TheRock Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Hi, I've been dating my GF for 2 years. To this day, it is still difficult for her to spend Friday and Saturday night doing things with me, whether it's going out or staying in or sleeping over 2 nights in a row. On Fridays, she's usually tired and wants to stay home and sleep (she is 31 and still lives at home with her controlling parents). I believe she is very depressed, but find it odd that she wouldn't find it more peacfull to come to my place. Tonight she chose to go to the book store, get books and go home to relax. I wouldn't mind if this was once in a blue moon, but it's a regular occurrence. The past two weekends, she's had a shower and candle party to go to. So I didn't see her then. She says she's taking me out for my B-Day on Saturday, but I'm ready to tell her forget it. I was looking forward to seeing her tonight, but she chose to stay in again. I can't help but think If she had some "girly"thing to do she'd have the energy to do it. Is she into me? I think so, because she just surprised me with some nice trinkets I collect, last week and the week before that, she surprised me by coming over on Sat. Morning to make me breakfast and gave me the best sex ever. I'm confused with the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome, it's been going on for 1 1/2 years. What can I do?
KinAZ Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 A year in a half is a while. Have you talked to her about it and how it makes you feel? Is there anything going on in her life which might lead to this behavior? I know that I can have times when I just want a little me time or alone time, etc, and it didn't mean I had a problem with my guy. It does sound like there's a possibility that she is mildly depressed, stressed, or feels like she has a lot on her plate. See if you can get specifics on what's going on with her. Tell her how you feel, and then ask her what, if anything, you can do to make things easier for her.
carhill Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 31 and living at home with controlling parents says it all. I'd be suicidal My bet is she's mirroring the home environment. It's likely a very sensitive subject, so you may be in a no-win situation any way you cut it. I'd voice my concerns, especially about how I perceived her behavior towards me, and then set a timeline for change. Be ready to move on......
stillafool Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 It's probably her parents. Her mom is probably telling her to not sleep with you until you propose. One thing is for sure if you do marry her you know she'll be a homebody.
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