cupidheartandsoul Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 A few weeks ago at night, I was talking to my boyfriend over the cellphone. His friend beeped him in, and told me to hang on. No problem. It took about a moment or so. Next thing I knew my ringtone went off (which scared me a bit since I didn't see that coming), and saw that my boyfriend called back after hanging up. He was "What were you DOING?!?!" and I had a big question mark pop up in my mind as I had no clue what he was talking about. He told me he heard what sounding like me moaning in the background when he called back in from the three-way call (more like one person on hold while other two talk) and tried calling my name, but didn't work, so he hung up and called back. Yes, he told me that he heard moaning, which sounded like it was MY voice. I had the cellphone on my ear the whole time I was on hold. Never set it down or anything. I told him I didn't know what he was talking about (he didn't believe me, but how else was I supposed to prove that I didn't?). It must've been the TV, but the volume was barely on loud enough for me to hear, and I was the only person in the room. I highly doubt it was from crosstalk, because he said it sounded EXACTLY like me, but I didn't do or say anything while I was on hold! I honestly don't know what else it could be from, and he's been assuming that I was doing something with another guy! I wouldn't even DREAM about being unfaithful to him in the first place. Interjection - Sometimes out of spite, I would talk bad about him to my friends, but I stopped doing that months ago since it bothered him a good deal (especially when it was with my guy friends, but I can‘t help it if I had more guy friends!). No no, not cheating, just talk about him. That’s kinda where the trust thing kinda went down (because he thought I was flirting with them when I wasn't, but why would I want anyone else when I've got a wonderful person like him??). Interjection 2 - Long story short, there have been rumors flying all around campus and at clubs that I’ve been messing around behind my bf’s back, which they told him (at club(s) ). Note how he doesn’t go to the same college as me, so I don’t know how these people at clubs know we’re even dating. My bf told me it must’ve been this same person who I met before him who I turned down (by getting my bf to tell him to quit calling me because I didn’t have the balls to). And I THINK he and his friend (who goes to my college) have been spreading these vicious rumors just to get back at me. Probably my ex-guy friend too, since he accused me of messing around behind my bf‘s back as well, but he denied ever talking to him when I confronted him about it (he was the only person other than my bf‘s friends who got his number when my bf wanted me to give him his number). I got mad at my bf for believing him, but my bf was all “What? You’re mad because your guy friend told the truth about you?” But back to my point, I know I've screwed up a bit (once again, not about cheating on him), but with all these rumors flying around , me talking bad about him (which I stopped ages ago like I said), and how he heard moaning over the phone (which I did not! I don't even KNOW how else to disprove that incident), he's starting to "put the pieces together" that I must be doing something behind his back, but like I said, I REFUSE to be unfaithful to him. Honestly I really don’t know how else to disprove the phone incident. He’s just gonna have to trust that I wouldn’t even think of cheating on him. Right now, he's da bomb because we're having a good time enjoying each other's company, but I don’t like it when he keeps bringing up these things sometimes. Any advice on how to get him to trust me on these things?
diesel1218 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 trust is just something you either have or you dont. Some people are always going to be jealous thats just their nature. If your a truthful person, then you need to find someone who will trust you, you can not have a relationship with out it. As far as having more guy friends, guys tend to hate that no matter what, but the ones who do the most are the jealous type. My advise talk to him. Read him what you wrote here. If he still wants to accuse you, then find someone who wont.
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