celinedion1 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Well my ex bf and i are best friends. Even though it seems like we're totally over each other whenever we together it seems like we're not over each other. I thought that I was completely over him, however lately when he refers to a girl as his girlfriend I get sad. I don't know if it's because I never really delt with the break up or what but it just seems strange. I know that he never dlet with the break up cause he told me he didnt. But maybe I haven't really delt with it either. Wheneever he and I are together it feels great, and we're both really happy. We want each other to be happy, and we are for the most part. It sucks in a way cause we both know that we can't be together at least not right now. How can something feel and seem so perfect yet be so sad and painful?
dazed.1 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 What else is to this story? Why can't you be together right now? Is he dating someone else (is that who he is calling gf)??? If not sounds like you are together but maybe one or both of you are not willing/ready to commit to each other fully. Are you still intimate with eachother? To whom does it appear that you are totally over each other? Because you said so yourself that when you are together it seems like you are not over each other...who else matters? You have not deal with your break up because you never really lost what you had before...the feelings, each others presense. Maybe you need to explain your situation a little better. d
Author celinedion1 Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 my bf of 5 years cheated on me, i broke up with him on june 5th 2008. We didn't talk to each other for about a week. After we started talking again we became best friends and it was like we picked up where we left off. It didn't bother me at all that he had a new gf. However now for some reason it does. He and i are best friends and i dont want anything to ruin that. Whenever he and i are together it seems to perfect and feels so right, however we both know that we can't be together right now. I need to be single and he needs to find himself. Also he cheated on me so theres trust issues with a relationship. Who knows maybe one day he and I will end up together but it just can't happen now.
sultry33 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 hi op.. 5 yrs and he cheats.. then after a week of being broken up you become best friends? sorry but i think 1/ you didnt be apart for long enough to change from gf/bf to just best friends.. 2/ he is having his cake an eating it.. he has a gf... and you are not it.. i dont need to spell it out do i? if im wrong im sorry but its how im reading it... anyone else?
Author celinedion1 Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 His gf lives in a different state over 2000 miles away, he met he online...he hasnt met her in person. My ex and I were best friends before we started dating. It's seems as if we've come full circle. however it feels like we're together but we're not, but I did hear him tell one of his friends while he was talking to me on the phone that he was talking to his gf (meaning me). He doesnt know i heard him say that and i dont know if i'll bring it up or not. I love that he and i are best friends and I don't want anything to mess up what we have. How can something seem and feel so right and perfect, yet at the same time I know that we can't be together in a romantic relationship right now (because of his cheating/trust issues).
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