brokenhearted1988 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 So last time I saw my girlfriend was about 2 1/2 weeks ago. Last I saw her she was hangin all over me playin with the buttons on my shirt, tellin me how much she likes me, and how much she loved the grad gift I got her. She kissed me on the lips and on the cheek, you could tell she liked me. She's always been this way with me, the past 9 months! I went back home to southern california. (i drive up a lot to see her). Last I talked to her she told me how much she misses me and wants to see me again the following thursday, etc etc how much she loves the necklace (her grad gift) callin me baby etc. Then out of the blue she stops talking to me, no texts, no responding to emails, never says hello on instant messenger. It's been 2 1/2 weeks now, and I just found out she has been sending pics of herself in thong and bra to this guy she liked before she got with me. This guy always treated her like crap, callin her a b1tch, and a slut and a whore. Made her cry alot, then comes along me a guy that really liked her for her, treated her kind. And I get treated like this? Not even the decency to say hello or tell me whats up? So i figure that we are broken up now that I find she is emailing revealing pix of herself to this douche. I'm 20, she's 17 almost 18. This kid is also 17. I... just... dont... get... it... I mean I really like this girl, im hard up for her, and I thought she really liked me to, but maybe I was just getting played? What are the chances a relationship like that could even work.... Man im depressed
loomis Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Happens to the best of us my man. Don't change who you because she didn't appreciate it. As far as the pictures go. F*ck that with a capitol F. I had a friend whose ex did that. Yeah hence the EX part of that. He forgave her and she still cheated on him. You're a good guy. This is a theory I have, I may be wrong BUT it seems to me that when people start dating, at whatever age it is, and they get treated like s*it. They LOVE THAT! No matter what! and no matter how bad they say the "hated it" You could have chopped off your balls and given them to her, she'll still revert back to the *******. If a girl tells me that no guy has ever treated her as good as me, I'm turning and running for the f*cking hills! Because chances are they'll take advantage of my niceness, I'd get attached and then they'd dump me because of the fact I got attached. Thats how it goes for us nice guys my man. Good luck, tell her to send those pics to you, Not him.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 man i really wanna get her back though. So whats the course of action? Just disappear for a while and revisit it later? Makes me sick when I see this kid posting comments on her myspace pics saying "he wants to take her underwater camera with him in the bath with her" and stuff like this... I guess it would be pretty safe to assume that that is a relationship based on sexual attraction rather than a real foundation. I am really lost as to what to do. :\
justaman99 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 I see this kid posting comments on her myspace pics saying "he wants to take her underwater camera with him in the bath with her".\ I hope I never have a daughter.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 I hope I never have a daughter. amen... and her parents think im a bad guy...lol i never pull that kinda crap, i actually respect people. :\ guess girls dont like nice guys
D-Lish Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 man i really wanna get her back though. So whats the course of action? Just disappear for a while and revisit it later? Makes me sick when I see this kid posting comments on her myspace pics saying "he wants to take her underwater camera with him in the bath with her" and stuff like this... I guess it would be pretty safe to assume that that is a relationship based on sexual attraction rather than a real foundation. I am really lost as to what to do. :\ I wouldn't even get caught up in getting revenge. If you've been good to her and she repays you by sending half naked photo's to that dude... especially after you bought her a thoughtful gift... she isn't a girl worth pursuing, let alone wasting energy on trying to get revenge on. The last time I checked, being nice was/is a good quality to possess. trust me when I tell you- that the kind of women that fall for the guys that treat them badly are NOT girls you want to date anyway. She sent some guy naked pics of herself while accepting gifts from you and leading you on??? That's really crappy. But it shows you who she really is... and it's good you found out earlier rather than later. The best revenge you can have is to forget about her and find yourself someone who respects you- and respects themselves. The best way to handle it is to act as if you don't care- give her no reaction. A girl like that will never be happy with a guy who treats her well... because she doesn't like herself enough to allow it. Being a nice guy is a quality that a solid stable girl will appreciate... Please don't take on that attitude that you have to be an a**h*** in order to secure a girl. It's a good thing that you're a nice guy. The right girl will appreciate you for that. Don't change a thing about how you treat a girl... This particular girl was just an idiot.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 Wow just when I thought the situation couldnt get more bizzare. Tell me what you think of this. So she is head over heals for this Cody kid right, she just changed her myspace to "in a relationship" and put up tons of pics of him, and talking all about how he is her sexy love, and the cutest boyfriend ever.... Then last night at like 1am, she sends me an email and this is what it says.' "Thinking of you right now" and attaches a picture of her in a bra and panties wearing the necklace I gave her. All I know is this kid is 17, super immature, she has even said that herself. She liked him before me, but he called her a b1tch, a slut, and a whore, and to F--k off always made her cry. I would say its safe to assume since he just broke up with his girlfriend he is just going to use her, although he always tried to get with her when he was dating that other girl. I mean why the heck send that too me? She considers this kid to be her boyfriend now and they talk like crazy bla bla bla. Trying to keep my interested as a fallback?
