mopar crazy Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious.
OWoman Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious. OK, I like to be independent, not have a man around all the time, etc - and I certainly am no one's domestic drudge! But... my MM has left his M for me, and I have all of that too. He cooks more than I do, we're about equal on the laundry (depends who runs out of clean clothes first!) and we share chores pretty equally. We both like, and need, space so we're respectful of those needs in each other and protective of them in ourselves, so that works pretty well. It's a fit I'd not have thought possible. But it works.
PG Love Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 If I'm going to be with someone, I want to be completely with them. My MM left his wife to be with me and I couldn't imagine it any other way. I don't mind cooking for him or doing his laundry, I'm just happy to find someone that completes me. We can both be independent and happy within our relationship and still live together, you just need to find that balance.
Lookingforward Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious. Yes, except that he did leave her and then returned, so now after a year I'm not so sure it would even be doable if he decided to leave again.
NoIDidn't Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious. No offense to anyone, but I think OW that say that are using it as a smokescreen. If they want MM all to themselves (as I believe most OW do), then they won't be able to avoid cooking for him or doing other domestic chores WITH him if that happens. There are some OW that like the A, but they are few and far in between. Generally, the OW that like the A as is, leave the MM if he leaves the W because they didn't want him full time. We women are nurturing creatures. Cooking, laundry and other domestic chores are nurturing activities. Not to mention the pride we feel when we are praised for a delicious meal or an immaculate home. Its not always the drudge work that it is made out to be. Plus, most Ws aren't only washing their H's clothes - they often have other family members to care for as well. OW turned GF/W can look forward to cooking and cleaning too. Unless they can afford to contract it out.
Lizzie60 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious. I don't want them to leave their W... I like my life, my space.. I just moved to a new place.. MY place. I don't have to compromise on anything.. and I like it that way.
Lyssa Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Some OW like that their MM are M. They don't have to worry about doing his laundry, cook for him, like to be independent and not have a man around all the time etc. So, how many of the OW here want their MM to leave their BW and start a new life w/ them? How many of you DO NOT want your MM to leave his BW, you like the way things are now? Just curious. MM left because he was unhappy and didn't want to lose me. I think some of his posts are still around. I've always done a bit of laundry, cooking and cleaning up and been doing a lot more of that ever since I lost my mother - I was brought up that way even though we have a maid, it's not the same - I want things to be done my way etc. I do feel happy after cooking for my father, siblings and whenever FMM is down here or I'm there with him, he cooks for me and I'll do the laundry for us or vice versa.
OWoman Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 We women are nurturing creatures. Cooking' date=' laundry and other domestic chores are nurturing activities. Not to mention the pride we feel when we are praised for a delicious meal or an immaculate home.[/quote'] Guess I'm not one of "we women" but a different kind of woman, then. I hate domestic chores and do them only insofar as they're required to keep things running smoothly enough. Dotingly doing chores or contracting them out are not the only two options - I've raised my kids to do their share and between us we manage to cover all bases. My home has never been immaculate, and I would rue the day anybody praised me for such trivialities when there are far more important things in life than whether there is dust on the picture frames or not.
Lyssa Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 want their MM to start a new life w/ them? A new life with FMM - it has already started but if it's marriage then it isn't something we want to jump into right now.
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