Author melodymatters Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 I was stupid. Welcome to the 'Human" club. Mr Spock can look elsewhere ! "Bless us every one' 'Tiny Tim: A Christmas Carol'
Carmen87 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 1. I will never again let a man make me feel I need to change myself to fit in with society's views 2. I will not lose sight of my friends just because of a new boyfriend 3. No more arrogant men
Ally Boo Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Since it would take entirely too much energy to rehash all of the things I will never do again, I will say this: I will always do what I feel is best for myself and not feel guilty for it. Had I done this before, none of the other things would have had a chance to happen.
spookie Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 I will never again date someone who still harbors resentment about growing up in a dysfunctional household.
Ssheena Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I will never again break up with someone for very good reasons and then decide I want them back. I don't want them back. I will never again pay for more than my share. I will never again stay with someone I am not sexually compatible with and who has no imagination. I refuse to date a guy who sees things coming out of mirrors, who insists on locking and shutting his windows in 90 some degree heat on the second f*ing floor of a house for pete's sake. And, I'm done with Germans. No more Germans, especially germans whose name starts with H and ends with ans. Nope.. Two of them (at different times) was enough.
Trialbyfire Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Oh and no more second chances. Never believed in it, did it once, never again. People don't change, regardless of what they say.
just-a-girl Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 1 I will listen to my instincts more! I have been taken for a ride a couple of times becuase I did not trust my instincts. 2 I will not stay when the same "mistake" has been repeated over and over. 3 I will also listen to family and friends about him more than I have in the past. If your family/friends do not like him then it is becuase they see what you are too love struck to see. They truly only want the best for you. The list could go!!!
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I will never again date someone who still harbors resentment about growing up in a dysfunctional household. Aww, spookie. That's sad. You're too young to never date again.
Storyrider Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Aww, spookie. That's sad. You're too young to never date again. :lmao:
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 :lmao: Ok, it's funny but seriously. Isn't she being a tad unrealistic?
Storyrider Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Ok, it's funny but seriously. Isn't she being a tad unrealistic? Well, I agree that we all come from dysfunctional families, some more so than others, but I don't bother wasting much time being resentful about it. Then again, mine was only mildly disfuntional in the scheme of things.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Well, I agree that we all come from dysfunctional families, some more so than others, but I don't bother wasting much time being resentful about it. Then again, mine was only mildly disfuntional in the scheme of things. Well, that's a good point. Yes. I can say the same too I guess. It's just funny about that because my sis and I are 14 months apart and were raised exactly the same way but yet, she doesn't remember our childhood the same way I do. So really, in a way, I now see what you're saying. And spookie does have a point. Sorry for making fun of your post Spookie. I was just kidding.
Storyrider Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Well, I agree that we all come from dysfunctional families, some more so than others, but I don't bother wasting much time being resentful about it. Then again, mine was only mildly disfuntional in the scheme of things. Look, I can't even spell dysfunctional the same way twice. Now that is dyssssfunctionnnnallll.
D-Lish Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Ok, it's funny but seriously. Isn't she being a tad unrealistic? Yep- but only because 99% of us grew up in what we might deem to be a dysfunctional household. Dysfunctional is so common- it's normal. I think for my "never"... I will never date someone who doesn't accept that I fart.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Yep- but only because 99% of us grew up in what we might deem to be a dysfunctional household. Dysfunctional is so common- it's normal. I think for my "never"... I will never date someone who doesn't accept that I fart. Exactly. That's why I said that Spookie was too young to never date again! Wow, you fart?
D-Lish Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Exactly. That's why I said that Spookie was too young to never date again! Wow, you fart? And you're right- it's the complicated people that are the most fun to date! It's the people that DON'T recognize they are dysfunctional that we should stay clear of. And... yes I do fart. Good thing I have dogs- they take a lot of the blame. (SCOOBY!!! WHAT DID YOU EAT????) (hehe).
johan Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 The things I'd like to list are probably things I'll end up doing again. I'm a slow learner. But I guess I can resolve to never say never.
D-Lish Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 i will not lie or manipulate. enough said. Crap.... should I say that too? Sorry- I think I will have to stick with not farting.
Walk Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I won't make a man a bigger priority in my life then he makes me in his. I won't back down when I know there's a problem... I won't wait until the problem destroys the relationship simply because I doubted my own perceptions... instead I will trust myself and act on what I know.
grogster Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 List of stupid things you WON'T do again in a relationship ! 1. Get married. 2. Date a bisexual woman. 3. Cheat.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 If God forbid something ever happened to my H and I found myself single again, I'd NEVER date a lawyer again. (They really did break the mold with H.) D-Lish funny post!
kladia Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 1) date guys who generally date girls younger than them. experience does not equal maturity. it just seems that way because they've had more time to make mistakes and learn from them. there's a reason they date down, and it's because they're not really ready to make that leap into a truly committed relationship. They served their purpose. I have learned a lot from them about how I should be treated though, because of this "learned from their mistakes" part. I'm just ready for something more serious then they can give beyond a couple of years before I they realize "that we had lots of fun together, but really I'm ready to grow up and find someone to marry" (paraphrased) only to start flirting with another undergrad at a party. well, now I am actually ready to grow up and find someone to get married to, so I don't need you either. Hopefully I'm starting to get a little too old for these types anyways, although i do still look I did when i was in high school (only better). 2) no longer putting up with hypocrites, especially when standards for themselves are lower than their standards for me. double standards suck.
nicki Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Love this thread! I won't: 1. Ever answer a question about an ex again, even when begged. I will only respond with "He sucked. You rock. End of story." (And I sure won't ever again admit that an ex had a big d*ck, even when I'm drunk and assured "It's okay. I'm not threatened by it at all.") 2. I also won't ever again give a guy an excuse he can use for his bad behavior. After calling him on his behavior and asking why he did that, I will shut my mouth and listen, and open my eyes to see what's going on. I will: 1. Keep things equal. If he's consistently emotionally unavailable or physically unavailable, I will pull back my own energy, time and presence until he balances it out on his side. 2. I will keep an open heart as long as I can, and when I can't love him anymore in a happy and free way, I will get out.
Author melodymatters Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 Love this thread! I won't: 1. Ever answer a question about an ex again, even when begged. I will only respond with "He sucked. You rock. End of story." (And I sure won't ever again admit that an ex had a big d*ck, even when I'm drunk and assured "It's okay. I'm not threatened by it at all.") 2. I also won't ever again give a guy an excuse he can use for his bad behavior. After calling him on his behavior and asking why he did that, I will shut my mouth and listen, and open my eyes to see what's going on. I will: 1. Keep things equal. If he's consistently emotionally unavailable or physically unavailable, I will pull back my own energy, time and presence until he balances it out on his side. 2. I will keep an open heart as long as I can, and when I can't love him anymore in a happy and free way, I will get out. Excellent ones nicki ! They are all so good on this thread, but some i can relate to more than others...um particularly #'s 1 and 1 above !
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