coffeemaker Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 It was a short lived relationship, but had that special feel. Suffice to say, she just got out of a 5 year relationship and backed off as things started to get a little more serious with us - went from taking things slow to being friends. I understand that of course - I'm not sure i'd be so willing to jump into another relationship after ending a 5 year one myself. Anyway, a good family friend of ours passed away unexpectedly on Thursday, I got emotional, and wrote her this email. I'd been contemplating the fadeaway vs. the direct approach and given the events (too attracted to be friends), decided just to be direct. If there was any hope, did i just scare her off for good? I thought I would share a story from yonder year. So here goes nothing. One day, while hanging with “da boyz” in the playground, a rather curious and uncontrollable urge to chase a gal came over me. And so, I literally sprinted after her!! I must have startled her because she ran away as fast as she could. Eventually, i came to my senses, stopped running after her and just walked away. Several days later though, she came sprinting towards me!! While running away from her, I tripped and fell. I can still remember sitting on a lunch table with a tissue pressed against my bloodied nose. Ironically enough, twenty-three years later I find myself in a similar position, sprinting after another gal while at the same time personally apprehensive of hitting the concrete pavement again. I guess the more things change, the more they stay the same. So as of this image, I am done sprinting after you. My apologies if I came on too strong - no one has ever gotten to me as quickly as you have. Frankly, it scares the hell out of me. I understand your personal and professional situation, but I felt a spark. If you felt that spark too, give me a call (1 month, 3 months, 6 months from now). If i'm still available we can start over and figure out how to take things as slowly both emotionally and physically as you are comfortable with. I am willing to be patient. I'd like to give this a fair shot. I think it could be really good.
Ronni_W Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Yipes! Whether or not I have any desire for a potential future relationship, I would want to let the unfortunate recipient know that I sent that confusing email message at a time of great emotional distress, due to a good family friend's death.
Author coffeemaker Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 oh i did - i prefaced the email with what happened - family friend was literally hit by a car that was driving at 50mph in a residential neighborhood and died in the ICU a few hours later. She had three young kids. It's just tragic - the funeral was earlier today. Just made me really sad, but i did preface my email to her with what happened.
Ronni_W Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 I am sorry for your loss. My wishes for good soul progression, and my sympathies to you, and all her family and friends. And extra-special thoughts and prayers for her children. Hopefully the email recipient will understand your difficult circumstances, and not let it get in the way.
Author coffeemaker Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 yeah - it's been an emotional few days. i'm still a bit shocked. anyway, somehow i doubt I'll ever hear from this gal again. i'd be surprised if I did. oh well.
johan Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 When having feelings like that, which every guy does at some point, the rule of thumb I think is good to follow is if you're going to say anything at all (which I advise against), say it in as few words as possible. A long message implies a lot of dwelling and pondering. I.e. "I love you already". I.e. pressure. A short message implies a quick decision and not much worry. I.e. "I care about my time more than I care about you." I.e. no pressure.
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