blame you for being really upset. Are you upset because she was a skank or because you feel disrespected once again? Honestly, talking to her about it isn't going to fix or change anything. It will show her that you know about it, and that she still has the power to hurt you. I don't think that's something you really want her to know. All you can do is be glad she can't hurt you again. Even if you could sit down with her, have a talk and let her know everything you feel and think about the situation, you'll still feel bad and want answers. I remember doing that to my ex who cheated on me so much. Nothing he ever said made it feel better and eventually, I realized there was no use talking to him about it anymore. Then again, if it really comes down to it, you can write her and destroy the letter. That always helped me. Disrespected is the biggest thing and thinking that you know someone and then they do this to you TWICE!!! I cannot get my head around it yet.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 I know this might not be the best advice, but in this situation, I'd let her know that you know. Then just go back to NC - forever. At least she'll know that you know all the bad things she did behind your back. I know you don't really get much out of it, but she should feel ashamed.. You're truly lucky to get her out of your life - you should pat yourself on the back. Hey Rep, I don't feel lucky at the moment, but you are right. I dodged a big bullet getting away from this f**ked up chick.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 You should post your email Hey C, it would all be bleeped out anyway. :lmao: It would look like something Y would write.
sunshinegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hey C, it would all be bleeped out anyway. :lmao: It would look like something Y would write. Nope! Not a single expletive in it. If the man has any kind of conscience, my letter got to him, at some level. Not that I'll ever hear about it, however.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I am so f**king mad, I have to calm down and give myself some time. I won't do anything tonight. I am going out with friends. I will read everyones responses tomorrow and decide what to do. F**k this sucks. I did not need that info from my so called friend. I was doing well and now this ****. I'll wait until tomorrow. Thanks everyone. Fox, whats the point, really, you already know what she is, and the truth is, she probably does too. She probably knew that before she broke up with you..that she was a slu* and being slut**y. Maybe think of it as she was protecting you from herself and doing you a damn favor. Maybe she cared about you more than you thought, she figured she'd try to spare you the pain of her slu**yness. Why be pissed, be happy shes not in your life and you won't get genital herpies:) What is the point wasting energy on this one any more, she obviously has nothing to offer you.
Ally Boo Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Are you 100% sure that the news is true? If so then don't call. I'm sorry. Hope you are ok... That's what I was wondering too.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 That's what I was wondering too. Yes, it's true.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 Fox, whats the point, really, you already know what she is, and the truth is, she probably does too. She probably knew that before she broke up with you..that she was a slu* and being slut**y. Maybe think of it as she was protecting you from herself and doing you a damn favor. Maybe she cared about you more than you thought, she figured she'd try to spare you the pain of her slu**yness. Why be pissed, be happy shes not in your life and you won't get genital herpies:) What is the point wasting energy on this one any more, she obviously has nothing to offer you. Your right. I should be glad that I'm not with her. I guess it is another blow to my ego as well. There is no point to thinking about it anymore. She is gone from my life and I should be happy. I'm not happy though.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Your right. I should be glad that I'm not with her. I guess it is another blow to my ego as well. There is no point to thinking about it anymore. She is gone from my life and I should be happy. I'm not happy though. I know easier said than done, but seriously, you have to see that anyone who is capable of serial cheating is probably not a healthy person, and does not have a moral sensor, or a strong desire for self preservation. She is engaging in very risky behavior. Possibly self damaging risky behavior, so you have to see that maybe the personality type is not the healthiest for you? Risk takers, excitement seekers, are always the type who can not comitt...think about it. Always on to the next bigger better thing? Maybe you need to think about what type of girl you REALY want in your future????? And no, that does not mean boaring, you can find healthy risk takers like me. Sky diving is risky behavior, but healthy risky behavior if you understand me.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 I know easier said than done, but seriously, you have to see that anyone who is capable of serial cheating is probably not a healthy person, and does not have a moral sensor, or a strong desire for self preservation. She is engaging in very risky behavior. Possibly self damaging risky behavior, so you have to see that maybe the personality type is not the healthiest for you? Risk takers, excitement seekers, are always the type who can not comitt...think about it. Always on to the next bigger better thing? Maybe you need to think about what type of girl you REALY want in your future????? And no, that does not mean boaring, you can find healthy risk takers like me. Sky diving is risky behavior, but healthy risky behavior if you understand me. She was not who I thought she was, that is for sure. A few months from now this will all be behind me. Thanks S for the encouragement.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 To Fox and Kiz...this is what I want for you...I want you to find a girl like me...no just kidding...but seriously, I want you both to go find yourself a nature girl...what I mean is the cute, girl next door, camping, hiking, horseback riding type. Not these overly hot party girls. I want you to find a nice girl, who has been raised in a fairly nice family, but not overly perfect...one who enjoys excitement, and doing things, and is active, and pretty...and then...I want you to marry that girl:) You both need to go on some group back packing trips or something, or join a club, rock climing or something. You need to find nice girls:) My wish and hope for you both. Your great guys. You need great girls. You need to not try to find your soul mate in a bar, and you need to find someone who already has a good moral compass, and you need to find someone who is just a fun good person....please look in some new directions.
sunshinegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 To Fox and Kiz...this is what I want for you...I want you to find a girl like me...no just kidding...but seriously, I want you both to go find yourself a nature girl...what I mean is the cute, girl next door, camping, hiking, horseback riding type. Not these overly hot party girls. I want you to find a nice girl, who has been raised in a fairly nice family, but not overly perfect...one who enjoys excitement, and doing things, and is active, and pretty...and then...I want you to marry that girl:) You both need to go on some group back packing trips or something, or join a club, rock climing or something. You need to find nice girls:) My wish and hope for you both. Your great guys. You need great girls. You need to not try to find your soul mate in a bar, and you need to find someone who already has a good moral compass, and you need to find someone who is just a fun good person....please look in some new directions. Hee hee - I'm one of those girls too. We're out there - promise! (stlnsmile - horseback riding? I had horses as a kid and have dreamed of getting back into it myself...)
northstar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 To Fox and Kiz...this is what I want for you...I want you to find a girl like me...no just kidding...but seriously, I want you both to go find yourself a nature girl...what I mean is the cute, girl next door, camping, hiking, horseback riding type. Not these overly hot party girls. I want you to find a nice girl, who has been raised in a fairly nice family, but not overly perfect...one who enjoys excitement, and doing things, and is active, and pretty...and then...I want you to marry that girl:) You both need to go on some group back packing trips or something, or join a club, rock climing or something. You need to find nice girls:) My wish and hope for you both. Your great guys. You need great girls. You need to not try to find your soul mate in a bar, and you need to find someone who already has a good moral compass, and you need to find someone who is just a fun good person....please look in some new directions. This is what I want - someone like that too please. Someone who knows what they want and doesn't want to take off to the other side of the world to work.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 To Fox and Kiz...this is what I want for you...I want you to find a girl like me...no just kidding...but seriously, I want you both to go find yourself a nature girl...what I mean is the cute, girl next door, camping, hiking, horseback riding type. Not these overly hot party girls. I want you to find a nice girl, who has been raised in a fairly nice family, but not overly perfect...one who enjoys excitement, and doing things, and is active, and pretty...and then...I want you to marry that girl:) You both need to go on some group back packing trips or something, or join a club, rock climing or something. You need to find nice girls:) My wish and hope for you both. Your great guys. You need great girls. You need to not try to find your soul mate in a bar, and you need to find someone who already has a good moral compass, and you need to find someone who is just a fun good person....please look in some new directions. That sounds pretty good. Move to Toronto and I will take you out to dinner and then we will see where it goes. ;) Seriously, you are right. The people I have been involved with have not worked. I do need a change in direction. Being in a big city, it is hard to find someone who is not a party, going to bars type.
northstar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 That sounds pretty good. Move to Toronto and I will take you out to dinner and then we will see where it goes. ;) Seriously, you are right. The people I have been involved with have not worked. I do need a change in direction. Being in a big city, it is hard to find someone who is not a party, going to bars type. hey Fox, i hear you on the big city thing. have you tried any clubs, social clubs, or online dating etc? you are what, mid twenties?
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Yeah, I live in the country, East Coast, my mom actually started a few weeks ago and wanted me to go, thought it would be good for me to do something new just for fun that I would like. So I did, and I love it. My mom rode her whole life. I had ridden a few times, but this has been great. Learning so much. I love to do anything fun, but my friends are dorks who don't like to do anything, and of course I have no SO, sooo...have to try these things on my own or with my family. Toronto....hmmmm.....have a friend in Canada. Ah, your probably like 25 or something...my parents would shoot me:)
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 hey Fox, i hear you on the big city thing. have you tried any clubs, social clubs, or online dating etc? you are what, mid twenties? Check out the burbs, you might be suprised what is around you nature wize. You may find riding stables, camping clubs, rock climing facilities, etc....I am sure you are probably with in an hour of Country somewhere, you'de be suprised what you can find if you look...expand your horizons. Try something new...do something you actually are interested in...what the heck are you interested in btw.
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 hey Fox, i hear you on the big city thing. have you tried any clubs, social clubs, or online dating etc? you are what, mid twenties? Hi, I'm 41 and was married for 7 years. Divorced 11 years ago.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hee hee - I'm one of those girls too. We're out there - promise! (stlnsmile - horseback riding? I had horses as a kid and have dreamed of getting back into it myself...) My mom found local stable that offered lessons if you wanted them, but also trail riding etc...not that expensive. Hey maybe you'll meet cowboy type:) Hehe....horse guys are cute:)
northstar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hi, I'm 41 and was married for 7 years. Divorced 11 years ago. Okay, so were somewhat close in age. So, yes the bar scene is tiring.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hi, I'm 41 and was married for 7 years. Divorced 11 years ago. Heheeeeeeeee! Wow!
Author foxh1234 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 Check out the burbs, you might be suprised what is around you nature wize. You may find riding stables, camping clubs, rock climing facilities, etc....I am sure you are probably with in an hour of Country somewhere, you'de be suprised what you can find if you look...expand your horizons. Try something new...do something you actually are interested in...what the heck are you interested in btw. I am really into sports and music. I play hockey, basketball, baseball, golf and tennis. I also have played guitar for almost 25 years and used to play in local bands and play bars and nightclubs. Now I just play for fun with a few friends and record my own stuff at home. I have a small recording studio in my basement. I also enjoy going out to movies, dinner, plays, museums, etc.... I have never been camping and I have never been horse back riding. I would love to try it though.
stlnsmile Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Weeelll, Northstar and Fox you should go on a date:)
northstar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Weeelll, Northstar and Fox you should go on a date:) Haha. nice. Fox sounds like a cool guy, but not sure that would work for either of us.
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