stolenheart123 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Where do I start... let see last night the entire night I dreamt of her. In the dream she wanted me and was so sorry about everything. I got to hold her and kiss her, so I woke up this morning thinking of her. I'm on day 40 of NC. So i've removed her from my buddy list and the majority of my life. I haven't really told many friends about our break up because i'm very busy. Well today a friend sent me a message asking why my ex had sumone else mentioned in her away message. I didnt even know what to say. My heart broke into a million pieces. Today is our three year anniversary since I proposed to her. Well apparently she is all fine and happy with someone else in a month. I'm so depressed its unreal right now. 6 long years forgotten in a month with her. Im at work and Im having a drink just to cope. I cant believe how much people can change for someone they just met.
df273 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 I wish i had some solid advice to give you, but unfortunately, im in a similar situation. This is day 3 of NC (she initiated contact and fudged me up), but like you, she has someone 1 month after our break-up. she is even bring him to work so i can see them together. its definitely a mind**** of a situations. just curious, how often do you have dreams about her? i have them off and on, but regardless, each morning sucks more then the previous.
kyta Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 I know how you feel, mine only waited a cpl days after 7yrs, but we have to move on as hard as it is, i have had a cpl bad days but am feeling ok again, they change in to some one we dont know, i dont know how they do it, its like magic.
Author stolenheart123 Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 Usually my day at work helps me. until today of course, i got assaulted at work by sum douche bag. But even so I still cannot get her off my mind. I've had like 6 beers already good thing I own the business.. My heart is so ***kkkkinnn broken today of all days. I havent really dreamt of her until recently when I found out she moved on with someone else. It hurts so bad, I dont even know who I am anymore for real. My heart is obliterated....
pinktulip1211 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 I was on the other end of this. I was with my man for about 7 years off and on. I ended up dating someone else after no contact from him for a month (we had been broken up for about 5 months but still talked and had sex every now and then). Then he called out of the blue and I let him know I was seeing someone else. While I was with the other guy I was fine thinking he's not calling me, not trying to move ahead with me, why shouldn't I do the same? Once he called, all the feelings I basically blocked out came flooding back and 2 months later we were back together again. I don't know what I was thinking - actually I really wasn't thinking - my head was filled with BS by the other guy and when I saw through it - I broke it off. After that I realized I want to spend my life with my guy. It was 9 years we've been together off and on and now (in May), he has decided he needs space to just focus on him. He loves me and misses me but feels he is doing the right thing. Now I have to remind myself that he let me go and I can back to him so hopefully if I do the same by letting him go, he'll come back to me. I can't speak for women except myself... I'm sorry you're going through this. I regretted what I did. Maybe she will too. Don't let it bring you down too much - women get turned off by it sometimes and that will keep her away. I guess maybe you guys get turned off by it too - my guy says he doesn't want to call because I'm emotional and taking this too hard.
becky001555 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Oh darlin the worst part of a break up is finding out that they are with someone else, i know you may know this already and im not trying to patronise you in any way, i was only with my ex for two and a half years and finding out he had moved on with someone else after 2 months was devastating, and i handled it in a very bad way. People will say too you 'it will get better in time' and that 'you will move on' and it seriously wont feel like that at all at the moment, at the moment its going to feel the worst ever, but in time (and i swear its not a cliche) in time the pain will dull, i never ever thought it would, but i promise you wish you all the best hun xx xx
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