backto1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Wow she is pathetic and very screwed up. Don't worry about why she does anything...get away from her and be glad you did! I'm sorry about the hurt and pain but I'm sure you can tell she's no good for you.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 what really yanks my chain is every sexy photo she posts on myspace for him she is wearing the necklace I got her. God that thing cost me so much, I saved my ass of for it. What a waste of 300 bucks :\
Ally Boo Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 She sounds like she wants attention from whomever will give it when she needs it. It was great from you, but as soon as you went away, she got bored and wanted it from someone else. It's a chronic behavior that doesn't stop. When you are out of the picture, she will find others to be in that spot. She's trying to fill something up inside and you might as well get out of it before you get hurt anymore. I know girls in their late 20's that are still this way. It's a form of desperation on her part.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 She sounds like she wants attention from whomever will give it when she needs it. It was great from you, but as soon as you went away, she got bored and wanted it from someone else. It's a chronic behavior that doesn't stop. When you are out of the picture, she will find others to be in that spot. She's trying to fill something up inside and you might as well get out of it before you get hurt anymore. I know girls in their late 20's that are still this way. It's a form of desperation on her part. Yeah I agree with the desperation part. Since her longterm boyfriend dumped her and said she never loved her she has never been the same. She suffers from depression, she has an eating disorder ana/mia, hah she enjoys gettin felt up by guys whenever it pleases her, she's shoplifted (floored me!), she has a problem with lying at times. She has a hard time keeping relationships together, including friendship... So she doesn't have too many people close to her. Maybe thats a recipe for a girl with a lot of problems in the future?
D-Lish Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Yeah I agree with the desperation part. Since her longterm boyfriend dumped her and said she never loved her she has never been the same. She suffers from depression, she has an eating disorder ana/mia, hah she enjoys gettin felt up by guys whenever it pleases her, she's shoplifted (floored me!), she has a problem with lying at times. She has a hard time keeping relationships together, including friendship... So she doesn't have too many people close to her. Maybe thats a recipe for a girl with a lot of problems in the future? She sounds so pleasant... It's an indication of a girl who is very messed up NOW. Those problems don't go away overnight. Most of the people I went to highschool with who were messed up- remain so until this day. Most of them (not all)... but yes, I'd say she is a disaster in the making, if not already. Tell me again why you like her???? I truly hope you don't fall for the crap she is pulling. She's with this other guy, sending you naked pics...and when she's with you she's sending him naked pics. If I were you I'd concentrate on what an ass she is and all the crap things she has done. I hope her sending the pic to you made you mad. I hope if you did respond to her e-mail, you told her to f-off. I'd flat out tell her to leave you alone because you have met someone else that you want to be with. That should be a small bit of revenge you are looking for.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 She sounds so pleasant... I hope her sending the pic to you made you mad. I hope if you did respond to her e-mail, you told her to f-off. I'd flat out tell her to leave you alone because you have met someone else that you want to be with. That should be a small bit of revenge you are looking for. Oh it made me furious! You don't ignore me for 3 weeks then send me an enticing picture saying your thinking of me. I feel so used now. Cuz I put myself out there as someone real and genuine. and she just wanted a good time and attention. Well I decided it was in my best interest to not even respond... If she really is into me she can think about how big of an ass she is being and how I'm not going to put up with this crap.
D-Lish Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Oh it made me furious! You don't ignore me for 3 weeks then send me an enticing picture saying your thinking of me. I feel so used now. Cuz I put myself out there as someone real and genuine. and she just wanted a good time and attention. Well I decided it was in my best interest to not even respond... If she really is into me she can think about how big of an ass she is being and how I'm not going to put up with this crap. Good. Very good attitude. She's one messed up attention seeking girl. Nothing messes with an attention seeker more than silence. It sucks you had to have this experience. I hope this situation doesn't jade you where future relationships are concerned. This girl just doesn't deserve a good guy like you, I hope that is what you are telling yourself.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Posted July 2, 2008 yeah man im so pissed when I see her say stuff like "Oh my god baby.....damn! why do u have to be so sexy?! I cant resist you any longer. I must plead that u ravish my body at this exact moment!!" For christs sake they just became bf/gf. It just disgusts me. Especially considering how she acted around me just two weeks ago? So sounds like this is a relationship based on sexual gratification... I want nothing more than to see her get her heart broken the way she broke mine. what are the chances this is going to last?
D-Lish Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Considering he has used her and left her before... I'd say the chances are high. She doesn't like herself much.. that is why she dates a loser rather than a good guy. I don't think it matters if this guy breaks her heart or not- she is obviously already broken herself. I'm not going to patronize you and tell you to "forget about her". I know that isn't something that you can just make happen. I'm glad you are angry though- you should be. I'd be prepared for the reality that when this dude does dump her that she comes looking to you for validation again. I hope you have rejected that possibility before it happens.
