Orbit Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 I have been friends with the woman for a few months we go out about once a week. While we were out a couple of weeks ago I mentioned I wanted to take her somewhere that may could be considered romantic. She then respoded that sounds like a date and we are not dating (BTW we decieded to be just friends a while back) but then she said she realized it was just me doing something nice for her. So the funny part is that nightshe told ne that we went out for drinks, got dinner and ended up going to a scenic overlook type place, which to me seems like a date. Fast forward to this week. We went out again and I brought it up to her and we laughed about it and although we were only out for drinks we ended up holding hands and cuddling at the bar and on the walk home. She was touching me all night and even mentioned she was going to make out with me to distract me from something, but jokingly said she tought I would be repulsed. Over the whole night when we would touch she would say someting like these are things people do on a date. So my question is what exactly do all of you consider a date? Thanks
diesel1218 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 To me a romantic situation like that is definitely a date. However there are basically two situations you could be in here. Friends do cuddle and hold hands. So you might be stuck in a hard friend zone. Secondly she might be starting to see you for who you are and getting more into with time. My suggestion is if you like spending time with her regardless, just keep doing what your doing and eventually everything will fall into place.
Ronni_W Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 That's how my current b/f and I got together -- we "never went on" a whole lotta dates . We just "had fun" and "enjoyed each other's company" as often as we could. But definitely, we told ourselves, they weren't "dates"!!! From my own experience, I'd ask: What difference does it make to the 'real' fabric of the relationship, and the 'genuine' fun and enjoyment that you two are sharing, if you call these things "dates" or "swimming" or "giraffes"? Because it sounds like you two are getting along famously -- I'd just focus on that part and let the rest take care of itself naturally...which it will, as long as you can stay loose and relaxed about it. Just keep laughing and smiling and giggling about it, like a couple of teens . That kinda worked for us, 10 years ago.
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