dave23 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 I started dating my girlfriend about a year ago and everything went really well at first. I guess we started off a little fast because she started staying over every night an stuff within a month or so of us dating. She was basically living with me, even though she had her own place to, she was here all the time. We did everything together, and I was having a blast, best time in my life. I really enjoy her company and love having her around. However, back in april or so, things got a little strange and out of the blue she said she needed some space an wanted to start sleeping at her house. I was a little worried about why and what had gone wrong and she said nothing she just needed space. So I thought it would take a couple weeks or so for her to figure things out. Well, she still hasn't apparently. Now, immediatly following the space discussion she started not answering her phone and stuff when i'd call and didn't want to hang out much. Since then though, maybe two weeks or so afterward she started hanging out a little bit again. Even though she is hanging out more again, its not nearly the same as it used to be. She never really wants to do anything with me. I mean we will go eat or something or if she has laundry to do she will bring it over and do it and then she either sleeps on my couch or goes home. She never really seems excited to be around me anymore like she used to be, and never ever wants to have sex anymore. She still says she loves me, but I have a hard time believing it with the way she acts. Oh, and she never invites me to do anything with her. I have asked her why not and she says she just doesn't think I would want to. Well, even after telling her that I would like her to invite me to do stuff, she still never does. I don't know what to do about it, is the spark just totally gone with her?
torranceshipman Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 I guess you've tried to speak to her and ask her whats up already, and she hasn't been straight up with you, so I think the best thing now would be to show her you mean business in your actions. I'd tell her that you are unhappy because of the way she's been acting, that she isn't helping you workout how to make it better - that you deserve better - and so for now you want space and a break from eachother as the situation is making you miserable. Tell her it'll be a good time for you both to think about what you want. If she's taking you for granted I think it'll totally wake her up! And if she's being sneaky and has met someone else or is losing interest but hasnt faced up to telling you...she'll use this as an easy 'get out'. Either way you'll know pretty quickly and it'll be better than the limbo you're in right now.
GPFan Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 I don't know what to do about it, is the spark just totally gone with her?Either that or she in interested in someone else. I suggest you prepare to see less and less of her, get your mind set to begin moving on.
imbewildered Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Either that or she in interested in someone else. I suggest you prepare to see less and less of her, get your mind set to begin moving on. " I need space " is womanbabble for ,"I want out of this relationship but I am too weak and selfish to say so directly . I want to keep you around until I find another branch to swing over to, so I am going to say just enough lovey dovey talk to manipulate you into not walking awayfrom me." She came back to "hang out" with you because her new branch broke. Lucky guy, that..
Balthazar Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 I think you should stop seeing her and move on to greener pastures. It is obvious that she is not very interested, and as bewildered said, her new branch probably broke off. You will feel much better when you are seeing someone new, CHeers,
Author dave23 Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 Thanks for all the advice. It actually happened again last night, she went to see some free music show and never bothered to invite me along or anything. Looks like I need to have a serious talk with her.
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