Gordon's Right Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 You're a good guy. This is a theory I have, I may be wrong BUT it seems to me that when people start dating, at whatever age it is, and they get treated like s*it. They LOVE THAT! No matter what! and no matter how bad they say the "hated it" You could have chopped off your balls and given them to her, she'll still revert back to the *******. If a girl tells me that no guy has ever treated her as good as me, I'm turning and running for the f*cking hills! Because chances are they'll take advantage of my niceness, I'd get attached and then they'd dump me because of the fact I got attached. Haha, I think you may be on to something here!
justaman99 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 If a girl tells me that no guy has ever treated her as good as me, I'm turning and running for the f*cking hills! Because chances are they'll take advantage of my niceness, I'd get attached and then they'd dump me because of the fact I got attached. That's funny because my ex said the same stuff. "I am so lucky to have found you". "You treat me better than anyone I have ever known". "Where did you come from and why are you single?". Then poof, dating some other scrub. Women like this need the constant high and attention that the beginning of the relationship brings. They fail at the part of what a REAL relationship is which is the oh I don't know, real partnership part? -Just
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Uggh it still hurts so bad, I'm having a hard time focusing, I've tried working out getting out with friends, anything to take my mind off this situation. Hurts because she deleted everything about me, every letter, every photo, every song. It's like she just up and erased me out of her life out of the blue. *sigh* how can people just walk away like that and never feel any remorse? It's almost like I never meant anything... So far she seems so happy with this new tool she is with. Already sleeping with him. I guess I have to live with the fact that I never meant a damn thing. Hard to beleive she was calling me baby and telling me how much she wanted to see me, then a week later she's calling a new dude baby. I am so confused, I don't really cry much, but today I did. I hate feeling this way. This has really done a major blow to my self esteem, it really is in the gutter, I feel so used and betrayed. Like why do I deserve this? Is all I think.
bish Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Then out of the blue she stops talking to me, no texts, no responding to emails, never says hello on instant messenger. It's been 2 1/2 weeks now, and I just found out she has been sending pics of herself in thong and bra to this guy she liked before she got with me. This guy always treated her like crap, callin her a b1tch, and a slut and a whore. Thats ok. She deserves what she gets then. She is one of the many girls who go after the bad boy, then proclaim all men are scum when the jerk treats them...well....like a jerk. So she'll get what is coming to her. You can take comfort in that fact. I... just... dont... get... it Its all too common my man. Women go for the jerks no matter how much they claim to want a good man. You just have to accept it and realize that they reap what they sew in the end.
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Wow... I have to admit this has been the most interesting week, and this new development has put a clean perspective on things. So I found at that the guy who was an A-hole to her in the past broke up with her last night... that was a VERY short lived relationship. Not even 2 weeks. But it gets better! She got so depressed last night that she jacked a bottle of prescription pain killer pills and swallowed the whole thing down with rum and texted him goodbye and that she was killing herself. He called her best friend, who called her parents, she was rushed to ER as she had passed out and was admitted to the psych ward, she was released and now has to go to a psychologist. Her brother also mentioned that they gained access to her email account and printed out every email I had ever sent to her over the past 9 months and gave him a copy. (99% of these emails were G rated, but there were a few emails that I am not proud of) Needless to say they have not contacted me, but I fear that maybe my family friendship has been damaged. I did take the initiative to at least email her mother and apologize if any of it offended her. So we will see. I still have a close friendship with her 2 older brothers.... but man, I just cannot beleive this stuff! I mean you dump me and never talk to me again so you can date this Jerk you were pining after and he dumps you less than 2 weeks later and your so depressed you try to commit suicide?!!??!! I have no idea what the future holds, or if she will try to contact me in the future, but I've found someone new and am trying to stay away from the situation. All in all though I do feel very sad for her, I offered her something out of the kindness of my heart and always treated her with kindness and respect, and she would freely throw away her life for someone who could care less about her. I don't understand girls....
Author brokenhearted1988 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 So I felt really bad for her and everything that she is going through, we used to have a very solid friendship. She doesn't know I heard about what happened so I took the time to write her an email, I didnt even touch on what happened, more or less a "hey how are you" email since it's been a month since we spoke. My Email: Hey There, Wow gosh it's been 4ever, but it's cool, I've been so unbelievably busy lately, because I've been pursuing my acting career very hard lately. Got ton's of auditions! Well anyways, I was just writing this because last night I was at church and a note you wrote me fell out of my bible and it made me laugh and think about how silly you are, so I thought I would see how things are with you. I hope all your doing well. Ciao, brokenhearted1988 And shortly after I recieved my response: yeah. thanks. um...please dont try to contact me again. i appreciate your caring for me but understand that it can not be reciprocal. I am going through a lot of things right now, and i cant handle any other persons emotions. This may seem rather hurtful of me but understand that i am just trying to do what is right for me and my body. hope your career in all aspects fits you well ***** So I dunno, maybe it was premature of me to email her, still don't know why it's worth throwing everything down the toilet when we used to be so close and even just a few weeks ago had a blast hanging out. Maybe she'll come around and be a friend someday, I left it open, maybe it's just too much for her to take right now with her almost offing herself because of this guy. Who knows.... But it's left me pretty depressed
critter909 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 You need to stop contacting this girl. She even told you she can't talk to you. The relationship you have with her is dysfunctional and now she has major psych issues of her own. For yourself and her, leave her alone.
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