thanksforthememories Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Seriously, what is it with these types? If they weren't so damn cute, I wouldn't even bother. Don't they know that women usually have the upper hand? Sorry for the rant. I'm just crushing on a shy little nerd who is driving me up a wall.
Pedigree Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 True that. Not only are they cute but they're single as well. On the flipside, you have to scrape the bottom of the barrel when it comes to a conversation. This is just based on who I'm dating at the moment (on a sidenote: Yes! I did it, a date where I did the asking and was not put through "I'm busy" and flaking.)
Keridan Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Shy women are god's mean joke. They look so damn cute, but they are so hard to get close to. You'll have to be the brave one! Good luck!
KinAZ Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Ahem! As a shy woman, I think that some guys shouldn't be so shy. Just talk to her! Jeez! If she seems MORE shy around you, then she probably likes you. So, just go for it. When it comes to the bottom of the barrel on conversation, well... being a bit of a nerd, if you're not a nerd, I can see how one might say that. I don't watch MTV, and I don't have cable, so a lot of the guys who try to "chitchat" with me... I have no clue what they're talking about. But if you want to talk spirituality/religion and politics, or want to debate, I'm your girl. If you're a history buff, I'm all ears. I ended up with a wicked crush on my Poli Sci prof. In my eyes, he's still the Nerd King.
Pedigree Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Ahem! As a shy woman, I think that some guys shouldn't be so shy. Just talk to her! Jeez! If she seems MORE shy around you, then she probably likes you. So, just go for it. When it comes to the bottom of the barrel on conversation, well... being a bit of a nerd, if you're not a nerd, I can see how one might say that. I don't watch MTV, and I don't have cable, so a lot of the guys who try to "chitchat" with me... I have no clue what they're talking about. Well, if you're not the most extroverted person to begin with (like me), it can get difficult.
Author thanksforthememories Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 If she seems MORE shy around you, then she probably likes you. But what if when I talk to her, she actually gets MORE talkative and even a little dorky? I'll try talking to the nerd and see if she doesn't turn multiple shades of red. Frustrating, cute nerd.
KinAZ Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Hahaha, yeah, I've had corny things come out too. And so what if she gets a little dorky? LOL it happened to me earlier this week. :x If you know she's interested in you as well, I'm missing the problem. Are you shy too, or is it that you're not sure if she's interested? Part of the problem for me is that I don't want to giggle (if that is of any help to anyone). It's extremely rare that I have ever found myself in a situation where I was so taken by a guy that I feared I might, so I try to stay in Warrior Princess mode as best as possible.
Author thanksforthememories Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 If you know she's interested in you as well, I'm missing the problem. Are you shy too, or is it that you're not sure if she's interested? It's a long story, but yeah, I guess part of it is that I'm dismissing her obvious signs of flirtation because I'm stupid/insecure. There's a lot of issues. ... so I try to stay in Warrior Princess mode as best as possible. Are you single?
KinAZ Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Haha! Yeah, I'm single, and in the exact same situation it seems. And why would you dismiss them? See, I don't like that at all. LOL maybe because I'm in her situation right now.
Author thanksforthememories Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 Haha! Yeah, I'm single, and in the exact same situation it seems. And why would you dismiss them? See, I don't like that at all. LOL maybe because I'm in her situation right now. I'm dismissing the signals because there's been times when I was sure I was getting a certain vibe from a girl but then it turns out that she was just being nice, etc. This whole thing is weird. What's your situation like? What kind of signals are you giving out?
KinAZ Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Initially, my signals might have been more confusing. At first there was prolonged eye contact. The first time, I couldn't tell if he was interested or if it was just a look of surprise, because he held my gaze for so long. But I looked away, and so I'm sure he wouldn't have made a ton of it either. I saw him staring at me and it was the same thing, but this time I scanned him over a bit before looking away. I didn't smile or anything like that, and he seemed a little irritated that I didn't acknowledge him in some other way. And then, after that, when I saw him coming in my direction, I would go the other way. LOL I would look, but I also tried to hide. But when our paths crossed again, I don't know, I was probably a little withdrawn, couldn't keep eye contact, etc. But I also couldn't totally keep from smiling either. I would ask him something, he would get cheesy, and that would make me smile and look away. In my case, I'm thinking that, at least in part, I'm mirroring his behavior. Maybe I only feel safe enough to give as much as he does? I don't know. Like, if he wasn't smiling at me, I probably wouldn't have smiled at all. If he wasn't asking me questions, I wouldn't have asked him any. But over all, I was a little reserved, and probably visibly uncomfortable. A couple of times, I was turned away from him, when one might normally turn towards the other person. Then I would kinda turn side ways a little just to say something, and turn my body forward again. lol It's so grade school, I know.
Author thanksforthememories Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 How cute. Nothing worse than two shy people who are attracted to each other, though.
Mydish1 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 go with the flow dude. I've been going out with this shy/quiet girl for almost 3 months...and today, after all this time it seems she's finally opened up. Now we get along pretty well, as if we've known each other a long time..feels really good. As my friend likes to say 'once you get these types to open up, they don't shutup'.
Author thanksforthememories Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 go with the flow dude. I've been going out with this shy/quiet girl for almost 3 months...and today, after all this time it seems she's finally opened up. Now we get along pretty well, as if we've known each other a long time..feels really good. Congrats, I'm jealous. Yeah, a semester went by and we barely said anything to each other then the last week of class she just all of a sudden started talking to me and joking around and it was so cute.
Shygirl15 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 As my friend likes to say 'once you get these types to open up, they don't shutup'. Very true. I mean, we don't stay shy forever, it's just the beginning part that's so difficult. But once the walls are broken down, we just don't stop talking. Several times my BF fell asleep on me on phone while I keep on talking and talking and talking.
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