StarTla Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Hello everyone, so I just started dating this guy and things are great. For the first time in my life, I found someone who likes to cuddle more than I do. But, He doesn't call when he says he's going to, or answer the phone when he tells me to call him. I understand some people aren't phone people, but this is all very new, and I would like to know where I stand. What makes it more difficult, is that his cell phone doesn't always work and isn't always on... I've read the book, "He's just not into you"... and I don't think that he's not interested... how can I make him understand that I would #1 like for him to call and #2 find out where this is going and if it's worth all of this. I mean the other day we were talking about he and I and he asked me if I was just dating him until something better comes along . I said no and asked him the same question... his answer was "Yes, I'm only with you because I love how tall you are" (he was being sarcastic lol )Does that mean he think's it more than I do at this point. And if so.. why not call. I am also not sure how much time I should expect to spend with him, I would like to spend time with him all day everyday, but I know that's a bit much, but I don't want to be too pushy or needy. Especially at this stage in the relationship. I haven't really had serious relationships before, so I'm not sure how to take any of this.... Please help memy friends !!!
AriaIncognito Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 how can I make him understand that I would #1 like for him to call and #2 find out where this is going and if it's worth all of this. The only way to do this, is to talk to him. If he doesn't know what's going on in your head, then he has no way of considering how to deal with you.
Lizzie60 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 My guess is that he's just not that into you.. otherwise.. he would call or he would be there for your call. An interested guy do not ignore or is not negligent about his date.. If I were you I would simply move on.. he won't change. I am just like him with guys that I'm not that interested in.. so I suppose it's the same for him...
GPFan Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 how can I make him understand that I would #1 like for him to call and #2 find out where this is going and if it's worth all of this.If you want him to call you, then reduce the number of calls you make to him. Schedule time to spend with family and friends and cut back your focus on him and this relationship. In other words, get busy with other people/projects/hobbies etc. If this relationship is very new, then the "where are we headed with this" conversation may be a bit premature. Again, get busy living your life and put this very new (your words) relationship in the right perspective.
The Collector Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Maybe he's playing hard to get because he understands women like a challenge. And maybe it's working.
imbewildered Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Maybe he's playing hard to get because he understands women like a challenge. And maybe it's working. Ha ha ! The biter, bitten ? Ironic.
Balthazar Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Concerning his lack of communication,it just might be the way he is. You could test him a bit on this. Just limit or stop calling for some time(let's say 5-7 days) and see how often he calls and sets up dates. If he doesn't call or you don't meet up, his interest is low and you should move on. I am not a phone person either, but you can bet I will return phone calls if I am interested in a young lady. However, if he does call and express the desire to see you, then proceed. CHeers,
diesel1218 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Guy's are weird when it comes to the phone. Especially when all you need is a text message asking how your day is. I dont know why this is but I see it all the time. This is where good communication comes into play. You need to be able to communicate this issue to him and hope for a solid answer. This being new, I wouldn't hope for the everyday, all day hanging out. Until you both are "in love" then take it for the moment. It will either work itself out or it wont but communication is the key.
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